Really need info on transmission rates

I am freaking out. I have had HSV2 for 20 years and have been celibate for most of those years because I felt so dirty & disgusting. I have finally met someone and they know I have it, and he wants to have sex without condoms. I am on daily antivirals and haven't had outbreak in years. I am so scared of passing it on to him and am reading very conflicting transmission rates. Can some help?? Has anyone had a sexual relationship WITHOUT passing it on?? 

I've seen some post about it but not sure, BTW before you do so make sure your on meds snd make you and him take an hiv test and other std test, before trusting agsin in thst way.

Make sure he knows everything. Every possibility. The symptoms. The feelings. Everything. Don’t let him turn this around on you if he does catch it. Make sure he’s tested for all STDs too.