Saddest part of Peri or Post menopause symtoms is no one understands u..not ur Dr not ur family members sometimes. From last year i am consulting sooo many Dr . Had soo many tests and scans but my Drs donot understand my problem. GP told consult Gyn and gyn told its not peri consult Neurologist ..if u have head problems ( vibrations , heavyness and migranes headaches ) go and see him. GP told its in ur mind...give me pills for stress and sleeping this round is going on and on from last year. but no Dr understands me 😭 Sometimes my family also become fed up by hearing i am not feeling fine...i have sooo many symtoms everyday.. most of ladies of my age ( my friends ) r doing fine .enjoying life to fullest....doing parties...outing and soo on.....i know every one is diffrent ...But Still .. Feeling depressed by seeing my self that i left my teaching job because of off balance and dizziness symtoms 😭 I am in home from long time...donot feel like going out ..i am thinking where my life is heading ... I think at this stage of life ur Physically and emotionally weak....WHAT ARE YOUR VIEWS IN THIS ??how u all feel and tackle life in this phase . Thanks to all ladies of this forum for boosting my moral support and giving me hope that HANG IS THERE...😀 I am sooo Lucky to be part of this group . u all beautiful ladies always read my problems and help me out..THANK U 🙏🙏 Hang is there...its Harmones .....its long tunnel with light on other end BECOMES my everyday MANTRA........i keep reminding myself every morning . Waiting for better days. Thanks Friends Love u all tk
Yes I agree noone understands (except this forum) so I just keep to myself.. I listed my worse symtom as aniexty BUT now it's this period thing.. I feel dead. Weak, dizzy, slow, vision is blurry.. I slept last night but extremly exhausted today...joints ache, etc.. And now I'm panicky because I can't get anything done-my mind just doesn't want to function.Is this PMS or peri but regardless it's tough. It's Easter next weekend and I have to face family-- UGH Just feel like hiding out!! All they do is ask 'what's wrong with you'? I just started spotting so HOPEFULLY I will get my energy back when it's over!! I just don't see how women with full time jobs with a family can do this? How do they do it? There is no way I could ever plan a big party and feel happy/excited about it.. They must have a good support system-- maybe that's the key. Thanks for allowing me to ramble-- just feeling really crappy now..
Yep, not one of my friends understands me and my family just kind of glaze over now if I say how I feel.
Most doctors aren't clued up in my area unless you are happy with 'one size fits all' synthetic HRT... I am progesterone intolerant and they have no idea what to do with me now - there again, even I don't know what to do with me either!!
We just gotta' ride it out and try to find coping strategies for our day to day lives... find a little something that gives us joy and go with it. This group is one ❤.
Try to enjoy a little something every day, rest when and if you can and eat a little chocolate ☺.
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Anxiety is my biggest issue as well. I am seeing a therapist. She does understand but I can't be with her all the time.
I do the things I have to do, but never with a clear head, certainly not with a happy mood or looking forward to anything.
It is hard to take . I am 56. Unfortunately spotted a few months back. GYN told me to begin HRT or see my GP for antideppresants. I refused to begin HRT. Saw my GYN who prescribed an antidepressant (I obssessively read the internet and didnt begin taking) so he presribed a different one and I haven't started that one either.
Agree with kelly regarding Easter weekend. Not at all interested in dealing with this. I will just have to pretend for the hours I have to be out and about.
Anxiety is my biggest issue as well. I am seeing a therapist. She does understand but I can't be with her all the time.
I do the things I have to do, but never with a clear head, certainly not with a happy mood or looking forward to anything.
It is hard to take . I am 56. Unfortunately spotted a few months back. GYN told me to begin HRT or see my GP for antideppresants. I refused to begin HRT. Saw my GYN who prescribed an antidepressant (I obssessively read the internet and didnt begin taking) so he presribed a different one and I haven't started that one either.
Agree with kelly regarding Easter weekend. Not at all interested in dealing with this. I will just have to pretend for the hours I have to be out and about.
You ramble on darling, we're all with you. It's the joint aching, brain fog/forgetfulness and total exhaustion that gets me... it's never ending!!! Maybe we'll all have a better day tomorrow... who am i kidding, like i just said - it's never ending! We'll all just have to stick to the 'hope' option for a better day tomorrow!! Sending love . xxxx
Hi Sunaina I couldve written everything you did, most likely I have. I go from crying, anger and rage to feeling like im on drugs to over stimulation, panic, anxiety, those are just the mental symptoms the physical are too many . Its a non stop cycle that I wish would end even if the end is not in my favor. I dont know how to live this way myself. I so wish I had some advice for you and everyone else who comes on here. My family and friends think i need to be on medication, that this is years of untreated depression anxiety ocd and so on . Same as you- been to so many drs so many tests and supplements. I have to work and now I have to work a lot more hours. Have so many things coming up, ive already rsvp'd no to two family bridal showers. My mother passed away 8 years ago, she gave me a prayer card - Angel of hope prayer, I say it everyday Angel of hope my guardian dear to whom my love entrusts me near ever this day be at my side to light and guard to bless and guide. Just try and hang in there the best you can. Sometimes the ppl around you arent going to understand and theres nothing you can do about that- just focus on you best you can i know its hard. This is a place you can come to and theres no judgment from anyone. love hugs and kisses to all you ladies I hope the light at the end of the tunnel gets brighter each day and ill say to you what my one friend says to me- ill be waiting holding sunglasses for you:)
You are right. And doctors SHOULD understand. In the UK I hear they now have menopause leave. But the US sucks when it comes to healthcare. We still don't even have maternity leave. And it's tough when other women you know had an easy time and so think you're crazy or exaggerating because they didn't have the same experience. That includes my family and friends the same age as me not even close to menopause, despite eating garbage all day, tons of booze, sugar, wheat, you name it. And me all my decades of healthy eating, no booze, no sugar, no wheat. I just read obese women go through menopause later in a study. So now I should have been obese? WTF? You are right these boards are a lifeline. It makes me wonder if something has made peri and menopause worse for this generation? Something in our food, air, evolution, who knows?
I love that prayer! Thank you. xxx
ohhhh myyy goodness!!!! did i write this and my menopause brain forgot!?!??you hit the nail right on the head!!!! this is exactly how i feel!!!!!! :-(
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seriously this is how i feel everday for the past year . one symptom goes another pops up . feel lost fedup just feel like a body living no interst in doing anything . now i have stomach issues pain all over . All i do is read forums to keep me sane . i wish there was a magic pill . Am just hanging in there like the rest of you . x
Anxiety is worst for me too and the first symptom I had. Esp bad since I already had PTSD. And my OBGYN just treats me like I'm crazy, it's all in my head, not related to my hormones when I KNOW based on tests it started getting bad when I hit peri and my progesterone tanked.
Of course! ❤❤
I cant believe how much you all sound like you're living my life (i feel terrible about that) i don't understand why I'm so different from my mother and sister and grandmother. My mum said she had one or two slight feelings of flushes and then her cycle stopped and that was it, my sister is 4yrs older than me and she doesn't know if she's going through it yet or not and my grandmother didn't either. why do we cop all this unbelievable pain and suffering ? i eat healthy, and i don't drink or smoke. I am on my own almost 24/7 i stay in my house despite being surrounded by water. I want to do things but i just cant. I gave in to HRT and an antidepressant and an anticonvulsant to stop the burning and head shocks and sleeping medication to stop the insomnia and stop me pacing the house crying having panic attacks. The HRT stopped the severe bladder pain and urgency and hot flushes and severe over the top anxiety. unfortunately these medications have made me gain weight despite eating healthy and small portions (there is always a down side) I'm aware of the risks on these things but to be honest, i had no quality of life before them. I wish i didn't have to take them and i tried to lower the dose and then stop but the pain and symptoms were so severe i couldn't. so this is my life, my Dr has given up on me and doesn't even believe peri or meno cause any pain at all.
OMG you are me!! How old are you? Same for me. 47 but started around 45. Horrible anxiety and weird periodic UTI-like issues but no UTI. I have to take sleeping pills every night to sleep. My first symptom was terrible sleep anxiety. Like walking up every hour like someone shook you awake in a panic. Normal sleeping pills didn't help so on a new one. OBGYN thinks anxiety is in my head like I'm an idiot. Like I don't know the difference between what is normal for me or normal life anxiety and when things are going wrong with my body. Clearly it's low progesterone as I was fine until a few years ago. Tried taking progesterone because doc says I'm "crazy low" but just made me gain a ton of weight and a fibroid grow to a problematic size (whole other fun peri issue). I'm also on my own. How is this not in the news? How are doctors not working on this and people not talking about it more? Is it because most women like my family and friends too claim they have no issues? But then I see all the women on these boards. And like you I eat super healthy, have for DECADES. While overweight unhealthy friends and family claim few if any symptoms or not even near menopause at same age. Is everyone else suffering but shamed and embarrassed by men, the media, and those blessed women with no issues that make you feel defective? We need to start a movement to get help but I'm not sure how. At least the UK has menopause leave now so some folks are paying attention.
Exactly, I hear you.. I don't understand why there isn't more information and studies out there but its like the subject is taboo or not as bad as we are making it out to be. I am 49 but this has been going on for over 5 yrs more if i count the odd symptoms i can remember leading up to the final melt down. My sister just suggested I try and organize something that will lead to more awareness and get information out there but i honestly don't know the first thing on how to, but it really does need doing. I mean how am i supposed to get enough proof of how we are all suffering for the medical profession to start taking it seriously and to some that it even exists? Oh and by the way the anxiety that wakes you in the night or keeps you from sleeping is more extreme than normal anxiety and it is most definitely a part of Peri and meno that one is a proven symptom.
Your sister is right though, there defo needs to be more info/support out there and I've been thinking myself that I wish I could do something.. I like you starred peri and then meno around 5 or so years ago but as I'm only 47 now my doctor first of all dismissed it as being the start of menopause... until I persisted that my family has an early menopause history. We should not have to fight to be listened to and given support especially when we feel do bad. I know all docs etc aren't so but there's defo a lack of understanding in certain areas. :( xx
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62 and still getting symptoms, hot flushes, migraine type headaches, I have been suffering extreme health anxiety recently and sleepless nights, but for some reason a few days ago the anxiety just sort of lifted, and I am sleeping a bit better, the anxiety is still there but not that crippling sort, I told my daughter in law and we both agree that it sounds like hormones in the way that it just lifted! I can deal with dips and dives, it gives me confidence that perhaps it will eventually come to an end lol Hold on in there ladies
thank you. yes it would be good to get something happening but finding accredited proof of what we go through is pretty difficult. most sites keep repeating the most common issues, not what is coming up for us time and time again. all of us are being tested with MRI's ct scans blood tests etc all mostly coming out normal. no MS no Lupus etc all at the stage of peri and meno... some of us are more severe than others but we each have several commonalities. if you look at the women replying on this site alone there are hundreds of us . it just blows me away.