Not anything hippie related, but after my excitement of doing a big walk, etc., yesterday have had a very weepy day today.
What was the family cat (my daughter got him when she was 8) and when she moved out at age 18 he went to live with her had to be put to sleep today
Poor Casper was 18 years old and we knew it was on the cards, but when the phone call came from my daughter this afternoon to go to the vets, it was a very sad time. I always told her that when the time came I would be there aswell. He was sedated so they could put a canula in his foot, then we all stroked him as he went to sleep.
I am still teary, even though he hasnt lived with me for 8 years, but having had him from 6 weeks old and looked after him for 10 years before my daughter took him with her, it was a very emotional time for us all.
On the plus side I did only use a stick today when I went out.
Sorry to put this on you all, but just needed to share.
Why not share no matter what, at least you were there for her in hers and your sad time, my thoughts are with you, I have not felt emotional yet but then it could be early days for me. I did have my clips taken out today and yesterday I did do too much walking, see how I am in the morning now the clips have gone and my back and groin pain improves, although I have had my right leg raised as the nurse said nice lot swelling in your ankle leg. Did you have any puffy ankles and how long before it started to go down
Thanks Marilyn, yes at least my partner could drive me to the vets so be there for them, but did feel very emotional and to be honest it still coming over me every now and again.
I didnt have puffy ankles at all, the only slight swelling I have had is at the top of my leg around the knicker line, so think I have been very lucky. Also my scar is very neat, I only had 2 stitches to take out, one at the top and one at the bottom as inbetween was a long running stitch which dissolved. Before the operation I asked my Consultant which method he uses and he said he didnt believe in staples as it only took an extra 5 minutes to stitch and left a much neater job.
Nothing wrong with sharing this sad time. I have been through loosing a loved pet many times having had 17 siberian huskies, 2 collies, Alaskan malamutes and 4 cats
So I know how hard it is to let them go. But you just know when it is the right time and anyone who loves there pets knows it is right to let them go.
It is a hard thing to do and you never do get used to it no matter how many times you go through this.
You know he is now out of pain and in a better place. You and your daughter did the right thing.
It is a good bit of news that you only used your stick. See that as a plus.
Aw so sorry to hear this Nadine, I have more or less the same story! I bought my daughter a kitten when she was around your daughters age, my daughter now 28, moved in with her boyfriend but, I looked after her cat 'Bonnie', she lived until she was 17, it's been 2 yrs since we had her put to sleep & yes it is very upsetting, they become part of your family.
Well done though on using one stick, it's my turn to leave one of mine behind tomorrow, I'll take a slow walk to the shop.
Hi Nadine. Sorry to hear yours sad news. It's a difficult time and it's good to share your experiences on here, hip related or not. I had a very loved pet put to sleep 18 months ago & the experience was traumatic and I wished I had someone to support me, I was on my own at the vets. It broke my heart.
You seem pleased that you used only a stick. How many weeks post op are you? I am waiting till mid June to get mine done. Anxious about the op but excited about getting my life back.
Oh Nadine ... I am so sorry for your loss ... I adopted to senior cats (not at the same time) who were 8 years at the time ... losing them was heartbreaking and I don't think I cried so much as then - I wanted to post this wonderful poem "The rainbow bridge " but decided not to - please look it up if you are not familar with it --- I am a firm believer that they never leave you - cry as much as you want - it is such a release of pent up emotions !!!
and what a victory about walking with one stick !!! thanks for sharing - be gentle with your self today ---
Sorry to hear about your cat. Its hard when it happens at any time but especially so when your emotions are all over the place. We have lost 2 cats and 3 dogs over the years, so know how you feel. However, here we go again, 6 weeks before my operation, what did we do but see another dog almost the image of our old one at the Blue Cross, a golden retriever aged 4. Well due to the fact we had had 2 before, we are now the lucky parents of Poppy, who arrived 4 weeks before my op, has been a source of delight to us after one or two issues, helped take my mind off the op and kept me mobile afterwards, by asking to go in the garden, walking nicely by my side, (on a lead) when out with my crutches and making me feel better by being cheeky and running off with my socks.
Hi Nadine, I am so sorry to hear your sad news, the last thing you want to happen when you are in an emotional state already. I really feel for you. I too have lost much loved pets and it really is heartbreaking in fact I found it almost unbearable when I lost my beautiful dog Jackson to a brain tumour three years ago. I still cry for him. Remember that Casper had a long and happy life with you and your daughter, It does help to have people who understand the pain of losing an animal so it's good you can share it here. Well done on getting out with just a stick today. Chin up xxxx
Awwww that must be awful being on your own. Yes its a sad time, but I think you know when it is "the" time.
I will be 6 weeks post op on Tuesday and really apart from a bit of a limp for a couple of steps when I have been sitting a while, I probably don't need a stick at all, but I feel when you go out, it keeps other people at a slight distance so you dont get bumped into lol
You will be fine, it is honestly not as bad as I thought it would be.
Thank you for your kind words. Yes there have been a few tears shed, but we have to go throught the grieving process, even for pets. I have actually seen the poem, although I made one up myself and put it on Facebook with a photo of him, this is what I put :-
Thank you and yes it is hard, but he was 18 and having kidney problems and the vet also thought thyroid problems too. When I met my daughter at the vets, he was just layed in the cat carrier looking so so sad, his eyes said it all and we knew it was time.
We have lots of good and happy memories to look back on, so trying to think of those.
Thank you for listening to me, really appreciate your comments and everyone elses.
Well! I did even better than 1 stick! I didn't even go out! I didn't fall asleep until 2am, woke up at 7 am in such a bad mood! Needless to say I've done zilch! Not even bothered getting dressed, I was in one of those 'what's the point days'. The sun has been shining for most of the day, my family & friends all down the pub for a non stop musical, & my son was in it, I wouldn't of managed to sit on the low beer garden benches! Been in & out of bed all day picking on food. Now my husband who has returned early from the pub is cooking dinner for which I have no appetite for, I'm on my 2nd glass of wine so I would think I may go to bed again soon, just for a change! Here's hoping I get out the right side of the bed tomorrow! I'll keep you posted.
I too didn't have a very good night my hubby was very restless and he bad tempered if I had a spare bed I would of slept there unfortunately my middle bedroom houses a mechanical pinball he is doing up and a slot machine couldn't even get on the setter because the dog (greyhound) classes it as her other bed. We're you in a lot of pain?
The flow is going....the wine that is! I feel bad now, here he is ( hubby) comes home from the pub early, works all hours God sends, never moans, has never taken a day off work in his life, & you've got me!! Had several operations over the last 20yrs....broken leg, hysterectomy, growth on big toe, wisdom teeth now this & no doubt soon to follow....the other hip & both knees due to arthritis! I'm a walking disaster! I've just shouted to him to stick another bottle in the fridge!!
Hi Marilyn, yes the pain is always in my lower back, and then I get the after shock of lying down from a sitting or walking mode, I feel every rip through the muscle!! I have a 3 bed house, both my son & daughter have flown the nest now so I have a choice of where I sleep. If it's not pain keeping me awake it's the heat in the house! My legs & feet are always swollen by the time I take myself off to bed. You'll have to tell your hubby to clear that spare room if he wants rest, yours is more important! Well keep each other updated!!
