Not sure what to do anymore.. The anxiety is frustrating and draining on me. My BP is going up and today coming home from work I felt ill going home.. The thought that my spouse is a jekyl/hyde personality and absolute refuses treatment-- counseling and zoloft is absolutely killing my soul. Always yelling and mad-- needs constant ressaurance , in a rush to do everything, doesn't sleep well,etc... Doesn't give any emotional or mental support at all. I have worked so hard at getting him a 'male' cuz he thinks females are stupid. He's in denial and a narrcisist because he does not care about my feelings!!! The first time I'm crying about it!! Yes I have seen a therapist for this and they have told me that I either put up with it or leave him...He doesn't like the fact that I'm talking to one but I need to go see one again. Years ago I did see a lawyer but then decided kids were more important ---plus not sure I'm strong enough to go thru this.. Is there any OTC meds that acts like zoloft? I think the word zoloft 'scares' him BUT he'll take chlosteral meds or any OTC meds with no problems.
there’s nothing over the counter and if he is truly a narcissist there’s really no medication for that.
are you sure that your kids are better off ? A troubled relationship with yelling, etc can cause severe emotional and psychological issues for the children.you definitely need to speak with another counselor. And keep going. You need some direction right now.
Hey Kelly,
Look, I know people are different but… I’m a veteran. I have horrible PTSD and explosive anger issues, in addition to that I’m a pill-a-phobe also. So treating my symptoms is hard.
But regardless of all that, I’ve never used that as an excuse to act like an insufferable ass to my family. Point of fact, it’s actually easer because I can communicate with my loved ones when I’m not feeling well and I am mindful of them.
So honestly, your husband sounds like an asshole, seriously. Not because he has mental health issues, but because he knows he has a condition and doesn’t seem to care how his actions affect his family.
I can tell you’re a lot stronger than you give yourself credit for. I’m sure you’ll do the right thing for you and your kids. It might be difficult, but you will get through it.
Thank-you for your replies!! I feel guilty that I let my guard down the other night and had a meltdown (kids weren’t home). BUT he promised he would either make an appt with therapist or even refill his prescription.. He need neither!! It’s kinda like an alcoholic who refuses to get clean. Kids are older and in a couple years off to college. So yes, I know what I need to do because I’m just tired of wishing and hoping.. ugh It’s a good life for him but not for me anymore.
I sincerely hope things get better for you. Good luck, whatever you choose to do.