Really need help this time ..

Mental health
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Hi guys , I’m looking for some help with my health anxiety . I’ve really hit a low the past few days . My partner asked me if I could try counselling again and he would come with me ( I gave up in the past ) because I’ve wasted 6 years already and he doesn’t want it to get to ten  . This statement hit me hard , every few weeks I’m investigated a new disease . But it’s been 6 years and no diagnosis ( although of course I feel like this time round my hip pain is different and it will be something 🤦🏼‍♀️) all my “

Scares “

Have been thankfully been nothing but I have wasted a lot of years missed out on a lot with my young children having been glued to a google search and admittedly missed out on enjoying my relationship , I’ve neglected my partner and now he’s reaching out to end it .  How do I over come this constant fear that someone bad is going to happen ? Why can’t I accept that I will live a happy life , what is holding my thoughts in such doom . I want it to end now I’m tired of the worry and I’m not being fair to my family . I want it to go away now  .  Anyone have tips 😢 

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Me tooo :'(

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You’re not alone. I am just about to start cognitive behavioural therapy, have you tried that? 

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Try cbt hun it has helped me alot speaking to someone alone will help u x

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Hiya. Firstly, really sorry to hear of your sitution. I can totally relate to it. I'm 38 and from about 25 to 35 I spent my time worrying, googling and seeing GPs. I went from brain tumors, MS, optic neurosis, and the list goes on. Eventually I went for a totally unnecesaary MRI scan before my fears were put to rest. Now I have some very real anxiety symptoms. Namely tinnitus, headaches and social problems. Try to accept your health and your symptoms for what they are. A sore hip is probably nothing more than a sore hip. Hang on in there, take it a day at a time and hopefully sort your situation out in order that you can enjoy your family life again. I know its not easy. Believe the professionals. See your GP for a "final" chat to put your mind at rest and then get on with living your life. i wish i listened to this kind of advice 10 years ago. Good luck

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I really do not understand what triggers my big change in thinking . 6 years ago I was totally care free and could easily see myself growing old .  Wish we knew how to make the change , I have noticed the cognitive behaviour therapy being mentioned a lot. Maybe you could try to ? 

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I am totally with you on this one. I feel i am vonstanly bein tested for something or have some aliment or pain. I have done cbt 3 times which has made a slight difference and taught me coping strategies. I have also recently started using cbd oil which does help me sleep better and i enjoy mindfulness meditation. Please feel free to inbox me if u need too x

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Hi chic sorry your having a rough time anxiety is awful I’ve just downloaded Headspace worth having a go nothing to loose seems to have calmed my thoughts good luck 

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My grandmother had the same problem. She would hear about a new disease and run to the doctor and she would insist that she had it.  She always thought that she was dying. She lived to age 83. 

I'm in no way making fun of this. This anxiety is real. I have inherited the disorder. Mine just isn't so much about health fears. Mine is about looming doom. I hide it well.  but it does destroy my health. Prozac is my buddy. LOL! 

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Poor you ! I can totally relate to this, the amount of months/weeks i have wasted worrying about my health! so frustrating inst it! I wish i could wave a magic wand , and stop! 

Good Luck, For me , i try and keep mega busy, i increased my working hours, i take my little boy to lots of classes and groups, i start projects, like painting a room, moving furniture round, sorting draws and cupboards out, i love mooching on design Web sites to look for home ideas, and i find keeping really busy does help. 

Dont get me wrong some times i cant focus my brain on doing these things, as im so consumed with worry, i will automatically want to re open google search and look for answers on my Health worries, but then i try and just talk myself out of it, and move onto something else, 

Maybe get into a good series (not a gloomy one) ?? Something Funny & Light Hearted, (Orange is the new Black is Funny !) 

I find the days when im at Groups and classes with my little one, the "Pains and symptoms" that im worrying about, go away ? 

So strange, which also helps me to realize a lot of its in my mind! 

Hope this helps

Your not alone ! Keep talking to people, Message any time if you need to talk, 

good Luck on your positive journey x

 

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You are an awesome trooper, Rosie! I too keep busy. It does help so much, but it doesn't make all of it go away. Prescriptions, exercise, goals, hobbies, jobs, laughter, caring about others really helps. For me, all of that makes my odd nervous system more manageable. 

Also, everybody has something that they deal with. They many not have my excessive fight or flight (anxiety) sensors, but I'm not alone with suffering. 

 

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Thankyou so much for this response Mark . I take comfort knowing that others gave design with this and understand where I’m coming from . Although I did just post about my fears over a cough after previous “ pneumonia “ . I really do hope I can kick my anxiety like you have but after 6 years the outlook is pretty dismal 

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Thankyou Joanne , I really do appreciate your reply . As mention to Mark above I take comfort knowing others understand me here . I worry so much to the point I shake and vomit . I’ve been  crying tonight so went for a drive rather than have my kids see me upset . I wish I could stop my mind but the symptoms are so real to me  

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Hi Brenda , Thankyou . I will download headspace now . I’ll give anything a try after the night I’ve had . 

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Donna this is weirdly nice to hear . My partner keeps telling me I’ll be whinging about my health until I’m in my 90tys. Looking back after 6 years now I feel crazy but everything seems so real . I really do feel like People here are very healthy for me , I need to relate 

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You are so right here Rosie , my anxiety is aloe better when I’m at work but on the way home to my poor family my mind goes wild . My poor partner is getting more and more over it I can tell and unlike you I spend my off days ( 2 days a week ( worrying and being on google . I need to be productive and enjoy my family before I waste the good years of my life . I really do I say this aloud and I mean it but boy does my mind have other thoughts . 

Thankyou so much for the positive vibes . It means a lot from every one here 

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I love headspace