Really struggling, all my issues stem from my family and my Dad in particular, problem being is he texts when he can and is with a new wife!!
I am dealing with my issues at the moment and he is coming for a visit in 3 weeks time!! he moved with his new wife 4 and a half hours away down to cornwall, leaving me stuck in limbo really!!
I wanted to see him at the time we arranged it but having been dealing with my own issues i am now not sure if i want to see him when he is here! I also dont like his new wife either! She ignores me and she got him down there away from me and i have tried to get on with her but she shuts me out everytime so i dont bother with her!
Anyone got any advice, i am making myself so anxious over this it really isnt helping.
I'm a stepmom and I know where you're coming from. I tried my best in the beginning to get along with my husband's two sons 20 years ago to no avail.
Now he sees them alone and there's no conflict between us. What could have been a happy extended family never evolved unfortunately.
What I would do is to explain to your Dad your feelings (no negativity about stepmom) and say you would really love to see him on your own to enjoy each other, talk about old times, and simply relax and re-connect. Tell him about your issues and problems without the stress of his new wife being there too.
I feel for you - dealing with it all and the apathy of the new wife. Hope your anxiety lessens and you are certainly the bigger and better person than she will ever be.
Thanks Louise, I am past trying with her she blatently ignored me for 2 hours the last time he was here.
Most of my issues lie around what he has done in the past to me so at the moment i am not sure if i want to see him at all that is the dilemma. i am trying to work through the issues i have but i am just not wanting to see or speak to him at the moment.
I am not sure if it's the depression speaking or if it is what i want right now, just want to crawl into a safe place and not see anyone at the moment.
thanks, I am also a step mum to 2 of my husbands children so i know how hard it is 
Thanks Louise, I am past trying with her she blatently ignored me for 2 hours the last time he was here.
Most of my issues lie around what he has done in the past to me so at the moment i am not sure if i want to see him at all that is the dilemma. i am trying to work through the issues i have but i am just not wanting to see or speak to him at the moment.
I am not sure if it's the depression speaking or if it is what i want right now, just want to crawl into a safe place and not see anyone at the moment.
thanks, I am also a step mum to 2 of my husbands children so i know how hard it is