So I was diagnosed last year in April whilst I was abroad and since coming home I have been in a constant slump. I am only 21 so it's had a big impact on my life and my future, to which I can't really see my happy ending coming! I can never see me ever sitting a guy down and telling him what I have and him still accepting me (i've had enough rejection in my life!) I've struggled to contain all my emotions and I finally confided in my sister, who still to this day remains the only person who knows. I thought about telling my mum, but she doesnt even know I'm sexually active so I know it will break her heart. I thought about telling my friends, but it just feels too private to ever mention. I've looked at going to sexual health clinics to talk, but I feel so judged and defeated before I even get there that I've never quite had the guts to go. It's been 9 months and I still feel as though I was diagnosed yesterday the way that I feel about it all!
I try and keep up to date with these blogs, but they further confuse my emotions with happiness and sadness!
Not a day goes by where my vagina feels normal anymore, and any slight sign I have that an outbreak may be coming ruins my week! After reading these blogs I'm one of the lucky ones as well! I was diagnosed, but never got told which type I had. Going on the basis of the situation I was in when i caught it, I believe I have HSV1, but is there any way of checking without an outbreak? Does HSV1 tend to have fewer outbreaks? When recurring outbreaks occur how long do they usually last?
Ideally I'd just to confide in people in the same situation as me. I know there are many people that have HSV that I probably know, but maybe like me they just keep it hush.
Hi sweet heart. I think that instead of guessing at which type you have you do need to go to the sexual health clinic.don't go alone ..take your sister as she has been supportive of you.yes it's scary but please believe me when I tell you you won't be judged by the staff as they see hundreds of cases each week.the other people you see in there are all feeling the same way you do.I'm not going to lie it's upsetting but it's at most an hour out of your day. They can even give you treatment whilst there so no going to the pharmacy and facing them x if you go for a blood test it should tell you and which type.there is a lovely lady on here who gives fantastic advice.go to my discussion and see what she has put x don't let shame or embarrassment stop you getting this sorted out you are still a lovely person. It's just a virus like a cough or sore throat but with a nasty image attached.feel free to message if you want to chat.
I would not worry about telling people. Ofcourse u got to tell guys. I only just be told last thursday and what I went through just before christmas not nice. Salt baths etc felt horrible. Not 100% but feel better.
People will judge u because they have no idea. Read, read and other peoples experiences. I would not let this stop u from living. Infact for me right now I am just heartbroken and this why I won't be dating no time soon. I tell you some guys won't be bothered. I had to tell a few not nice but they been very supportive. Infact quite shocked at responses by guys. No need to tell nobody unless a guy. This common really it is. There far worse to me and once u make peace with this yourself you be okay. You will get negative responses as people don't have a clue. Please if u need a chat I am here.
I've never had any symptoms or outbreaks whatsoever. Yet I tested positive for both types of herpes. I know it's crazy. The best thing you can do is go to a health care provider. They'll perform blood work to check for sure.if you have a outbreak they can take samples from there, but like in my case with no symptoms, they'll have to draw blood. Having a disease is hard as it is, and to have one that you can't get rid of is just unbearable. But I'm time, I'm sure we'll all heal, it's a process.