Just going into my 8 week post op is it ok to still feel so tired !!! ( had a melt down over not getting the freezer door shut)!!! I am my husbands carer so not had much help myself just would be nice for my tea to be ready for a change !!! sorry feeling a bit low
Crazy, where do you live? Is there any chance of social involvement? How about respite care for you or your husband or both of you? Are any family nearby who would help, if you asked? Is there a community page on Facebook for your area? I’m alone with two reluctant teenage boys, I put out a plea for housekeeping help that I was willing to pay for, and have had offers for free. We independent types just soldier on, but there is help out there, just ask! Hope you get sorted and have a good recovery. I’m 3 days post op on my second replacement and feeling washed out today. Have stayed in bed, but have to act as referee every now and then!
Of course you are allowed to be tired do what Elizabeth suggests you have to take care of yourself as well dont forget! I am at week 14 and still feel tired! I am on my own having second hip done April 1st hoping to go to my daughter’s after i get over the first two weeks, she works full time but i would rather be at her house than alone at home, last time i had a company called Rapid Response they were fantastic but could only have them the first 10 days then you are on your own thank goodness i have a wonderful neibour
Oh…makes me sad to hear that…here l am 13 weeks post op. From a femur fracture…with dynamic ! (Havent seen signs yet ) hips screw , cannulated screw , plate and several other screws…feeling really sorry for myself…l came home 2 weeks ago , after being with my sister…l live alone and am finding it difficult…2 weeks 100% weight bearing…trying soooo hard with physio , but am in a great deal of pain in hip , groin and knee (swollen )..today…too much physio ??? Seems like 2 steps forward and 10 back…so my heart goes out to you…We will get through this and “spit” in its face…sometimes you just need someone to listen…feel as if l cant burden friends , family etc…as everybody has their own problems…and l am very independent…l send you a huge hug and the hope that you feel better soon…X
Hi I’m so sorry for you 
just put the area your in ie Leicestershire /Derbyshire so anyone who can offer a bit of help can see whereabouts you are.
Their are loads of caring people about
Take care x
trust me - it’s normal to feel like this.
I had a meltdown about a week after the op, accused my husband and family of not caring about me, I felt so unloved. Cried a lot, BUT it does pass… it’s just a reaction after the op because we (as women) are used to being in charge and suddenly lose control.
Concentrate on getting stronger so that you can get back to caring for your partner again. Remember, you have had a major op, and it takes time to recover.
don’t be too hard on yourself.
All the best to you for a speesy recovery.
PAT