Hello,
This is a little embarrassing to post, but I'm feeling kind of desperate.
About 8 months ago, around May 2019, a week after a sexual encounter, I noticed some redness on the tip of my penis around the urethra. I initially thought it was an STD, but I was tested twice since then and everything came back clean. I was even tested for a bladder infection, and nothing. My doctor thought it might be stress or anxiety related, and since I went through a breakup this made sense, so she told me to not worry about it and that I should learn to possibly live with it since it didn't seem to her to be a lot of redness. I saw it though, and to me, it's an issue. It feels as though there's some kind of inflammation and get's more red when I have sex or if I masturbate. After a few months with no sign of getting better, I visited a private urology clinic. Even though the doctor told me it didn't know like something to worry about, he gave me Azithromycin to take every day for a week. It looked like it was going away slightly, and when I finished the medication, the redness was still there. Shortly after that, I got a cold and my throat lymph nodes were a bit swollen. Ever since then (it's been about 5 months), the left side of my neck seems tight and it feels like there's a ball there that's quite bothersome. It's not painful, but I feel it. At times, the right side of my Adam's apple feels like there's something stuck in it and clicks when I swallow. It comes an goes - I'm worried it might be something serious, but every time I go see a doctor, they brush me aside (one doctor laughed a bit and told me this happens when a cold hits the body and that I should meditate to keep my anxiety levels low). I know my body, and it doesn't feel normal anymore. For 8 months, I've been feeling trapped in my own body and not knowing what to do. I want my neck to feel normal again, and the redness at the tip of my penis to look normal again. (Now it's just slightly red, so even if I do go see a doctor, they don't notice anything). Are these two things related? What should I do? What are these conditions? An autoimmune inflammatory disorder? Any help is very much appreciated!