I'm completely alone i am not working and have no friends I'm stuck indoors most the day and if I go out feel worse because I see people together smiling and happy,and it causes me more pain.
I have social anxiety so I avoid making new friends. What do I do??
See a therapist!! I started seeing one a couple years ago and my anxiety has gotten sooo much better since. It's amazing how just talking to someone who is experienced with anxiety can help you feel so much better.
Have you considered family? That could be an option, but I do not know your circumstances. Seeing a GP about this might be a good idea too, they can connect you to mental health services that help you to deal with social anxiety. Your attitude can go a long way too in how you about your every day life. Getting a bit out of your comfort zone can do you some good too, but perhaps this should be done under the supervision of a therapist or maybe family. To have a safe space is also a good option to have when society anxiety becomes too much. Could be anything. Breathing exercises can help too, I recommend the app called Headspace as that can help you to learn mindfulness and how to go about your breathing exercises that help you deal with social anxiety. I hope some of this helps.
Dear Ian
Do you have family? Try to socialise with them. That will help you when u get outside the house and you will get used to talk and it will be much easier for u to make friends. 🌹
I also suffer from social anxiety so I find it hard to make friends even though I'd love one. I'm currently on a waiting list for CBT so I really hope it helps me with my anxiety and lack of confidence. Sadly there is no quick fix but steady work on our anxiety with therapy, maybe medication, yoga, meditation etc to reach a better place mentally with some sort of peace.
I'm not there yet but good luck to you
Thanks Rebekah I appreciate your support and it's nice to hear someone else who has similar issue's( in the nicest way I mean) being that it makes me feel little less alone and weird.
I have applied three times this year for CBT and they won't give it to me as they say it wouldn't be beneficial because of my history they recommend I get a referral for secondary care with a psychiatrist which also has a massive waiting list, I'm currently waiting and who knows when I'll get seen. I really hope you get your appointment for therapy soon I'm sure it'll really help with your anxiety.
Sometimes calling them and chasing them can speed things up,if they know how desperate you are maybe you could get Lucky.
Thanks for the advice. I've been waiting a few months now so I might chase them up to hopefully get a date.
On TV, in books, outside, I always see groups of friends together and people laughing and holding hands and it always make me feel so alone and odd. I wouldn't wish my pain on anyone but I agree, in a nice way it's nice to hear that others feel the same.
I hope you won't have to wait too much longer to see a psychiatrist and I really hope it helps. I know how hard it is to just get through each dayso I just try to think:
- This too shall pass
- It's just a bad day, not a bad life
- HOPE: Hold on Please Everyone
This can sometimes bring some comfort when I'm feeling really down