hiii I’m 24 year old female
I met this guy, tyler at the end of September. We were dating and having protected sex within the first week. He told me a week after dating that he loved me. Things were going so well, he was incredibly loving and sweet. He appreciated me and my love and everything was sooo perfect. We were both very happy. Maybe after a month or so I told him I was on birth control so we didn’t have to use condoms. (Obviously HUGE mistake)
The day before thanksgiving I was diagnosed with Genital herpes. I assumed tyler didn’t know because how could you do that to someone you “love”? So I thought I was informing him that he has herpes. that night I went over and told him, ‘the doctor said I have herpes, which means you most likely have it too..’ and he said ‘yea I do...’
I of course was devastated and heartbroken. I feel pretty traumatized over the whole thing.
So he has had it for a few years. His ex gave it to him. Within the six months before he dated me he also gave it to another girl.
He said sorry and whatever. but has not been very supportive. I was freaking out of course. I would tell him how sad I was and he wouldn’t say anything. i was honest with him about how I was feeling, even though he didn’t ask. when I would get mad about it I would let him know. He acted as if all of this was no big deal. and even said that. At one point he even ignored me for a week. As I was blowing up his phone freaking out. I was beyond furious with him, I feel like he ruined my life. I am also very hurt. Thinking about what he did to me makes my insides crumble. I’m a yogi/hippie and don’t think it’s good to carry all that hate in my heart. So we tried being friends and dating after.
I just can’t get past the thoughts of
‘why didn’t he tell me’ he could have kept using a condom at least, but he didn’t try to protect me at all. He decided to give it to me, and took away my choice
‘Why did he do this to me’
‘How could someone do this to me’
and of course all that this means for my future
how do I get past that? Those thoughts, these feelings? I wanted to post so that I could talk to someone that can relate