so I’ve been experiencing vaginal discomfort for over 2 months now, I haven’t really had any herpes-related symptoms other than slight vaginal itching and a sore throat that has persisted for about a month now. My boyfriend, however, has experienced some penile irregularities. It’s been consistent for the past 3 months, he’s gotten one bump once a month. The bump initially looks like nothing and does not appear to have fluid in it, it never ulcerates, but it does scab over before it goes away. He’s not as educated as I am about these things so he doesn’t suspect herpes and hasn’t been to a doctor, but because of the reoccurence of his bumps and the way that they scab, I’m terrified that I might have given him herpes and not known I had it. To my knowledge, none of my previous partners had anything but I know that herpes can lay dormant. Honestly, I haven’t slept with anyone but my boyfriend in 8 months, and we started having these issues about 3 months ago. He’s only had one other partner and they were virgins when they met, so he had to have gotten it from me if he has it, and I don’t know how that will affect our relationship. I know that it’s not my fault because I didn’t know, but I’m still incredibly scared he’ll resent me and our relationship will end. A part of me wants to get tested in case it’s negative and I can stop worrying, but I realistically know at this point it will be positive because of the symptoms he’s experiencing and I am terrified. I don’t know if I should talk to him about it or wait until a doctor recommends both or one of us to be tested. I am more terrified of losing him than of having herpes. I just need advice.
does not have to be anything sexual related at all
Mariah
im literally going through the same thing , i dont have any signs of having herpes at all but my boyfriend has , we just started having sex and then boom his dick is all broken out and i have one pimple on my butt down from my vagina, he has been to his self but my ex was a lil whore so no telling whats going on
I really dont know what to do 
I’d only had 2 partners before him, one being my first love, and the other I used condoms with most of the time. I haven’t gotten a diagnosis yet but I feel like I know I have it and I’m feeling very “why me” as most of my friends have had over 15 sexual partners and hardly ever use protection and are unconcerned with STIs. It seems unfair that I’ve been the most careful yet I’m experiencing issues
i just am commenting to say i feel your pain . i have currently been having issues for 3 months , the doctors havent been able to tell me whats wrong but im so terrified its herpes and ive also been very careful. i feel the why me so much . im having trouble trying to figure it out while seeing someone new , i dont know how to navigate it. ive been ipen with him that i dont know what it is, but im just avoiding sex at all costs lately and its just so hard when you feel like youve been careful . 