Before I got herpes, I was very free and open with who I'd sleep with. I rarely used condoms unless the guy prompted it. I had threesomes and poly relationships. I say this because I'm not really finding any women who say they slept around freewheeling before they got herpes and I need people to relate to without being slut shamed. I'm single and dating and nowhere near close to being in any kind of long term relationship.
I contracted it three weeks ago and I'm still devastated. I feel like my freedom and choices were taken away from me and I have no idea how to cope or trust my body now. I'm paranoid and depressed and angry. I need some real world advice on how I can press on from here.
I'm still having symptoms from my initial outbreak (three f*****g weeks later with no end in sight- if I get another outbreak anytime soon I'll have a meltdown).
I'm also still very horny. People- please tell me how you have sex with herpes. I need to know how this actually works, google is depressing and not practical. Would love stories from queer women, too, since I'm not finding that at all.
Thank you!
I was married this last time for four years. I've always been a very sexual person so when my marriage was dissolving and no sex I was ready for my divorce. When that happened I too was carefree bc that's who I am in spirit. The last bf I was with gave me herpes 2. My first ob was 2 months and had an ob every two weeks after for 6 months. I'm on valtrex everyday and it has been 10 months. Things have gotten better with the ob but mentally I don't know if I will ever get over it. It's always on my mind-always. I have been with a couple of people since and we where condoms. It's less than 1.8% of transferring while on meds and protection. And not during ob
Hello, I left my husband a year ago due to.my reasons, so when I got into the dating scene I should have been more careful and was very trusting. I have slept with about 10 people in the last year. I got hsv2 from the last guy I was seeing. I was diagnosed in April. There was a guy I was talking to prior to my relationship and we were simply going to be fwb. I told him I didn't feel comfortable with just doing a fwb and that the guy I was seeing gave me something. He said, "herpes? I have it." I have told others I've spoken for awhile and it doesn't bother them. However, I am so nervous about telling the woman I have been talking to. Granted, I have not met her yet, since we've only been talking through online dating. It sucks you can't have sex as freely (you can, but with a good conscience it's important to tell those people about your diagnosis when you're comfortable).
I occasionally get symptoms of an outbreak. My first one took forever for the numb feeling to go away. I'm on Valtrex daily. My symptoms come and go. They say it's the worst the first year, eventually the symptoms slow down.
You're welcome to pm me anytime.