Sex and HSV help!*

Sexual health
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Hi all.. I’m a 24yr old F. I am 98% sure I have HSV-2 from having unprotected sex back in december from someone who didn’t tell me they had it. I am awaiting bloodwork but until them im going crazy and depressed about my sex life. I just have a few questions and I would love to hear all of your experience with HSV and sex.

my first question would be:

  1. if no sores are present and you have sex without a condom can your partner get it.. what are the chances? is there anyone that has had unprotected sex with HSV and didn’t give it to their man?
  2. ^ what about with a condom!!?

PLEASE i need answers

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Hi Christina. I wouldnt jump to conclusions yet - you sound like youre stressing yourself out?

If the infected partner does not have sores, the rate in transmission is low <10% and it is further reduced 30-50% if condom is used.

Why do you think you have it? Did you present with sores?

Also if you had sex in Dec then your Jan blood test is not reliable! you need to wait 12-16 weeks after exposure to get an accurate blood test.

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Hi Christina. My posts has all the details but in summary I did have protected sex, unprotected oral sex performed on me, and unprotected sex (9-1-19) with a man I was dating. In October I found out he was positive for herpes 1 & 2 after he did his std testing.

I did IGG blood work at 13 weeks and was negative. Swabs and other bloodwork tests are negative. Going back in March to do my 6 months std full panel testing.

So in summary I’ve had multiple tests done and still negative for herpes 1&2.

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I was diagnosed with genital HSV 2 in early 2016. I believe I picked it up having sex with a female despite using a condom.
Condoms only offer very limited defense against transmission.

I don’t think average transmission rates are very helpful. My understanding is that during an outbreak it is ridiculously easy to pass on, but that it is seldom passed on between outbreaks.
Since my diagnosis, I’ve been having unprotected sex with several partners and never passed it on.
However I am very vigilant for any suspicion of an outbreak and refuse to have sex at any sign of trouble.