I have given this a lot of thought and finally decided not to leave.
Sorry, everyone who was hoping they'd got rid of me.
Only kidding. As it happens, loads of people PM'd me and were very helpful and supportive.
And another thing - my husband hasn't been drunk for a fortnight!!!!!
Oh, and I'm almost at five weeks without fags.
Glad to hear it, Tess! That's wonderful news about your husband too! Is he considering Campral or just toughing it out for now?
Congrats on making it over a month without tobacco! I just started Tabex last week, so hopefully I won't be too far behind you.
Good for you. Glad to hear you are staying.
Brilliant decision Tess.
Well done on the cigarettes, I quit about 10 years ago and it was one of the hardest things I have ever done. I don't think I would still be here if I had carried on.
Anyway, glad you aren't leaving.
Pat xxx
Actually, I'm keeping a low profile with him, because he has a lot of difficulty receiving praise, thanks to his abominable childhood.
I'm just watching with interest. He isn't toughing it out, he's just cut his drinking down gradually from 15 cans a day plus whisky, to no whisky and (at the moment) three cans.
He tried campral once, and said it didn't help - but he wasn't in the right frame of mind to even be trying to stop drinking then.
I suspect, as a wife of many years' experience, that he's watching me coping well with my valium tapering and stopping smoking, and watching me make the effort has clicked something in his brain.
GOOD LUCK ADE - you can manage without fags!
When I have time, I'll PM you with his life story.
That's really encouraging to hear he's cut back so much. Do be aware of the Alcohol Deprivation Effect though, if that kicks in he'll start drinking more. Not saying that he will, but if he does then you'll know why. Seems like he's been managing quite well though so far!
Thanks for the encouragement, it would be great to be able to do without the butts.
All looking much better Tess!! Keep trying and we will certainly support you. Robin
Good onya, Tess !
I gave up cigarettes 35 years ago because of throat problems. I remember how difficult I found it.
Funny how I cannot summon up the willpower to quit alcohol, for good.
Alonangel 🎇
Thanks to all of you who have responded. Angel, there is always a right time to kick addictions. You just haven't reached it yet.
Don't forget, it took me 40 years to start coming off sleeping pills and diazepam.
Alcohol is very hard to give up, from what all you guys have been telling me, and it's so readily available. That makes it more difficult.
Will be back in touch with you later honey bun. Love Tess
Glad you're staying Tess. You're doing so well. If you husband has the odd blip, praying he won't, we are all here to give help and advice. Keep going with the malt loafs 👫🍞xx
Hooray!
strong reply Tess. Great forum for everybody and I salute you for your strenght! Robin
Hi Tess. I hope all is well with you, today. I bought two malt loaves yesterday... and thought of you ! Yum, yum !!
Lots of Love to you, my friend.
From Angel. XX 👭
Thank you soooooooooooo much!
If you promise not to tell Misssy, I did eat some malt loaf yesterday.
Thanks for your support pf. Lots of love
Don't tell Misssy lol
It was the ones with fruit in them. Is that your "loaf of choice" ?
Definitey!!!! By the way, a friend called me today who was very distressed. See PM
Can you remember where I posted about my husband's drinking improving and asked what vitamins etc he should have?
RHGB gave me two good answers but although we've now got all the meds he recommended, he won't take the lactulose - he says it tastes disgusting. Does anyone here know how important lactulose is?
Have you tried adding orange juice to it for him, then just drink it? However my mum who was diabetic bought some and her GP told her not to take it. Different circumstances though