Starting new job tomorrow and its guna be same again.feeling like crap, caring what over people think, feeling like am guna mess things up, I know someone who works there from school. They know I was weak and quiet at school. Am not now.i am loads different. Just dont know what to do.had enough. Please advice!!!
Hi Andrew20154,
I know it is easier said than done, but I think you should go in there with your head held high, after all you were good enough to get the job. Whether you have just left school or not I imagine that you are, as you say a different person now, so ignore that stupid person who thought you were 'weak and quiet' at school he or she is not important. Dont worry about messing up either, its your first day you cant be expected to get everything right.
I know its impossible to not care what people think (i am the same, I worry about that too), but try to remember the people at work are not your family or friends they are just people at work, their opinion of you does not really matter because they are not the people who matter.
If I were you I would try and relax this evening, distract yourself with the telly a friend a beer whatever works for you. I know its hard, but if you were good enough to get the job then you can do the job. Good luck, take care :-)
Thank you.that means a lot
Yes I agree. The employer thought you were the best person for the job so have confidence in yourself. You are judging your self much more than anyone else will, after all they will be just as much afraid of messing things up. Their opinions really don't matter and only the opinions of your loved ones and friends do.
If they have a go at you remember it is only their opinion and not set in stone you know. People have their own issues and someone might just be in a bad mood or something or want someone to take their temper out on.
Two things based on my own experiences which are considerable - you can't worry or be responsible for what others decide to do - only what you do.
Secondly if you are not sure in any situation say nothing and just put a smile on your face. It does work trust me. Good luck.
Bev x