Does anyone else feel like they're going mad. Feel okay for a while then it takes one silly thing and I completely loose my rag. Really feel like I am all over the place. I am 48 think I am peri menopausal, have started taking high dosage of vitamin B6. Doing yoga and a bit of skipping. My moods are all over the place, I am really forgetful and tearful and stressed. Feel quite alone with it all.
I feel my husband should answer this as he has to deal with my mood swings! I can be happily bobbing along and the most silly thing will make me into a snarling, crying monster or I fall into a black hole of depression! I'm a bit older than you and a bit further along the menopause than you but what you are feeling is normal sadly. I am trying some supplements to try and see if that helps. You are not alone!!
Thank you for that, I actually was beginning to feel I was going a bit mad and that scared me. So thanks for the quick reply. Have you found anything that helps?
Hi Anne. I 100% understand were your coming from. It's not nice feeling like this. My poor husband I don't know how he puts up with me😁
Thanks for the response, will keep plugging along, yoga tomorrow morning which makes me feel a lot happier.
47 and much the same with horrible physical symptoms too
I do yoga, vits, minerals and have started acupuncture
Had 1st night sleep for 6 weeks last night, i think due to exhaustion!
At least we have support here!
Support to you
Anne,
You are not alone at all. I know it feels that way, but believe me, this is unfortunately something that hits many of us from time to time. I laugh when I read others mention their husbands, mine too- I'm not sure how he deals with the unpredictable nature of this as well. Not such a great feeling being out of control of our emotions, is it?
I will say, while it still happens occasionally-it's not as bad as it used to be.....ouch..I admit, I was quite the witch at times. It seems to be lessening (I hope for good) as time goes on. I also practice yoga (Gentle)-do relaxtion (not religiously as I should) tapes before sleep, walk, take a whole bunch of supplements, some more helpful than others (trial and error, but do stick with the B's and magnesium for certain) and push myself to get out and socialize (I'm worse if I don't).
Hope just knowing you are not mad and others know exactly how you feel along with it does seem to ease up with time, helps.
Take care,
Annie xx
Lots of hugs from my Hubble and two cats!
Hubbie....predictive text bah!
Hello I think perimenopause is PMS x 10. haha no really. I was told to take Vitamin B75 Complex which is good for PMS sufferers too, it's all the B vitamins together. It calms the system down. I had a sign hanging in the house called Home Sweet Home and am selling it. hehe. No seriously these new vitamins work great. I even am thinking of putting the sign back up. There is hope! xxoo
Hi Anne
Yes I have had the feelings of madness and rage i am 46 and in menopause at times I feel fine then there are times I feel angry and want to yell or scream at people
then there are days i am crying and stressed and just want to hide away from the world you are not a lone everbody goes through this.
So much so Anne!..... But! It does get better 😊. I have the most amazing husband also who without him I would have given up& with the support from all the lovely ladies on this group. You will get through it just keep talking, visit this site often and express how you are feeling it will help you no end. Sending you a huge hug 💓xx
Hiya Anne
Have you been speaking to one of my sisters by any chance?!
I admit to having a proper good nut-job rant myself to one sister about another sister on Wednesday! Think it was bought on by a 'Light Bulb' moment, when I realised that all the help us sisters give fall on the other's deaf ears!
Truth is Anne, the sister who does my head in actually has long-term mental health issues, big time. When she takes her multitude of meds daily, she's fine. So first hand I see how anti-psychotics/SSRIs work brilliantly for her.
I read on here about loads of ladies who swear by ADs/SSRIs to help them though Peri/Meno symptoms, such as the feeling of hopelessness and terrible anxiety. That's great, but just not for me.
I actually like a good rant, always have, always will. 'Better out than in' as my mum always said. Thing is, I'm one of 4 sisters, all 3 have taken HRT and loved it. I'm not sure my symptoms are that bad at the mo , and the reason why - I'll let you in to this forum's shared 'Secret' - supplements of Vits B6/12; Vit D; Calcium; Magnesium - all tied up in one tab for me = Menopace Original!!
Honestly Anne, I felt very weepy (completely not me!!) and ached like never before, all over my body over Xmas/NY. So much so l'd resigned myself to going to beg for some HRT. But I read a few threads on here about the benefits of these supplements so thought I'd start the year off giving them a try before going down the HRT route.
Also trialled some Bioidentical Progesterone Cream at same time. Result, 8+ weeks later: I'm feeling pretty damn good! Even my husband says I'm doing OK. I've added some more Magnesium to get my RDA of 350mg as I'd read how good it was or so many o my Peri symptoms, and aside from 'Cranky Wednesday Morning', I've been great.
Truth is too, I've done my 14- day stint of the Prog Cream, and today I show signs of a bleed. Not something I normally celebrate but explains my 3-hour blip on Wednesday!!
Anne, there's plenty of things to help us ladies get though this cr*ppy time, and if you feel antidepressants etc might help you, then you take the help you need. But how about trying to lift your mood a bit more 'naturally' with some good Vits & Mins first??
There are some wonderful ladies on this forum who can give you some wonderful advice on this, but know that most of us have felt as you have, and have felt the benefit of sharing our experiences and the advice given.
Chin up kid - no one said it would be easy being a woman. Its a hard job, but someone's got to do it! :-)
Sx
PS sent from my tablet so my fat fingers may have slipped making for an odd post! What with that AND predictive text... ggggrrrrrr!!!
Oh yeah Anne, also forgot to mention: I find having a good swear is great for me. But always out of earshot of the young, elderly and infirm!!
I have no real vices, I don't smoke, drink (very, very rarely now), do drugs and use swearing to release tension. It works for me.
No doubt some Qwack will have already clocked-on to this, and charges some overpaid Celebs a fortune to stay at their 'Cussing Retreat! Maybe I should get in there quick. Could be quite a lucrative business!!
But best of all, as HotDot will no doubt agree, keeping a good sense of humour can sometimes be the best tonic, especially if you're having a good giggle with someone you love!!:-)
To all of you ladies that have replied, I thank you very much, I feel in some small way better knowing I'm not a complete nut job. So it is my intention to cut down the sugar and cut out the alcohol, eat more regularly, carry on with the yoga and hope my husband forgives the days when I use him as a verbal punchbag -its all out of my mouth before I can stop myself. I will take the advice from your many posts and add the magnesium to my Vitamin B6 and have a mooch around for other non chemical things to help along. The yoga was good this morning an hour and half of not thinking until the end and felt a bit teary. So thank you all again, all the advice and just the comments were really uplifting.
Hi Anne. I myself get much comfort knowing we are not going through this roller coaster alone. I'm sure we will look back at this low point in our life one day and laugh!!😄
Hi Anne
first of all your not alone your not going mad, and most of us unfortunate ones have been or are going through exactly the same thing, I am now post meno the anger has gone, the suicide thoughts are easing and the tears, the all day sweating and all nightsweating panic attacks anxiety, you name it I had it, I take some lovely ADs called sertraline, I can't take hrt my body rejects it, I take menopace multi vitamins and flaxseed, I can slowly feel myself at certain times of the month coming back to normal, it's been very difficult and very frightening at times, I could not believe that something so natural for women can cause such severe symptoms.
My thoughts are with you and hope you find relief soon. 😊
Thanks for that, am doing a bit more research and will continue to hope that it all gets better and I hope you continue getting through your journey,
Sunday morning and I've just read your post - a "cussing retreat" is a *%!*@ great idea. I've just sworn at the cooker for taking too long to warm up the frying pan...then I noticed I'd forgotten to switch it on at the wall. Cuss cuss cussedy cuss. Yes, you'd make millions.
thanks for making me laugh shaznay
Val, must be the weekend to get things.....emm....confused.
But it can't beat something I saw on TV recently when some foolish woman allowed her husband to cook Xmas Dinner. All the family invited, and way into the proceedings they realised HE had forgot to switch the cooker on at the mains!!
Now I love my ol' man's cooking, but even I'm not sure I'd risk a big social gathering like Xmas Dinner!
And dya know the best bit of all: they were in their thirties
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Enjoy your day.
Sx