I'm a long time anxiety sufferer that's recently gotten in to a long term relationship with a girl. Everything was great at the start - Didn't have a care in the world.. but i have developed some irrational fears recently, and it's putting strain on us. I saw pics on her computer.. intimate pictures.. of her having fun with guys online, and ever since then i find it really difficult to trust her for some reason.. ridiculous really since we weren't together then.. but still.. it makes me jealous and anxious, and it's stopping me from committing fully. I love her dearly, and i really want to get past this.. it's ruining such an otherwise perfect relationship.
Thanks for any advice
James.
I'm also getting anxiety about the anxiety splitting us up ironically. It's a vicious circle, it would seem.
Hi James sorry your anxiety is causing problems in your relationship.Relationships are difficult at the best of times however when anxiety raises it's head it puts a strain on both you and your girlfriend.I think that people who suffer anxiety have low self-esteem and lacking in confidence so perhaps you are pushing her away to protect yourself from getting hurt.Try to rationalize your thoughts if you can.Look at them for what they are anxious thoughts causing you to overthink about pictures from the past which have nothing to do with your relationship.If you can't manage to do that ask your doctor to refer you to a therapist who can help you deal with your anxiety.Also talk to your girlfriend and allow her to help you.
Hey James
The past is the past. Live in the Present. You have been with other girls in the past too? Accept that she's with you now. She wants you, loves you. Those guys she was with are part of her past they don't matter. Good Luck and don't think about it.👍