Hi all you Fibro Friends..
I am stuck in a rut at the moment and can't seem to get myself out of it.
I am full of good intentions to go out and about, but when the day comes its as if I am too scared to go through the door
Any ideas on how to get motivted?
Hi Anne.
I started to do volunteer work with Beanstalk - I read with children in school twice a wk for 1& half hours each time. It's just enough to get me out of the house and I feel useful. Plus because I've promised to do my best to keep to it each wk unless I feel really rough I make myself go.
dont no hun can you tell me if you find out,hahahaha
just having a laugh well you have to dont you .
your proberly feel like me why bother i am only go to pay for it later
which is how i feel when i think about it i deeply want to
i am sick of the four walls that have become my prison
and i my body which keeps me locked up in it
i am afraid of going out on my own because the last time i did i fell and broke my nose . i do push myself sometimes for a brisk walk then i feel realy great so i go for several days then wham i can hardly service .
i think the only thing to do is make a mental
map right i am going here and here then i am having a drink and a rest then i am coming home . its diffitcult but i think the only way . i am going thru a crisis at the moment so when they sort out whats wrong
i will be taking my own advice .
hopefuly i will feel better and more up to it
good luck so couldnt be more help
Hi Kathleen
Keep up the good work that you do, thanks for responding..
Hi Tis
Sounds like we are in the same booat, there must ba an answer out there somewhere..Thanks for responding..
i think we should do a chart like they do for kids
do it weekly with something you plan to do every day next to each day
of the week
then put cold star next to the ones you managed
and reward yourself with something nice at the end of the week
never no it might work
shall consider it myself as soon as i am up to it
Perhaps you could arrange to go out with someone?
I know how you feel, I've been stuck at home for over three weeks. Hubby had an op last week and I'm in a cast with crutches so finding it very difficult to get about on my own and frankly scared stiff of going anywhere with lots of people in case I get knocked over.
OOOO' this is expectantly what mr Fibro wants..that was me once..years ago...I had to motivate myself by: commitment to volunteer with people much less fortunate than me...I was sooo good for me. Yes certainly there was times I just couldn't do it...but we had an understanding....I really hated missing it in the end....I would come home very sore indeed, but realized very soon..I was still very sore indeed just staying home..only mentally not mixing with anyone was sooo bad...very stressful..being home on your own all day...what do you concentrate on..yes. Your pain...please don't let Fibro win that one too. I am really feeling for you Anne...having someone who supports you is always good too to help with motivation...even if there's not anyone..you must remember how much others less fortunate need you..how vitally important you could be to them...you are soo important...really hope you can get out that front door and be powered by just what you do have to offer, it'll do you sooo good and amaze you at what you have to offer..Anne..have a great Eastertime, be blessed.:-) xxxx
Hi Susan
Oh you poor thing, hope ll goes well for you.
Have a good day..Anne..
Morning Christine..thanks for your reply..I think yesterday was the lull before the storm..today I am in so much pain, feel as though I have had a good kicking Yes I know its our friend Fibro having yet another go..
I have been indoors all week, I am hopeless mixing with others, its ok on here to chat though. I will be home alone at Easter time, as my husband is a HGV Driver and works away,and my 3 grown up children in their late thirties don't visit either as they say its too far to travel 30 mins by car!! Never mind, I have everyone on here to chat too. Have a good day..Anne..
30 mins by car is nothing I only wished my children lived so close. My daughter lives in Wales and it takes a about 1 and half hr on a good run we try to see each other every school holiday. My son lives near Brighton and that takes at least 5 hrs by car if no problems on road but has been known to take 8 hrs. I sometimes visit him on the train as I find it an easier journey than by car. I wish I saw more of home and his family but we do meet up about 3 or 4 times a year and when I visit him I stay for 4 days so get nice quality time with them. I'm always in agony when I return but it's worth it to see them. My grandchildren brighten my day. X
my family is 3and half four hrs away by car ,and i havent been up to going for a visit in many years .mysister in law has been down a few times but iv struggled to keep up and paid the price for trying
Poor you Anne, really feeling for you..being alone is so not good, have a lovely Eastertime, be blessed.....thinking of you and praying for you..gentle hugs across the miles..:-) xxxx
Hi Anne,
Yes, sorry to say that this is how I feel as well. I have been helping my brother with a project this week and it has killed me three days of about 3-4 hours each day and today I am wiped out. I will push myself out the door again tomorrow but it will be very tough.
Hubby has been driving me nuts, he's now feeling fine but can't go back to work yet, and the weather hasn't been good enough for him to get out in the garden so he's been giving me the benefit of his advice. Thankfully it's Easter holidays and five year old Grandson Ryan has been here keeping him busy, otherwise I might have been tempted to rip my cast off and beat him over the head with it. Here's a few of his recent ideas.
He's never broken a bone in his body, and I'm no weight bearing on my broken foot and ankle - I'm not using my crutches correctly, he demonstrated I pointed out he used both feet. A while later he asked me if I'd tried putting weight on my cast, I answered no, he told me he thought I should, again no in the end I had to find a Dr on YouTube to explain the importance of staying off my leg.
He wanted to book a holiday for us, just a week somewhere we've been before, rooms are on a hill side with at least three or four flights of steps. Then the restaurants are a good half a mile walk away, he wants to go in about six weeks?? Someone up there was looking out for me, he needs to renew his passport first.
Hi Graham, thanks for your reply..Unfortunatly I have not been out for over a week, and my husband sugested on Saturday as it was a nice day that we went to visit a period property (national trust)..So to keep the piece I went, did not go up stairs just ground floor and a little stroll in the gardens...Today, as you can guess I can hardly move can't even turn my head to the right for pains in my neck..You will laugh, I am in my night attire with heating on full, two heat pads at my back and wearing a scarf around my neck to warm the pain..Boy, I wish I had stayed in yesterday and come on this site, I am sure it would have been less painfull. Wish someone was here to make me a cup of tea...Hope you are having a better day..Anne..
How sad is that Anne..a 30 minute car ride...never mind..you are in a very loving, caring and most empathetic environment on here..we do have to like our own company..don't we? well, at least learn to, being on our own soo much. I really missed this site when it was down yesterday... this must be a real lifeline for many people...from all around the world..apart from being encouraged by each other when we are down or having a bad flare up, it's sooo nice to get to know each other..I really couldn't wait to see how everyone was going today...really hope you have a lovely day..be blessed..chat soon..:-) xxx
my daughter is 15mins from me and could easly catch a train to visit but shes to busy with her life to fit me in .
she will only miss me when i am dead .
i no she works full time but once a month wouldnt kill her .
she would have been in a right mess if i had said sorry to ill to bring your shopping and money over when she was on part time work .
to tired and want to keep our own money for stuff we need when we brought her carpets and a cooker curtains etc .
it does hurt we dont want thanks all the time i wanted to help my daughter when she was struggling
but i struggle every day and she never comes to visit unless my husband picks her up .and brings her over .it just seems to me i am not worth the effort . does hurt .
Thank you Christine
I dread a time when I can't go at all at the mo I can just about manage it now and again. Although I always pay for it afterwards - some journeys are worse than others. Xx