Still feeling rotten

Mental health
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I'm feeling depressed after a nasty business problem earlier this year, and it is getting worse.

I think I'm suffering form business burnout, which triggered the depression. I am just about able to take care of myself, but can't manage much else at the moment, and after being so confident and ambitious before this new me is almost unbearable. I've also lost a lot of fitness, and am not pursuing my hobbies as I did before.

I've tried various medications, and am now trying to use natural remedies like st johns wort, 5hpt and valerian.

I got such a buzz out of my business, and I miss it terribly.

I would like to do it all again, but I'm not sure if it will stress me further or put me back on the path to happiness. It is a fairly high risk industry, but with good rewards and satisfaction, also it is all I really know.

My brain is only running at about 50% at the moment as well, which I'm not sure if it is due to the meds I was on, the burnout or sleeping problems.

I may have been a bit addicted to my business, but I was happy. I have been trying to find other outlets for my creativity, but have found nothing yet.

I've had bad luck with doctors, none have been helpful, but I have an appintment with a fresh one next week.

Can anyone relate to this or give advice about starting again, or advise about business burnout in particular and how to 'bounce back'?

Rodders

 

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I hear what your saying with regards to the gp's, i had a terrible experience with one and luckily found another who was more than understanding. hang in there until you get what you want and get listened to.

As for your business only you can decide but what i do know is that most businesses suffer at some point, we have all worked ourselves into the ground with one thing or another.

My work keeps me sane as being at home makes me worse.

Maybe antidepressants might help you for a short while?

take care

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Thanks Dawn, antidepressants have not worked so far, but I'm trying to be open minded about it.

Work meant so much to me, now I just feel lost without a purpose, and bored, and also having too much time to think....

I have looked at volunteer jobs, but nothing seems to be engaging enough for me.

 

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If you have tried various other types of AD your GP must have been medicating you at some time. If you are taking st Johns Wort and Valerian with other medications prescribed by your GP you are causing problems with this pathway. It is important that you stop taking the herbal remedies whith AD medications there can be real problems mixing the two.

Talk to your GP about your condition and possibly advise you on your best way forward.

What happened to stop you in your previous business, if you have not learned that pathway proved a problem, You need to understand your failures and honestly consider a different way ahead, rather than becoming ill again

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Sometimes a low paying job can be more "engaging " than a volunteer job

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Hi Rudders, What is the specialty of the new doctor you are seeing?

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Check on NHS CHOICES, your GP Surgery will be listed there and each GP will have their Specialities. Go to the one who is good on mental health

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I have been off the AD for over a month now, and thought I would try the herbals, however have not been on them for long. Will be seeing a new doc soon, and will explain it all to them.

I have better days and bad ones, the last few have been bad. I am better when I am mixing with people, but spend much of my time on my own.

I know what went wrong with the last project, it was too big and got out of my control. I have been running the business sucsessfully for many years, and would like to get that exitement back, but obviously don't want to go through this again. I thrived on the buzz and small stresses before the big one hit me, and now feel very empty without it all.

A different pathway would be great - if I could find it. Helping others interests me, but my skills are fairly narrow and specialised.

 

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Hi Merianna, just a different gp I've not been to before. There is no mention of specialities on the website

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Have you tried NHS CHOICES.

Some Surgeries have a list and photographs on the wall explaining their Specialities or I know some who give patients a booklet when they join their Practice. 

At my surgery we are told by the GP we see, if someone has a speciality.

In my case I see a different GP for my Arthritis than who I see for My Depression. I am trying to get the practice to put up a board on the wall that will introduce all the Staff to the people who attend surgery

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Hi Rodders, It would be in your best interest to see a psychiatrist preferred or other mental health clinician to diagnose your problem. A GP does not have the mental health expertise needed to differentiate specific mental health conditions. From how you describe your situation you may have a form of Bi Polar 11.

Meds for depression will not work for this diagnosis. 

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Hello again discuss all with your GP, He will refer you to a specilist, generally a CPN.

who will educate you on coping skills

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Hi Rodders, I hope you get on better with your next appointment.

Though I haven't had my own business, my career was quite demanding and I defiantly used it to deflect from and ignore my MH issues. Eventually I just broke and had

to stop working.

Now I am feeling a little better on meds (i.e. not 24 /7 suicidal!!) I really miss the excitement and responsibility of my old job. However I know I have to get me 100% better first. And that's a bitter pill to swallow for sure. In the meantime I feel pretty useless and am in financial difficulties.

This is an illness like any other and we can't magic it away.

Good luck an keep posting.

Dee 🌞

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Hi Dee

Thanks, it seems we have similar issues. I'm not suicidal, but I'm very low and not myself.

Would you mind telling me what you were diagnosed (depression or a deeper underlying problem?), and what meds are working for you?

I hope you are better soon and back to work

Best wishes

Rodders

 

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I hear you Rodders72, it is the same for me i have to keep busy.

I am on citalopram and finding them helpful but i still have mbad days. today being one of them.

I am sure you will find something keep trying

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Hi Dawn

I'm having a bad day too. Can't do anything much today. I have heard citalopram can work, but have tried Prozac and Sertraline which didn't help me. I may give it a go.

I'm going to try cbt or perhaps mindfulness as well.

I need some sort of fulfilment, but would struggle with a full time job at the moment. I was so used to being my own boss and being in charge of my destiny, now it feels all out of control and I'm lost.

Thanks for your encouragement

Rodders

 

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no problem there, here to help anyone.

ugh hate bad days but struggling on....

 

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Many people set up new companies, they like the challenge. Then they loose interest and start again, out of the ashes of the first. You really need to sit down and ask yourself what you want to do. When I was at work I was trained into three different, similair trades and became a master of none, mind my education was inclusive.

I have read your inclusive scripts and I personally feel you personally stuck on one subject and cannot move on, if this is the case you need help to help yourself and only your GP can facilitate treatments that will help you. a Phycologist may help here as they have an aptitude to get you understand your needs and how you are considering your life choices.

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My depression is Reactive and I suffer rapid mood changes where I can jump on a penny. Now been a pensioner I do not have any real outside source that turn me and make me jump. My wife deals with those outside sources to keep me calm

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This is all true, I am trying all I can to move on. I will be seeing the GP next week and see what happens after that.

I know I probably sound like a stuck record, venting my problems on here does help a bit.