I suffer severely with social anxiety/phobia. I have always been a very shy person but over the past few years it has turned in to a complete phobia of any kind of social situation. I try my best to avoid ANY social situation whatsoever. I love my job & what I do but the constant worry over going to work and being around people is making me feel like giving it up. I come home from work everyday & I just have constant worry about being at work the following day. I really enjoy my actual job and what I do but it’s just being there around people that causes me extreme anxiety. Im always constantly worrying about what people think of me/how people look at me and I just can’t control it. I hate speaking to people, I always feel that I’m going to mess up what I say/not get my words out/stutter and make a fool of myself. I get so socially anxious to the point where I can’t even get my words out at times. I’m also a huge blusher which I absoloutely despise!!! (Any tips for that would be greatly appreciated). I have tried medication for anxiety but have not really had much benefit from it. Does anybody have ANY tips for social anxiety? Any help would be much appreciated. Thank you. :-)
I’ve had social anxiety since I was a child. After years and years of worrying about what people thought of me, worrying about speaking to people, and having to live like that for so long, I finally made up my mind and decided I really don’t care what people think of me. I know that I am a good decent person , so if somebody wants to Think poorly of me, then that’s fine. I just don’t care anymore.
The vast majority of people respond to me favorably it’s just there’s always a few people who have their own issues and like to judge others. Those are the ones that can think what they want.
I am much happier now and much more relaxed in social situations. I am just being myself just like everybody else is doing.
if you’re struggling with social anxiety, I would definitely recommend you speaking with a counselor. They can really help you gain back some confidence and help you realized all the qualities that you have. There are also some excellent audio meditations on YouTube for anxiety, depression, etc.
I often listen to the positive self affirmations on YouTube.
Remember, nobody has anything over on you. I used to think that other people were so smart and knew everything until I grew up and found out that wasn’t the case. You’re just as smart and gifted as other people and maybe even more so.
Give yourself more credit and hold your head up high and realize we cannot control what other people think . Just giving your all and doing your best is enough! No matter what. 👍😁🌸🌸❤️
Hi Leah,
I know how you feel and it’s good that you like your job. If I could make it through life, so can you. Anxiety is ruling your life, but it doesn’t have to be that way. You really need to understand that your fears are not real.🙃You give them life by believing in them, for example you believe you might mess up, you might make a fool of yourself, you might stutter or what people might think about you is not a reality. The mind will create whatever you feed it. So, start now by feeding only positives into your mind. Write a realistic list of how wonderful you speak in front of people how you like being around your co-workers, how you look forward to go to work, etc.... take small baby steps each day....
1-day one: just be at work enjoying your job.
2-day two: say something very simple to a person
3- day three: take a look around you in a crowd
4- etc
I hope this was some help.
Best wishes for you Leah!🙂
Well said Jan!😄