Woke up this morning feeling lightheaded and dizzy before I even got out of bed....of course, that started me in on a crying jag and worry that I'll never feel normal again....anyone have any advice for dealing with the feelings of despair and hopelessness that these physical symptoms cause? I just feel exhausted (emotionally and physically) and there are days when I want to simply stay in bed and cry.....but I don't, because that almost always makes me feel worse. I'm so angry about all of this and find myself asking "why me?"....I have friends going through perimenopause who don't have any symptoms at all....and my doctor just looks at me as though I'm crazy because my symptoms aren't typical.....
thanks.....it's almost reached the point where even i am tired of listening to myself! this forum has been such a comfort....at least i don't feel quite so alone in this.....
hope your day is improving... i use to find these feelings were at their worst at certain times of month, like PMT ( no period)
also i went through a tough time beginning of this year .... and I am almost 10 years in peri... B6 lifted me, dont know if you tried it ir can take it ..... your not alone, some sail through and some dont 😥... keep positive ...
Thanks, Jay....I've just started taking B6 on Friday....too soon to know if it will work or not, but I'm doing my best to stay optimistic. Did you experience dizziness/off-balance feelings during your ten-year journey? If so, what advice can you offer for coping with it?
yes i did.. standing in one place ... felt like falling down,, i had three faints in early peri... paramedics the lot ... eat little and often, even if you dont feel like it, just something .... especially when you get up... B6 worked for me after 7 to 10 days and I have iron too, not too much but it helped
i can still feel wobbly sometimes, but alot better now
Hello Wearykitty,I know exactly how you feel and have often felt the same. It was yesterday that I had a right good old go at my husband, it was a bad day and I felt exhausted and sore and depressed and angry. Then my neighbour called in and asked us in for aperitifs at 6 pm. I didn't want to be rude and forced myself to smile and say " Why yes we'd love to, if I haven't topped my husband by then!"
Anyways we went and were the first to arrive. The other person arrived and it took him all of 15 mins to get out of his car and walk literally 10 metres to reach the house. He was in great pain, I was so shocked when I saw him. The last time we met was about 2 yrs ago we went on a 10 km charity walk and he was the leader! He is 55 yrs old like myself. He had a stroke last year and since then has had to have physio four times a week. Okay I know it's not the same issue or pain and I know that there will be other bad days and I will cry and feel miserable, however I did and do feel better off than Hubert and I ask myself if I were in his shoes how the hell would I cope? I suppose like Hubert you have to take the good with the bad and keep being positive and not be afraid of my Doctor's looks of " what is she going on about now," or feel stupid because for the third or fifth time I have forgotten something. Take each day as it comes and try to coax that body of mine out of the bed and look around me and thank my HP for all the good things and even if it's to annoy the hell out of someone, be happy I can do it. Meanwhile check out all the things you can take and do to make you feel better. Chin up Girlie xx
Did you have any bad effects from the B6? I've just read that it can, in high doses, cause dizziness, among other serious side effects....of course, now I'm terrified that I've taken too much (along with everything else, I have developed anxiety and health anxiety coincident with the onset of perimenopause).....I took 50mg on Friday, 100mg yesterday, and 50mg this morning....does that sound like a lot?? Sorry for being a big baby....I've just got myself worked into a state.
Hi Wearykitty. I know just how you feel, I feel sick and dizzy most mornings Just like morning sickness when I was pregnant, I keep some ginger biscuits by the bed and eat 2 before I get up helps a bit, I could quite easily sit in a chair and do nothing all day luckily my dog won't let me she makes me take her out but it's a real effort. I carry emergency biscuits in my bag because need to eat every 2 hours. and dizzy when I bend over
Oops pressed sent before I had finish lol blonde moment lmao. I too have just started taking B6 on Friday so like you have my fingers crossed . How does your husband/partners cope with this I feel sorry for mine he never no's wether to come near me or not, if he touches me I am either to hot or feeling sick or to cold or headache then if he don't come near me I get upset because he's gone off me poor man lol I t does help reading on here because all my friends seem to have gone through this with out many problems and my doctors useless, just keep going xx
Hi dear the days will get better and won't last forever as we are going through a major body change. Everybody is different but my story is so similar to yours! I woke up one morning and dizzy as hell and was even throwing up each morning. The hospital said I have vertigo, which is a brutal symptom of premenopause. I have been suffering since March and felt like dying. I have been on the couch since March! . I now take a multi vitamin and B6 and B12 that helps with dizziness. I am finally feeling better since I started those B vitamins. A girl at my eye drs office was told to take B vitamins and Dr. oz mentions them. I am living proof of living through premenopause! . I finally feel like doing stuff around the house. It took about a week for the vitamins to kick in....but there is hope dear!! <3. Good Luck!
Lmao? I like you already I know poor husbands eh? But it won't last forever....I hope I send mine golfing! He understands.
My doctor too is a useless piece of crap . I am feeling better now taking B6 and B12 and a multi vitamin. It will be over soon dear and then we can celebrate old age!! yah can't wait! . Be strong and take care! xxoo
Thanks Dottie glad to hear B6 B12 work for you I live in hope. I too sent my husband golf lmao. Been about 3 years now( husband says 4 ) lmao he's been counting, my doc says lasts about 5 years but a lot on here say 9 and 10 years which is a bit worrying. Do things ever get back to normal does your sex drive ever come back? Would be good to celebrate old age lol Take care xx
Yah we can celebrate between the sheets but not now! lmao. Maybe that's why it's called men Ohhh pause a wee while. Right now I am just planning on the big survival. lmao That's ok I think this started a few years back as there are like over 30 symptoms....heart palpitations...itchy skin...allergies all of a sudden....dry dry eyes...dry mouth...thirsty all the time...hungry all the time to snack...weight gain around the middle...yup I am sure I left out some...oh yes honey let's have sex...I feel like an old fat woman!!! haha. We will survive....nobody likes change dear . P.S. I had to buy a treadmill
hello wearykitty, i started off exactly like you with all you discribe and often ask myself WHY ME and me too have no friends who are going through this, my sister is 4 yrs older than me and her periods just stopped and she has had nothing not a twing so of course she has no understanding of what i'm going through and im sure she just thinks im being dramatic as does my GP he just doesnt want to know so i'm not going back there. I can only say that reading all these posts made me realise that think is something we have to get through like millions of women and we are the unfortunate ones who have the horrendous dibilitating symptoms but it will get easier once you come to terms with it and make yoursself do things like i do, i set myself things to do which i dont want to but i'd become a hermit and had no life so had to pick myself up and go back to work, drive myself although i dont go far and do some of the things i used to in my previous life. the best thing to do is have a good whine, we are here to listen and answer back and help if poss. You can do it, try having a walk out, i couldn't even get to the end of our very short lane but i have now got my bike out and go quite a bit further. You'll get there, we have too. sending you a comforting sunday hug x
I just went out for a walk....only fifteen minutes or so, but I told myself it's better than nothing, especially since I wanted to just curl up in a ball and not move at all...the off-balance feeling is so terrifying. One of the most frustrating things is that the symptoms come and go....yesterday morning I managed a much longer walk and felt better for a bit.....then yesterday afternoon, all the symptoms were back with a vengeance....but later in the day I managed a one-hour drive by myself (which isn't always easy or possible for me) and even remarked to myself how much better I was feeling....and then this morning, right back in the soup....makes me want to scream! Anyone else have symptoms that come and go like that?
I do so appreciate everyone's kind words of support....my poor boyfriend has had to listen to this for eighteen months....he's absolutely wonderful, but can't truly understand how I feel (btw....I'm forty-five years old....I just realized that the word "boyfriend" makes me sound sixteen!)
Ohhh yes up and down. Have one good day and the next day back in the pits. Now it's 3 days in a row for me of feeling better so yippy!! That's a miracle and maybe the start of this ending! Oh and yes keep walking! Excercise is the best for premenopause and general health as we age so things don't get kinked up. You do feel better after excercise. Which reminds me I have to get on my treadmill....bye and have a good day dears!!
When I was perimenopausal I had very weird symptoms. I would give people electric shocks when they touched me at one point. Laughed at doctor when he said it was a symptom. I was only 35 at this point so struggled to get to grips with it. I have a mother in law who says she never really noticed menopause but my mother struggled a lot with hers. Everyones different. I would say your symptoms are typical, I was the same. Now Ive had the hysterectomy I get the same symptoms if I don't take hrt. Actually I get the symptoms on hrt they are just a bit less severe. A good understanding doctor is important but they are few and far between. Thankfully I have a gem. I wish I could help but I can only say feel free to moan to me anytime and you are not mad.