Thank you, ADEfree. I don't know if I really can win this LONG, LONG BATTLE ! Who knows what it really takes. Medication is one route...ok , several medications, several routes. What if there is no victory? I question my determination...I am no "Joan of Arc" ! I don't hear voices (joke).
You will have victory. That you are asking the question in the first place is itself a victory.
You are not helpful. You have no idea what "I wanted to hear". I did not know, myself. You are not helpful. Why are you posting? To upset the upset people desperate for help? How can I tell my problems without "I" in the mix? I have tried to help and advise others on this Forum. Who are you, to judge me? You are not helpful. Your attitude could be read as selfish and cruel. How sick are you?
I don't really understand your posts on here as they seem to only seek attention and not actual real help. Looking at previous discussions you were offered FREE chats from Joanna so you could truly understand Selincro and get it working for you. That would mean you could speak each week about how it was going and what you could do to help it.
But no, you just keep coming back and saying how awful it is for you. Well welcome to the club, that's why we are all here.
Have a think about trying Selincro properly with help from people who know exactly what they are talking about. More time spent doing that and less time berating those who are actually trying to help and you never know, things may actually improve for you.
Why are you contacting me, now?
I am not berating anyone. I can have an opinion. This was my first try on a Forum. I thought it was an open exchange of feelings. Some types of help are not suitable for some types of people. We are individuals. I am going to leave this Forum, now. People like you and patricia4473 have ruined it for me. Back to going it alone. Watching out for Devils.
I don't think she was berating anyone, Odishon. Somedays a person is just shattered and it all looks like a jumbled mess, everything causes internal thrashing. No logic or reason from the inside or from the outside helps. It will only last for a while, then it will pass.
You are not helpful. You have no idea what I might want to hear. I cannot describe my feelings without using "I". This Forum is about exchanging feelings and helping each other. Or, so I thought. You are not helpful. What exactly is SELFISH about my attitude. I have tried to help and advise others. They have thanked me for that. Are you the Paul and Joanna Fan Club Rep.? They are not sick. They are experts in their field. I am very sick. I am at a disadvantage. What is your problem? You are not helpful. I will be leaving this Forum. I am not well enough to take abuse.
I hate it when people start to fall out on the forum. To be honest it helps me and makes me feel happier about myself when I give friendly support to those who are suffering, as I have and I'm sure will do in the future. It upsets me when people are sad, frustrated, in pain and depressed. And might just think they've had enough and give up.
Please stay strong dear Alonangel, I have felt just like you many times but it will get better. You've come this far, don't give up.
Truely hope you sleep well and feel better tomorrow. Bless you xx
Maybe berating isn't the best word but the help being offered was being publicly criticised and the people offering the help were being asked not to comment. You put yourself on a forum you can't ask only people who are prepared to say 'poor you' to comment.
I've had depression all my life, I know what dark times are like. I just tend not to go attention seeking when times are like that.
Hello my friend,
I've just replied to one of your posts; you sounded okay then I came accross this one; I don't use any medication but have read replies from people who do so I don't know about that.
All I can say is that you're obviously having a bad day and my thoughts are with you. I've had a tiring day but am not suffering the same hell as you.
Can you relax and maybe sleep for awhile knowing that things will seem and be better tomorrow? I believe you can cope, I believe you can be positive, I think it's probably just a bad day......... worse than others obviously.
I believe you can cope with this and have the strength to do so. I think you should tell it as it is without restraint; I think you shouldn't keep things bottled up.
You sound very emotional; we're not robots - let it hang out without going crazy. All our thoughts are with you, try to be calm and know that tomorrow is a different day and tell yourself you'll feel better.
It's not the end of the world Alonangel; take today a bit at a time...... concentrate on getting through the day. A lot of us have been where you are now; think about the positive things you've achieved.
You have had some success today by posting how you feel.
Go steady and keep posting whatever you feel; you're not alone. YOU ARE NOT ALONE!
You'll find the strength to cope, I just know you will.
I'll be thinking about you as will others; get through the day as best you can. Things will get better.
Colin.
Hi Paul,
I'm sorry but my experience tells me that some need to follow a pragmatic approach, some people need a harsh approach and some people need to fall apart as part of the learning process. Alonangel seems to be a little better having read the following posts. I'm happy to see.
In the post I read, Alonangel wanted sympathy; I know what you're saying but sympathy shouldn't be excluded unless it's part of a repeating pattern.
My view based on experience.
Hi Alonangel,
I've read yours and other post since my first reply; it's wonderful to see so many people supporting you.
I'm reminded of the movie Evan almighty. ARK (act of random kindness).
We all need a kind word sometimes, it works wonders.
Hope you're feeling better.
Hi,
Maybe Alonangel may be on the wrong program?
Hello Colin,
I thank you most sincerely, for your kind, encouraging words. Today...I just need to get through it. "Things Can Only Get Better"(song) ! I think I will keep posting. A couple of very negative replies have hurt me badly. Criticism breaks me to pieces. It is too much to bear. I am too sick. The tears are running down my face, just now. Those people seem like bullies, to me. I felt like I was kicked, when I was down. It is hard to keep getting back up. You have given me a "helping hand".
"A friend in need, is a friend indeed".
Blessings on you, my friend,
Alonangel 🎇
Thank you, Robin. I am over the worst of it, now. I hope your day goes well. The world is a better place, with caring people.
Thank you for caring. I need friends despite my "go it alone" way.
Alonangel 🎇
Thank you for your concern, BK522. I know Joanna has tried to help me and I thank her for that. Unfortunately, my personality is damaged. I have many imperfections. I want to be someone better, stronger and in control. My disappointment in myself is overpowering, at times. I do believe Joanna is correct...that is the problem.....I am the problem.
I hope your day goes well.
Alonangel🎇
Thank you,
You sound better than you did I'm happy to say and and I hope I'll always be here to support you as I know you'd support me.
I've no time for 'bullies' either but don't think they mean to be. To go through a crisis is normal, especially during recovery. I've already posted to you that sometimes, just a kind word is needed to get you back to your program.
You're not the only one to 'fall apart' for a short time; if it happens too frequently, there's something wrong. I and lots of people I know 'fell apart' many times before they got to grips. That's the way of things.
Anyone who expects too much from you too soon (depends on the individual serving their time) isn't being realistic. But, of course, I'm sure you know you have to put in the effort.
We're all walking on thin ice so don't beat yourself up if you fall sometimes and don't allow others to beat you up either. No matter how many times you fall as long as you're serious.
Go steady and keep getting back up....... as you are doing.
And there you have it for now; yes, "Things can only get better"
Good for you. See you later. Colin.
Hi! The key to sobriety is always being honest and never running away! This is an open forum to do and say as you please. If you were to agree with everyone...that would mean you weren't being true to yourself. You have to be true to yourself and your feelings. Don't give up and don't stop posting.
Thank you. I am "hanging on in, there" ! Won't give up. Will keep posting.
hi Alonangel - you know it can be a very long, very hard slog - young really do need to keep going and you are keeping going, you haven't given up, so well done. Some people say a day at a time, for me it can be an hour at a time and it might be like that for you. I have to say that for me looking outside myself does really help - distracts me from my own needs. I do hope that you stick with it - as they say "you're worth it"