Hi all Members if you Know any one who has Depression Reach Out to them Ring them and have a Chat or a Coffee .
Depression is a Silent Killer so if you know any one who has it Reach Out and have a Talk on the Phone as we all have our Up,s an Downs
We are Normal People who just need a Chat ?
What do you do when someone does not want a chat or help? I have tried my best to support my husband as I am sure many other people have tried to help their partners but we have been pushed away and rejected and many in my position no longer have any contact from their partners not their choice the choice is made by the depressed person not to contact us.
For example it was our daiughter's birthday last week no text to wish her happy birthday, our son has been ill, had an accident and in hospital nothing to ask if he is ok, we have all been cut off and out of his life.
Although I cannot help my husband I am helping and supporting others, having had MH issues myself I was alway grateful of the kindness and support of others
I got a text today from someone I don't know that well to see how I am doing. It made my day 😃😃😃
G,Day amber33 Now doesent it make your Day getting this simple TXT Mess we all want to Love an Be Loved now that you have got this message from a Friend of sorts Pass it On and see how Far this very Simple Text mess can and will go so Please pass it on to 10 Friends and ask them to send to Ten of there friends and lets see how Far we can get a Simple TEXT Mess to Go Good Luck and G,Day from Australia Looking Great Girl ? lol
G,Day jackie82937 Yes this one is hard where do i start being married is like a Bussiness partnership you both have half the marrage he Must be some thing going on with Him .
I Have only had one Mate in my 62 years on this bloody crazy world sit him down with the Kids out playing with friends your haveing an Intervention Not to Hurt him But to help him get his Close friends in on whats going on . as you will need a lot of help from his friends to give him a Kick in the Bum its hards to be unhappy than to be Happy even speak to your GP with the Privesy laws now he will not tell you what meds he,s on but you can bring it up with his GP so he Knows about the next time are you living together .
As i lost my Wife in 1993 and them My Son 2 weeks after his 21st B/Day sh*t life is hard what would he feel if God Forbid some thing was to happen with you or the Children Life is to Short to be Upset find a Remidy asap Please let me Know how you get on Please hope i have helped some Ok Goldwingman God Bless you all .
I have a few friends from the forum who I swap texts and calls with. It does help lots just to have somebody who knows how you are feeling to bounce things off and vice versa...or just somebody to have a nice chat with who isn't going to judge you or roll there eyes when you say your day hasn't been too great. I'm lucky,i have a very supportive family but you still feel like you are fighting this alone because Ben though they care,I'm not sure they totally get it. I have my own Facebook group for mental health and I find that and this forum invaluable when I'm having a bad day....
All we want is a little understanding and for people to share there success stories to give us hope xx
That must be very hard on you Jackie. When in the throws of depression and anxiety...one of the biggest feelings is guilt of how your condition is effecting all those around you. Some peoples way of dealing with this emotion is to shut everybody down..so in there own way they feel they are not putting so much on there loved ones. It is the wrong thing to do because it leaves our loved ones feeling hurt and worthless.
Depression and anxiety doesn't just effect those suffering.......it's like a magnet and everybody in close enough vicinity gets pulled in and dragged down too a lot of the time.
There is only so much you can do as a loved one and if you are not being allowed to do them things that isn't your fault. You have tried to be supportive and reassuring,that's all you can do.
I for one am very grateful that you are on the forums offering your support.
It means a lot because I know you don't have to be here,you have chose to be.
Thankyou xx
Have to agree goldwingman.....
Communicating with people is good and makes you realise you are not alone
Thanks Gillian, it is hard but sadly I am only one of many millions in an all too similar position. I've had anxiety atttacks and agoraphobia myself so know how awful it can be, I know I felt very frightened but I came through it with motivation and knowing my family were there for me.
Sadly the husband is now in a realtionship with an alcoholic woman who gets hospitalised on a regualr basis and he is now also self medicating with alcohol, everything he has done is reckless and risky but still he continues on the path of self destruction, nothing anyone can do.
I helped a lady who was in crisis the other day, listening to her helped me too, she is very ill and is engaging in risky behaviour and an extra marital affair, luckily she knows she needs help and knows it is unwise the state she is in to be making any life changing decisions such as leaving her husband. Thanks for your kind words and support Gillian they are much appreciated at this very difficult time.
Thanks Goldwingman, really sorry to hear you have lost both your wife and son, I can't imagine how that must have been for you.
I've tried contacting close friends and his colleagues but nothing has worked, his colleagues were great said they could not imagine what he must be putting us through and said he has changed and not the person he once was.
Sadly he is now in a relationship with an alcoholic woman and self medicating with alcohol. He has refused all help from medical professionals to including an assessment from the MH crisis team and Pyschiatrist.
Thanks for your kind words goldwinman x
G,Day Dont know how you are going to do this But make Peace with your Family because one Day there going to all Wake up to Find a Family Member has passed away and your going to Live with this till you Pass away so make peace with the whole family Now before its to Late .I would Hate myself going to bed each night knowing all is not Good with my Family make peace now while you still have time ,because you Bloody Dead a Long Time and we cant turn the clock backwards live for today as tomorrow is Promised to No One Cheers ?