So sad and can't control the tears

Bones, joints and muscles
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I have been riding horses since before I could walk, my mother would make a nest in the straw our Arabian stallion and put me in it when she was going to work, unconventual yes but for me horses are in my blood. At age 9 I was home alone but had the horses and dogs/cats/rabbits/chickens whilst Mum was away competing, I would feed, turn out, muck out. I know that it would not be normal now and I never did it with my daughter but, its the way I grew up and I was happy.

When I was 10 I was alone and started my periods which coinsided with getting chickenpox but I knew there were Dr Whites in the airing cupboard (you will have to be a certain age to understand), also one of our pure Arab mares became ill. I knew our vet wel, he lived next to my grandparents, he was very busy so it was 4am when he arrived. This beautiful and spirited mare was not fond of men and as she needed an IV injection it was a steep learning curve for me, mum was away for another 3 days so injections every 4 hrs and my girl got better.

That is a snippit of my back story, moving forward 3 degrees under my belt and other than study, horses were my life, my mother died 15yrs ago, father when I was a child.

So why the tears, I have some of the most exquisite sadles and bridles, they have been lovingly looked after, cleaned after every use and to buy them now would cost £1000's. I have jumping saddles, GPH, dressage, eventing and sidesaddles. Now I am not able to ride ever again I thought it was best for someone young to have the joy of owning genuine tack made by the top people in the industry.

I have cleaned it all every week since my accident, it is in immaculate condition, I was also giving show grade hats/jods size 6/8 and side saddle attire. The offer from a person tonight was "50 quid for the lot, take it or leave it but I know where you live",

All I can say is "Thank god for the 40Kg of testostrone and muscle", that lives here. I have also informed my neigbours. Coming to terms with never riding again is hard but this has crushed me. Sorry to go on but I needed to get it out, Dot Xx

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Hi Dot

Sorry you are so upset.

Just to ask who said you would never be able to ride again ?

My surgeon has told me that I will be able to ride as long as I do some hard work and build up my leg mucles again. My surgeon has replaced hips of peolle who do kick boxing and other marshgal arts and they are still winning fights. Pleaase donh't give up. if you want to ride again you may have to put in somne hard work to protect your hip. but there is no reason after a year and getting the strength back in your legs why you still can't ride. I wouldn''t give up yet. Don't take everything your surgeon tells you as gospal.  have seen a 72 year old woman on the TV who had both hips replaced doing the splits and dancing around on stage like she was a 19 year old teen ager. She was told she would never dance again. So please don't just give up. There is always a way. (((Hugs )))) to you

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Hailea, thank you so much for saying this, sadly, my LTHR was following an accident with multiple fractures. My consultant is young and very forward thinking, she did say that I could ride on an eldery "Dobin" doing walk and nothing more. I actually have horses, not a "Dobin" in the stables, high spirited to put it mildly.

I also had guillain-barre syndrome 19yrs ago and was totally paralised, told I would never walk again let alone ride but I did, so not one that gives up easily :-(

My real problem is the results of my DXA scan and any small fall could mean disaster, so wish I had never attended for it.

Big (((Hugs))) back xx

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You must know that there are a lot of jump jokies out there. That have been put back together after bad falls. They have fallemn again and got back up after again being put back together. Get fit again work hard at it and see how you go. Do not give up yet. There are as many restrictions out there as there are dos and donts and as many surgeons with as many different rules.Think about it. if you are willing to get as fit as you can you may even be able to buy protection if you have words with disabled rider supplers. Have a search around. Get a second opinion.you could even see if there are any disabled horse people out there that can help you and ask advuice.. There is no harm in asking. it just might give you that silver lining your looking for. xx

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Thank you again, yes I do know many jockeys, sadly some in wheelchairs. I am not one to ever give up and I also help with riding for the disabled. My problem is I have a daughter, my only living relative and large athletic, spirited horses. Daughter is also a doctor so no hiding anything.................. sure you get my drift, take care xx

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This is so sad for you, but why can you not ride again? It seems if nothing else you need a horse around to make you happy. I do hope you can find some way to ride again or at least teach young ones to ride.

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Well to start with I wouldn't sell your riding gear unless you are hard pressed for money. Maybe try going into a highly qualified physical therapist every other week. If you have a goal to ride again put in 6 months to a year of tough physical therapy and then decide.  Don't give up your dream just yet. Can you teach your horse to pull a buggy?

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Dear Dot, 

I am so sorry to read this ... my heart is with you ... this is such an emotional journey - not just physically but, for me, on another level as well .. very confrontational - things will never be the same again and somehow (again for me) this hip thing confronts me majorly with my limitations - I am fully aware that at 67 years, I could be worse of ... we all know that ... but still ... letting go with gratitude and grace is not easy ... take your time with it, sweetheart - other things will come in to your life, just as precious (this is what I am telling my self) -

Let us remind ourselves that we are still who we are !!! 

warm hug

renee

 

 

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Hi H. Think I saw her, too. Ballet teacher, who'd also had ankle broken over 20 times?  Couldn't belive open splits, with head on floor between legs 😱

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Thank you for all your words of encouragement, it is not like me to feel down and I am a fighter. A sleepless night but I have come to a decission that I am happy with. Some people are on "the make" and £50 for superb tack that would now cost in excess of many 000,000 is silly so I have today been through everything and will be keeping ones with special memories. I have donated the rest to riding for the disabled. its going to a cause I support and they were delighted so thank you all for your support.

I will still have my horses and look after them, love them and look to see if any young, talented riders need a mount gratis. Love and light, plus a nice carrot to all xx

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Dear Dot ...

What wonderful, loving and generous gifts from the heart coming from a wonderful, loving and generous soul ..

I am so touched ....

warm hug

renee

 

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Beautiful!