Today is such a hard day for me. I got my results stating that I have both types of herpes. Strange thing is, I've never had any cold sore, symptoms or any warts. I've been with the same guy for the past 31/2 years. I go to see my gynecologist regularly and have never tested positive. I got a phone call on New year's eve from a female asking me who was I and did I know her boyfriend because I was saved in his contacts as wifey. I told her yes we've been together for over 3 years. She then told me that they were together for the last year and she was 9 months pregnant. We got to talking and she then told me that she was waiting on results from her doctor because she'd been feeling irritated. I mentioned that I did to, I also told my man that. We talked for hours of course he denied everything. She got her results stating she had herpes,which prompted me to get testedI then got a complete std testing and long behold...I have herpes. I'm just so lost right now. This is disgusting on all levels, how could a person be so reckless.
Before I ask any other questions and say what I intend to say and hope to console you, did you specifically request for heroes tests all these yrs or did you just ask for a full workup?
I got told last thursday I was positive. I had symptoms why I had swabs taken.
I think if no one really explained herpes to you go the clinic. I did yesterday as I thought what happens next.
Tbh I feel so much better. Infact was told we all have this but some don't have symptoms and don't know they have it. This should not affect your life. Telling guys won't be fun I know felt ashamed telling my ex. There are really nice guys out there. It is very common 1 in 4 have this.It not the end of the world.
But.if u need a chat I am here and others too. Lots of people are negative out there over this as they got no idea. I looked on many sites it helps talking to people who have this.It really does I also had full std check and thought before when I had check up this was included nope it was not. As clear of everything else was always checking. This one nope did not know I had it. As people have said to me this is really not that bad theres far worse out there. Life too short really.Takecare
I always ask for complete std testing whenever I suspect something. And of course they don't do everything unless you ask specifically...I'm going crazy over here, I swear it feels like I'm dying inside.....
Thanks for your words, I do believe in due time I will heal emotionally.. but right now, it feels like doomsday...I feel so betrayed...but again, thanks for your words.
Hi speechless gurl it seems that me and your situation are both quite simliar i was told i had herpes on nov 11 2014 hurt my feelings
It's so hard, because I don't sleep around and for this to happen, it's like I've been robbed. I'm just in a state of depression. And I know there are far worse things out there, but that still doesn't take away the pain of this thing.
I feel you my name is princess and im 22 years old if you feel you need to talk or text me you can always text me The guy I was with I had been with him since I was 18 years old four long years he took my virginity i never been with anyone else sexually only him oct of 2013 i had to go to the hospital cause I had nasty yellow discharge coming up out me he had gave me trichmonias but after taking the meds i thought i was cured i got tested for everything i never recieved a call back so nov 11 strange things was happening to my body again white discharge tingling burning sensation and when i look down there it be really red and round things like 2 or 3 and its hurts so bad the lesions well going back to the hospital i was diagnoised and when I check my results from last time the doctors forgot herpes on the list so basically when i had trichmonias i was carrying herpes to and never knew it
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Hi all,
I've had hsv2 for 5 months now. I left an awful abusive rrlationship that I stayed faithful in and met the man of my dreams. Travelled half way round the world for hum and got incredibly ill. Big sores, fever, vomiting and tonsilitis. I took weeks to heal and kept having outbreaks. The doc put me on a continuous dose of aciclovir and now I don't ever have symptoms. If you suffer speechless, make sure you ask for help. There is a way to return to normality.
All of you are very new to this, I want to give you all some advice. It does get better. But it is not easy.
I knew deep down what I had, I was in a different country visiting this boy and had symptoms my whole last week there. I faced a 30 hour journey home alone with the initial outbreak. I remember being very teary.
The week I got back I stayed in bed in the dark in the house alone crying. My hsv2 positive results came back the night I got back to the UK. I cried. I felt disgusting. I could tell no one for fear of rejection. Not even my friends.
Then you get used to the idea a little more. The crying stops. I was so mad at this boy but he didn't know he had it. How could I be mad. He was very supportive even though he was 30000 miles away. Whenever I needed to talk or cry, he was on the other end of the phone.
My parents were on holiday and my brother away. I told them all what I had. They were all so supportive. My brother gets cold sores. I felt normal again. 50% of my family had herpes.
The coming months were very hard. I still felt disgusting. I had gone from feeling pretty much perfect (the looks the hair the job the house the car.. You know) I had worked so had all my life to get to where I had got. I had gone through years of endless abusive relationships. I finally meet the man of my dreams and I get herpes. I felt like a second class citizen. I can't even tell my best friend.
My boyfriend moved over to the UK. We are so in love. But it has been hard. I've been diagnosed with sever anxiety and depression. I couldn't cope. I kept falling into these irrational fits, crying and screaming. Having panic attacks. It was awful. I've gone on to antidepressants and anti anxiety meds and have been on them since the start of December. I started counselling.
It is helping.
My life goes on. I am doing well at work. I got a raise. My boyfriend loves me and I love him. The more time that goes by, the more I see that herpes has no effect over my life. I am not defined by herpes.
It is hard. But that is my perception of the illness. It is my perception that it makes me feel disgusting and I am terrified of rejection. My counsellor and I are now working on this and I am determined to change. There is no reason why I should feel as negatice as I do. I feel like I don't deserve love. Like nobody could love me now because of this. Which is ridiculous. Something like 80% of the population have some kind of herpes. It is an epidemic.
It is very hard I will not lie to you. Some people manage easier than others. I was getting constant outbreaks and found it very hard. My advice is that if you get constant outbreaks do not suffer in silence. The doctor will help you and put you on a continuous suppressive dose of antivirals. It's as though you don't even have the illness it is great 
If you struggle mentally and emotionally, talk to someone please. I have other issues from a life time of abuse and the herpes knocked my confidence even further, but I have sought help and I now look forwards to my counselling. My family and boyfriend are incredibly supportive and I don't know what I would do without them.
At the end of the day. There's no point wishing we don't have it. Because we do. We need to work with what we have got and stick a middle finger up to the herpes and say 'F*** you we don't care'. We need to work to take care of ourselves. Eat well, sleep, exercise. Enjoy life. See the world. Get out there. Herpes means nothing. It's not a big deal. Sometimes the journey to get to this thought takes a little longer for some. But we will all get there.
Im sorry i feel your pain you or not alone
Thanks so much, I know in time it'll get better, but it's just crazy how things happen to people that's faithful. It's also crazy how there's so many people that have it and don't know they do. Soon everyone will have it, at the rate it's going.
That's crazy because herpes is not in the normal std testing, you have to basically all for the testing or have symptoms. But you would think that after all these people being infected unknowingly, they test reguardless. We live in a strange world where some of the things they do don't make sense. They need to put herpes testing in the regular line up.
Well your job obviously sows and incredible job of suppressing it, so there is a chance that you had this before him and that you passed it to him. Of course there is the chance as well that he has passed this to you, had it before or got it from cheating. I'm so sorry to hear this. That is a terrible situation he has put you in. You do not deserve that and you definitely shouldn't stay w such a liar. He clearly is reckless and it coukd of been HIV he exposed you both to and not something that won't kill you.
I feel the same way. My thought on that, is that big pharma can't make money if this disease is no longer and epidemic. That makes so much money off of antivirals. Big pharma pays the governments money and the government is who decides what STDs should be included in the full std screen. It's messed up that they intentially allow this to be an epidemic.
You're right but the problem is. I work in health care, so I know how testing goes and I know you have to specifically ask for it, which I do all the time. Just this time it came back positive. So I know he gave it to me within the last year, because that's the last time I was tested for it, which I was negative at that time. Only when this chic contacted me is when I went to get tested again because she texted positive... it's a mess....they needed to find a cure. I haven't ate,drink or slept since I got my results yesterday morning. Terrible.
That's crazy🔫🔫🔫🔫🔪👀 screw them people, I feel like they've failed me.
I heard the nhs don't test because so many people have herpes and don't know about it, so it would be more distressing for them to find out they have it and deal with it.
So they go on, unknowingly spreading the disease In their ignorant bliss.
Then there is us. The lucky 20% who get symptoms.
So not only do we have to deal with the symptoms of having herpes, but we have to deal with the social stigma and rejection and absolute distress caused by this. Even from the people who may have herpes but just don't know about it.
It's not fair !!!!!!!!!
This fact made me absolutely sick to my stomach when I found out. It still infuriates me.
The nhs and big pharmaceutical companies have let us down.
They are letting a huge epidemic spread and letting us suffer. The social stigma SUCKS !!!!!
Wow, that's terrible....this and aids has to be the worst out there. I'm saying, all of them are terrible, but we have to deal with herpes for the rest of our lives. I'm trying to pick myself up because I still have responsibilities. I have 2 kids to care for and work.....I also start new classes next Tuesday, how in the world am I supposed to function and focus. Now I've decided to be single because of this lying cheater.....which makes it harder on me. I can't imagine telling anyone about this, EVER.
I was told this yesterday. I asked the woman so I thought this was included in STD check up. As september tested and was clear but herpes never realised u had to request it.
Theres a lot people don't know. I am still learning.
I was going to text you when you left your number, but I see the system removed it, saying you have to directly message the person with any private info. I guess they're very strict about privacy. Lol....