So I've got genital herpes, and I just remembered I've had cold sores (oral herpes?) since I was a child, but I've only ever gotten a cold sore twice...
this may well be completely irrelavant but could this be an indicator that I'll rarely have genital herpes OBs too?
Sorry if that's a daft assumption but what does everyone think?
Well, I'm someone who has oral herpes and didn't get it until I was 22 and although my first ob was horrid inside my mouth, I do not get cold sores on my lips and never had. I might get a red dot that goes away in a day or two in the inside middle of my bottom lip, but never on the outside. This I thought and had hoped for, would be the same for genital herpes, but it didn't turn out to be the case. I have breakouts about once or twice a month, but as I've told you in other posts, they don't hurt.
It also depends on your life style choices and immune system and possibly which strain. HSV 1 on the genitals is supposed to be more "quiet", less obs, barely any or none again and less shedding. However, I've seen people on here w HSV 1 be distraught because they've been told this and are having breakouts all the time, like back to back.
I know in another posts you stated that you worry and that is clear. You have very much obsessing over this, understandably. What you are doing though, ia projecting your anxiety and trying to find every single bit of evidence that herpes is not what you have, that it's something else, that all obs won't be like this, etc in a way to tey and control the situation and Alla you're actually doing, is making yourself more anxious. You will no doubt set yourself up yo be more upset if you set expectations for how your body will react, trust me.. I've seen this happen w others on here.
What's done is done.. You cannot go back and change this. Right now, work on accepting this and telling yourself this makes you no different than before. In a certain a certain aspect, even w finding a support buddy on the forum to go through this journey w you, this will still have some part of being a journey you have to bare on your own. I say that, because none of us can predict how your body is going to react to it. We can share what has happened to us, but we can't tell you what will happen to you and if aoneone on here does, they have no business doing that, because if it doesn't turn out that way for you, you arw going to be more upset. I've seen someone not have that bad of a time the first two weeks, to only get worse on week 3. Everyone is different. People on here didn't experience itching until sores pretty much have healed and gone away, whereas I had itching from the start. Does that make sense?
Yes, thank you, that all makes so much sense.
I think I am just looking for positive experiences in the hopes that mine will be similar but only time will tell really haha!
Instead I'm going to concentrate on improving my lifestyle, diet, and general health, hopefully in turn improving my immune system and basically helping my body do it's best in dealing with herpes.
Thank you x
I would say the positive that comes out of it, especially if you were someone who tends to be too trusting, falls for the potential of someone, rather than who they really are and/or moves too quickly into a serious relationship w someone is that, you're now forced to put the breaks on. Now you are forced to look much deeper from the beginning, if this person is has substance and is worth expending any energy on. It removes the the ability to fall just in list w someone and ignore all other red flags. With that said, it stops you from being blind to so many red flags, users and abusers, which results in protecting your heart and truly only giving it to those who really want it for the right reasons.
I have 6 girl friends who are married again after herpes and one in a long term relationship. Only one of them has experienced rejection for a relationship in the past based on their status, yet ironically the guy was still willing to sleep w her. That was obviously because that's all he wanted from the start and this gave him an easy out and a way to not have to exert so much effort to play the game. 5 of those women have all had babies vaginally and never passed the virus to their babies.
All of those friends have had it for 8yrs or more and most haven't had an ob in years, a decade or more or one having like one or two obs a year consisting of one or two sores that last a couple days.
I am the exception, not the norm. Most people who come on here are having their first primary ob, which is why you don't hear much from people who have had it for years, because they go about their lives w it not bothering them much and forgetting about it.
Even I have hope and faith for myself when I had such a horrendous primary ob, that no docs i saw had heard of anyone coming close to my experience and severe neuropathy bring the main culprit, because it is amazing that I can be off meds now. The sores that cause the most discomfort are on the external genitals and although I was getting a bump or two or a sore here and there on meds on my gentians once or twice a month on meds, I don't anymore. I've had red itchy bumps on my buttocks that disappear in a day or two and fissures on my rectum and they only hurt a little during cleanings. Other than that, I am pain free. Oh yeah. The one or two internal sores that pop up during my period internally. I can't say that if I allowed the blood to touch my external genitals whether I'd have an ob or not on the outside, but it obviously causes a flare up inside. I'm usually pretty much done w my period on the third day anyway and I can only feel that I have one inside when removing or inserting a tampon, other than that, I don't even feel anything w an internal ob.
I think being so young, you have a better chance w less obs. Your hormones are more stable at that age and I've notices that they get unstable and emotions are worse the older you get..
It's scary, but it really could be worse. Take this as a warning lesson if anything. Could you imagine if the news we got was that we were HIV positive? This now forces us to have the talk w people and to take careful measures and get tested, rather than let pur hormones drive us in the heat of the moment. Hang in there.. It gets better, but be prepared for it to get worse before better for your primary ob.