I have the chance to finally go through my shattered past but don't feel confident enough to do this now, giving that I'll have to start again. Where do I start and how, had some counselling before but clearly wasn't enough. Please help I'm 44 and still scared!
First thing i would say is that psychotherapy is more effective than councelling. Couunelling has its place, it can be quite supportive - but its generally more of a conversation than anything too indepth, so if you can - opt for proper therapy. Other than that, anything you say to either will be confidential, theres no judgement and you only need tell them what you want. If you feel you dont want to talk to them, then theres really no point in going, itll only waste your time and theirs - they can help if you let them, but you have to open up first
Nur Sie können entscheiden, ob Sie denken/empfinden, dass es das Richtige für Sie ist, aber ich dachte, der ganze Sinn dabei sei, sich in eine bessere Lage zu versetzen, damit Sie die Adoption vorantreiben können?
Wenn Sie sich dagegen entscheiden und dann von ihrer Liste gestrichen werden. Wenn Sie in 6 Monaten dann entscheiden, dass Sie sich bereit fühlen, wie lange werden Sie dann warten müssen, um zu beginnen? Es hat lange gedauert, bis Sie diesen Punkt erreicht haben. Sie haben eine große Widerstandsfähigkeit und Charakterstärke gezeigt, was für andere Menschen, die Ähnliches durchmachen, eine Inspiration ist. Dies ist das letzte Hindernis, das es zu überwinden gilt, es wird nie den richtigen Zeitpunkt geben, aber Sie sind eine starke Frau mit einem klaren Ziel vor Augen. Geben Sie den Kampf nicht auf xx
Hi ladies, I agree with needing support, I have found a counsellor who deals with PTSD. My problem is someone has thrown a spanner in the works and now says I can't adopt or foster as I have ibs, but wasn't told this when we first found out. Why do I bother fighting for anything all my fight has now gone. Just write I was raped on my head , then I WILL need help won't I? Bern judged again WITHOUT any proof! Why not let me physicallt HANDLE a child and let people see how much love I have to give. Why should I JUST be a rape victim? I DON'T want to be? Now just sad. Truly.
Why would ibs preclude you from adopting or fostering? It would make zero difference, like.saying you can't adopt if you had broken your leg once 10 years ago, totally irrelevant
I agree I think I've been put off by them for some reason but don't get why. Just gutted.
I now luckily have an update, a friend of mine at county hall, who has been througj the same thing and she is going to try to find some more information out for me. It's given me a little more hope.