Hi everyone,
My name is Sheen and i am 26 years old. I had been to my GP last week and he put me on Fluoxetine 20mg a day. I don't know if i should start taking them, my GP wants to see me in 3 weeks.
I have been married for 10 years now, i am a student, studying Adult nursing. I live with my husband, and my family live local to me. My dad died when i was 14, ever since the i had been feeling lonely. I have never been close to my mum, she never hugged me or gave me kisses, yet i see her do it my younger sister.
My husband is a nice person but i don't get on well with him, i don't know why. I have few friends from college, but thats only when i am at the college, i don't have any friends that i would see them regularly. I have few cousins that i see when they come to my mom's house.
I get on well with strangers more then my husband, i will laugh and joke around with every other person but not my husband. I am a little moody when he is around, i hate talking to him.
Family members who are close to me they see me as a happy person who has nothing to complain about. I hardly can share my feelings with anyone, why i cry and crave for some comfort from my mum and my husband.
I don't have any childrens and suffereing from PCOS, i don't recieve any support from my husband and he sometimes blame me for everything. I cut myself, and i overeat. I feel the world and my husband is better off without me, but i can't commit suicide because if i do then i will ot have a funeral.
I am worried if i start taking the medicine my condition will worsen. I don't know what to do.
Hi. I am sorry you are feeling this way. I fully understand too. If your GP has reccomended them to you then take them, I too was unsure and even rang the doctors to speak to her before I took them - I was also given the 20mg. I've been on them for 3 months, the side effects really vary and come and go. But from this site I can see it has helped people but it is a long haul and you need support from people around you. The difficulty I find is many people dont understand the tablets, they just think oh its just medication, so that's the first thing, getting people to understand you need their support. Hang in there, this site is really helpful, you can chat to people all the time etc.
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Hi, i had been on fluoxtine some time ago, so i know how you feel as i as very worried about starting them. Next time you go to visit your GP ask him to refer for counselling, it helps a little.
Good luck and take care. Just remember your not alone.
When ever you feel alone just log on and i am sure you wll find people with the same problem.
Aw Sheen, was your marriage an arranged one? I feel your Dad was everything to you, and must have shown you love. That's why you feel so alone. Im alone too, so I do understand how you feel.
I cant help thinking sometimes, that you only live once, and we so want to live that once well dont we?
But everything around us just brings us down. Sometimes as well, it's out of our control - maybe you had to make commitments that other people dont understand (like arranged marriages) then maybe I am totally wrong - it's just how distant you feel from your husband, like almost you never really knew him
I am so sad to hear that your Mother doesn't do cuddles - we all need cuddles dont we?
Do you have any children?
Have you started the fluoxetine yet?
I am so glad you found this site - it's just somewhere to come when you feel alone
Pls post again - just try and let out your sadness to us - cos there are many people on here that do care
Sending you strength and love xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Thank you guys, your posts mean a lot to me.
Yes, I had an arranged marriage and I don’t have any children’s yet, I had an appointment with my gynaecologist yesterday which I totally forgot about.
I was very close to my dad, and I miss him a lot.
My elder sister, my younger brother and younger sister has always been close to my mum, some times I just wonder if I am her daughter or not, but then again my elder brother feels the same.
Suzisue, I have started Fluoxetine yesterday.
I am glad too that I have found a place where I can share my sadness with, I feel great, it’s like I have lifted the huge stone from my chest.
Take care, and hope to see everyone around.
Thank you once again.
Sheen, I'm glad you've started the meds. I've just started today too, scary isn't it? I'm scared of the side effects and whther I'll be able to get off them again. I don't know how long I can take this feeling, I really don't want to be here. I also have difficult family relationships though everyone thinks I am fine. You've helped me see I am not alone in the world. We need to try and make it..
Hi Sheen,
I too have just started taking fluoxetine. I have taken them before (around 6 years ago) and found them to be very effective in lightening my mood to the extent that I could see my situation in a more positive light and not feel so overwhelmed by everything.
I lost my job at the beginning of the year and took on a new career which I have not adapted well to, subsequently my depression came back and I'm not coping with work and I'm struggling to keep my home life as normal as possible, as my partner really doesn't understand how debilitating depression can be.
My advice to you is to stick with the medication, you will probably not feel any positive results for at least 2 weeks, so it's important to keep taking it even if you think it is not working. I'm about 10 days in, and not feeling too great yet, but I know it has worked in the past so there is no reason to believe it won't work again.
Perhaps you should consider going to counselling, to sort out the underlying feelings that are causing the depression. Be kind to yourself in this adjustment period and take one day at a time.
Hope you are feeling better soon. H x
Helen H, wishing u loads of luck babe
Sheen - yeh what Helen says is right, stick with it. Nothing will bring your dad back - Iv learnt that too. I know your Mum doesnt like cuddles - but maybe she's been hurt too - why dont u just try and cuddle her - see what happens
Just try. You're feeling low as you are so alone - but you are strong - you went for help and that makes you strong.
I dont understand arranged marriages (hey I dont understand marriages!!)
But it must be so hard for you, im glad you have found here too
Please take care - go give your Mum a cuddle too - maybe she's feeling lonely too xxx
Thank you once again guyz.
Suzisue, thank you very much, i hugged my mum and it really felt very good on my side. Thanks for the advice once again.
Take care everyone. XxX
I started taking Flouxentine 5 years ago when i was 15.I got really unhelpful side effects with it,I wouldn't recomend it. I know everyone is different though and i know people it has worked for.
Just want to say if you do notice bad side effects,say to you GP straight away and he can try you on something else.
Good luck.i wish you all the best and hope you feel better soon.
Hi all,
I've been on Fluoxetine for about 2 years now, 2x20mg per day, since a suicide attempt which was due to longterm mis diagnosed illness, but i must say that the fluoxetine has helped me a lot. I haven't had any bad side-effects from it, but there again, with all my other illnesses and medication that i have to take each day maybe i don't notice!!
Hang in there.
alan
[quote:3b2aea52e3=\"Sheen\"]Thank you once again guyz.
Suzisue, thank you very much, i hugged my mum and it really felt very good on my side. Thanks for the advice once again.
Take care everyone. XxX
Hi Sheen
How are you doing babe? I hope you're not feeling so alone?
R u still taking the pills, and do u think they are helping you?