Really struggling, all my issues stem from my family and my Dad in particular, problem being is he texts when he can and is with a new wife!!
I am dealing with my issues at the moment and he is coming for a visit in 3 weeks time!! he moved with his new wife 4 and a half hours away down to cornwall, leaving me stuck in limbo really!!
I wanted to see him at the time we arranged it but having been dealing with my own issues i am now not sure if i want to see him when he is here! I also dont like his new wife either! She ignores me and she got him down there away from me and i have tried to get on with her but she shuts me out everytime so i dont bother with her!
Anyone got any advice, i am making myself so anxious over this it really isnt helping.
Soy madrastra y sé de dónde vienes. Hace 20 años, intenté por todos los medios al principio llevarme bien con los dos hijos de mi marido, pero sin éxito.
Ahora él los ve solo y no hay conflicto entre nosotros. Lo que podría haber sido una familia extendida feliz, lamentablemente nunca evolucionó.
Lo que haría es explicar a tu papá tus sentimientos (sin negatividad sobre la madrastra) y decirle que realmente te encantaría verlo a solas para disfrutar el uno del otro, hablar de los viejos tiempos y simplemente relajarse y reconectarse. Cuéntale sobre tus problemas e inquietudes sin el estrés de que su nueva esposa esté allí también.
Me pongo en tu lugar, lidiar con todo y la apatía de la nueva esposa. Espero que tu ansiedad disminuya y eres, sin duda, la persona más grande y mejor que ella será alguna vez.
Thanks Louise, I am past trying with her she blatently ignored me for 2 hours the last time he was here.
Most of my issues lie around what he has done in the past to me so at the moment i am not sure if i want to see him at all that is the dilemma. i am trying to work through the issues i have but i am just not wanting to see or speak to him at the moment.
I am not sure if it's the depression speaking or if it is what i want right now, just want to crawl into a safe place and not see anyone at the moment.
thanks, I am also a step mum to 2 of my husbands children so i know how hard it is 
Thanks Louise, I am past trying with her she blatently ignored me for 2 hours the last time he was here.
Most of my issues lie around what he has done in the past to me so at the moment i am not sure if i want to see him at all that is the dilemma. i am trying to work through the issues i have but i am just not wanting to see or speak to him at the moment.
I am not sure if it's the depression speaking or if it is what i want right now, just want to crawl into a safe place and not see anyone at the moment.
thanks, I am also a step mum to 2 of my husbands children so i know how hard it is