Folks ...I've managed to stay off for 3 weeks by throwing all my booze at home barring a single day at a friends place where i finished the bottle (luckily it was only half full ) ...I am having an extended weekend this week with 6 days off ...I am considering getting a bottle for the weekend and moderately having a drink or 2 ...whats the advice folks ...am i asking for trouble knowing my weak will power ...
No don't do it one drink will lead to more you will think I've done it once I can do it again take it from someone who been there
Unless you're using the Sinclair method and are protected by medication from desiring more and more once you've had a drink, you are highly likely to just go back to old drinking ways. Well done for the 3 weeks, don't spoil it, you deserve better.
No Sinclair or such aids ...just good ol will power ....But i totally get that i will be at mercy ..so i am thinking maybe just get a little small bottle ...what say Karen & H
I think you know the answer to your question! Nobody on this site will encourage you to drink. At least, I hope not! We've all been there...
It totally depends on you. I have no idea what your consumption is, but seeing that you have posted here I guess you have had issues in the past. I would say to you welldone for going three weeks, that is something to be very pleased about, and hitting the bottle again is not really an apt reward for your hard work. What would be the point of having a drink or two? People only drink alcohol because of the numbing effect and loss of inhabitions that come with Dutch courage. Once you lose those inhabitions, you are likely to drink more. So you have to fastforward to next week and ask yourself if it's worth it?
Yes, your asking for trouble. I'm pretty much at the same time frame as you and I would personally never want to jeopardize my 18 days sober. Don't you feel good about yourself ??? Isn't life better sober? Sobriety is a gift. Why would you want to lose that? For us alcoholics or most of us we can't control the beast inside us, once it's awake it's awake. I suppose it's entirely your choice but for me I would personally rather stick to my path of sobriety that I fought so hard for and worked so hard for. Either way I wish you luck.
Don't do it. Good job at getting to 3 weeks! Sorry but if you cleared your house of alcohol then there must be a reason for it. I'm sure that you did not do it just for fun.
That is exactly my problem. I can stop drinking for a few days or weeks then I feel like I can just have one day "off" but it NEVER works out like that. When I do drink for just one day I wake up feeling like cr.p. After I get over that awfulness I crave it all over again and then it works it way back into drinking everyday to the point of I was back right where I had began. Waking up everyday hating myself, angry that I had no control, feel horrible.
These last two nights have been hard for me. Day 7 and 8. The cravings are intense and I want to drink because I also feel like I have been " good" exercising, eating well and best of all not drinking but I know I can't. In the back of my head I know it's not ok but I even tried to convince my husband that it would be alright but he didn't buy it either.
Today is day 9.
Keep going make it to 1 month! That is a nice goal and so close too... 🙂
This is from your first post on this forum:
".Yesterday i almost succumbed to going out and getting a bottle but both sloth and a faulty car left me with no option than to go sober ....I thanked my stars today ....wonder if i will last the weekend ?? .....Give me something for the Pain"
So...I'm curious...you posted that 8 months ago. You said above that you have three weeks...so do you remember how long after this post you drank? And how did that go? Were you able to stop again easily? Or was it another battle?
It really depends on your past history and relationship with alcohol. If you are known to START and not be able to STOP (like me)...than you really shouldn't drink.
And what concerns me is....I KNOW the pull and power of the thoughts "Well, that won't happen to me this time". I also know if you have your mind made up to drink that it is VERY HARD to shake that thought...until you drink and realize that you should have.
For me...I know if I drink again...i am risking my very life. If you know that too..and you know the alcohol is trying to lie to you...(that it will be different this time). Than you should really put every effort to get past this feeling.
But again, knowing how strong this feeling is....and not knowing YOU at all...I don't know if you can push past this urge.
I really apppreciate all the advice and support folks .....I just cant make up my mind ....It can't be either be sober or be an alcoholic ...isn't that losing the fight to booze ....Just a thought ...is it ever possible for an alcoholic to tame alcohol to one's control or is it once a slave then forever !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Oh no...I really hope you do not drink.
I know how intense those feelings can be.
Examine what is going on and address THAT.. Hungry, Angry, Lonely or Tired? H.A.L.T and figure it out.
Maybe that will help...anything is worth a try to NOT drink...vs. end up back in the cycle.
there goes the "beast" trying to convince you that you can drink.
The only option I see that you have..if you want to continue drinking is to use the Sinclair method...that way you have a protection against the alcohol taking over your "soul" again.
Wow. Missy you are sooo good ...Clairvoyant I'd say ....I managed to stop exactly 4 days last time eight months ago ....but then after I kept drinking having small sabaticals of a day or 2 .....
About stopping easily ...it wasn't too much of an issue ..first 2 days were a bit tough then it was all downhill ....
My relationship with alcohol is very messy ...the problem is i cant seem to satisfy myself with a couple of drinks ...I have to get sloshed or atleast nice and high .....I drink only in the evenings but everyday right after work ....I come home take a bottle of Mineral water 1.5 L and empty it and fill it neat with vodka to quarter of the bottle and fill the rest with water ...then i drink from it whenever my wife's in the shower ...or she's cooking in the kitchen etc ...ofcourse she knows i am drinking ....until i finish the bottle ...
I can definetly push past the urge i know but i want to conquer this like i did 3 years ago when i went on a weight loss spree ...i would drink only on weekends and would religiously follow my regime and diet ...
I just want to see if i can do that again really
That was a very honest reply...that is what sobriety is all about "honesty"...and it seems that you are not "ready" to admit that alcohol has a hand up on you.....and that is OK...but a very slippery slope for your health and mental well being.
If you just want to see if you can maintain your regime and diet..than I think THAT is what you are going to try...no matter what anyone says.
I know for me...the case is...if I've made up my mind...there is no advice in the world that will change me. I DO like you search for all the different opinions and that ONE thing that MAY change my mind.
But. like me...it seems you are going to have to figure this out on your own. I hope nothing terrible happens to you if you drink....I really hope you CAN stick to a regime.
And...just possibly you should call someone about the Sinclair method...so you have those pills for back up to curb cravings or lessen your drinking should you fall off the cliff again.
F@ck it, just get smashed, see if you can do it, then just try and see if you can do it again next week, if you can keep doing it, you'll have it under control!! Where is the logic that you have sussed it when you tell yourself that its ok to drink on a 6 day bender, as long as you go a few days without at the end of it? You already had your mind set when you wrote the original post. I think you made a mistake when putting a thought down In writting, there is no way you can escape that, you may as well have put it in stone. So have these six days, I don't think you want abstinance at the moment. Hopefully you come out the other end of this a little wiser, I wish you the best of luck sandy and hope you come back and let us know how you got on.
yes, Sandy you are indeed asking for trouble.
don't do it!
Love Tess xx
Thanks Misssy. I've noticed that I see alcohol as a reward and I am trying to retrain myself to recognize it as a bad thing. It would be fine if I could have just one drink but I know that will never happen.
Today is going to be really tough. My husband and I are starting back tonight at the dart league and I drive so he can drink. I have a quarter liter of wine near the end of the evening and stop on the way home to pick up another liter. I have to break this habit and can do it but it will be hard.
I tried explaining to my husband that I am stressed about going tonight and I think he took it the wrong way.
Honestly, I think you should NOT go.
I'm not sure if you are READY to make that stance against alcohol and old habits...You have to be willing to go to any lengths NOT to drink (as do I).
I can go to bars without having the urge because I never really went to bars to drink nor was I involved in any bar activity such as "darts" that involved drinking.
But, I think since you do identify bars with drinking...it IS going to be difficult for you. I also understand you don't want to deprive your husband of his "good time".
I also understand the anger that creeps in when you realize you WANT to play DARTS and that alcohol will be screaming your name.
I know when I was serious about stopping drinking 11 years ago...when something came over me that said enough is enough....I put my sobriety first...above ALL relationships and activities. I even got a divorce because I knew I could not live with that man and be sober.
I'm not sure you are willing to do what it takes...not trying to put you down...beause I'm not sure I AM WILLING to do what it takes...either.
I don't have the same desire I had 11 years ago....it just comes...and I don't think we have it....lori has it you can tell by the way she talks.
The way you are talking....and the way I CAN let myself talk....is indicative of a pending relapse.
Yikes.
Good morning Sandy, I am hopping you haven't take a bottle yet 
My advice: don't drink if God bless you to have that many days vacation you are bless than a lots of people, I don't know your personal situation but only I can tell you there is other ways to enjoy life besides pills, or worse ALCOHOL , alcohol to me is like a parasite find the way to get in you and then if you don't cleanse from it for ever alcohol will curl up trough your body, destroying your organs ( liver, kidness, digestive system) and the worse your mind. I tell you this because I just been there, Inrealized there is so many other ways to enjoy life, there is a animal shelters they you to volunteer trust me that's the best Theraphy as soon as you touch them horses or dogs or cats they relieve you from pain, and you have the sensation of calm like if you will have a glass in your hand.
Sorry but that's my advice. You take care and I don't want nobody go trough of what Imjust did the withdraws when you want it to stop.
Regards
Don't go, Smile. Tell your husband you've got a terrible headache and can't possibly go.
He can get a taxi if he's going to drink.