I used to go out more before I got ilestomy on my own. Now, my dad takes out to the shops and when I visit my pal. I only visit her once a month. What's wrong with me? Has anyone help
Lacking confidence in yourself is a terrible thing, as I well know. I grew up with a feeling of inferiority, that nobody would want to talk to me, or have anything to do with me. I did have friends, but felt I had to agree with everything they said. I didn't have the confidence to stand up for myself. I found that it got less as I got older, I tended not to be too bothered with what people thought of me. It wasn't a sudden revelation or anything, it just happened. My advice to you, stephany, is to just be youself. Don't try to be something you are not comfortable with. I don't know how old you are, i am 65 [man] If you are a teenager, then you are going through what most of us went through at that age. Posting here is a good start. Also, do you take any meds for depression at all, I do, it's no shame these days. keep talking we will try to help you.
Just try to imagine if you were the only person on this planet for thousands of miles, nobody to praise you, or mistreat you. Nobody to see, nobody to take you our to the shops nobody to reflect their opinion they have of you or even one small gesture that you try t understand what it means. Keep in mind that it could be a misunderstanding also.I have been in crowds and was expected to the the right thing in a perfect manner. That means three levels of reflections; 1. the boss 2. co workers/or others involved and 3. on lookers....can add family when all find out about it. Anyway did my best but still lacked the 100% sure thing feeling. Then I said F...it all and back packed for over a month in Alaska. Only met up with a few strangers now and then. I was alone. Nobody to see, nobody to depend on. Had some moments no doubt but I must have done somethings correctly to come out of it. it took sometime to heal myself that way. That was forty years ago, now and then I need a tune upand a booster shot of self confidence. It is never easy, but it is do-able. I cannot comment on the ilestomy. Meds helped me, in here helps me. Emotions Anonymous helped, a twelve step program, check it out on line. Good luck......
Hello Stephaney. I expect your operation has made you self conscious.
I don't know if you have been diagnosed with depressi0on, but assume so, as you are posting on the depression site. Well depression does take away self confidence. Are you a young person?
You say you are on your own, so does that mean you live alone? I am glad you have the support of your Dad.
I would love to help you, and perhaps you can explain what kind of help you are looking for.
I am elderly and live alone, and it can be difficult at times, I know.