Hi- for as much of a comfort it is to know im not alone with a lot of what im feeling, do any of you find sometimes it gives you more anxiety when you read the posts? Like sometimes i dont want to read anything because i almost feel worse after and i hope nobody takes offense to that bcuz i feel like i know you guys haha even tho i dont. Maybe because it makes things so much more real? Sometimes i think if i just stop reading things and start forcing myself to do things even wth how weak shaky, anxious and miserable im feeling I'll feel better but then the vicious cycle begins all over again. I hope u guys understand what im saying and im making sense and not offending anyone because thats not what im intending to say is that you guys give me anxiety haha because you dont, for some reason there are times i get notification of a post and i dont even read it because im afraid and i dont know why:( sorry for the babbling just wondering if im the only one who feels this way at times. Hugs to all ❤
I totally understand what you’re saying it’s all got to do with anxiety I also get anxious about everything and anything watching a movie reading the newspaper watching a game of football generally I’m all over the place just try and be kind to yourself
I understand Susan. Sometimes it gives comfort but other times if you’re a bit vulnerable it can feel like you’re taking on the weight of everyone’s symptoms. I generally check in and out of the form. Sometimes I ask a question and lots of times I answer, but I try to limit both to when I’m not in a panic, or desperate. Otherwise I over analyse everything. I don’t think we are alone in feeling that way, it’s the gift and the curse of forums, but as long as its more help than harm you’re fine xx
Hi to another Susan , i a sort of know what you mean but gps will say dont look up your symptoms on the internet! There’s so many different things we already had wrong with us before we went through peri menopause and proper menopause that these things will have an affect on each one of us, for instance someone who already has arthritis may say menopause is giving them terrible aching limbs but if they had arthritis before hand its just the way it may be affecting that person. Knowing we are all suffering from this is what unites us but obviously we will all feel different . To read what some ladies are going though i must admit i wouldn’t have wanted to read them before i started the peri stage. Think its good to know others are suffering the same as us especially if they have tips to cope with these as well. At the end of the day its up to you if you find reading others comments helps you when you see some helpful suggestions, or if reading some comments makes you feel panicky , maybe best not to read at all. But its like me reading about all the horrendous storys of those who apply for PIP (the benefit that’s replacing DLA)and the way they have been treated and coming away with no points, read so many that i dont want to apply myself now! As Betty says its all to do with anxiety which i too have so fully understand.
Susan
susan i know what you mean i stopped receiving notification because they made me feel worse and i stopped coming the site for about 6 months in 2016 but im back as i do get a lot of comfort from knowing others are the same as me and i do get answers to lots of my questions but having said that i do totally understand what you mean and im sure no one will be offended.
hugs x
I understand what you’re saying.. Because sometimes I read things that I haven’t yet experienced and I’m like “Oh great. Another thing to look forward to”. But to answer your question.. No.. reading here also gives me a sense that we are all going through this together and it greatly helps me knowing a I’m not dying..or going crazy.. because how could ALL of us women be dying or going crazy right?? Not likely..
And then there are the very encouraging things like what I did last night… I’m on the bhrt since March, and I actually had the energy and the want to to go to a friend’s housewarming party, AND met another friend at a restaurant/bar for drinks and great conversation…for 4 hours even…AND I drove myself to all of it!!! Got home at 1:30 a.m. It was so liberating and freeing…and just what my soul needed.. so I’d say it benefits me way more than it discourages me to read these posts!!
completely understand what you mean it is a two way street! Eventhough it can give uou comfort at times it is not the same if were in the same room together talking there is a much stronger impact when your face to face talking you know what i mean the expression is different! i know that if im texting someone about how i feel it is different when im face to face the experience and impact so i understand what your saying! Even now last few days im overly sensative angry emotional fustrated and to be home soing same ■■■■ everyday just makes it worst cause u think more about it
I understand exactly how you feel.
Sometimes I come on here for advice about things that I am going through and I really appreciate the replies. then sometimes I read some of the letters and I think you can’t blame the menopause for everything that is wrong with your body, I do think there is a connection between hormones and anxiety, but I think the rest is down to age and in my case being overweight.
I probably won’t be popular on this forum but I have found that I have had replies from the same person saying she has what I have and she has also replied to other users saying she has all their symptoms in a completely different illness, so I looked back all the replies and found that the person is on every day and agrees with having most of the illnesses on this forum and o n other forums.
My wish for you good mental health and overall health and to remember none of us are doctors but we are trying to get some help as there is not a lot forthcoming from doctors.
And no your not babbling sometimes I go off here feeling worse than when I came on and then I think are all these members truly unwell or are they looking for attentions nothing wrong with that, just don’t lie.
I LOVE THE FACT YOU ACTUALLY SAID YOU MAY OFFEND SOMEONE, as its first step to not giving a toss about what other people think and that’s two fingers up to anxiety, which I am hoping to do. Well done…
I used to read all of the posts and I found it helped me more them hurt me. Let me give you some reassurance though. It gets better. I suffered for 4 +years with perimenopause symptoms. I’m 16 months period free and 56 years old. I feel so much better! My best advice is to watch what you eat. FOOD plays a big part in how you feel!
This forum is Blessing for me..I Joined in feb this year I started feeling better afterwards ..earlier my condition was very bad…i feel alone …always thinking what’s going on with me…didnot get any ans …no one understand my symtoms Neither my family nor my friends..Dr’s too donot have any idea…sometimes they say its migrane then sometimes give me antidepression pills…No one told me its Peri…BIG THANKS to all who replyed my post and give me tips how to tackle this difficult phase of life…many of u give me positivity … and after reading friends post discussing my problems with u all..getting soo much valuable suggestions i started feeling good…my symtoms r not gone i am still suffering but yes i started using good tips by u all…i learn how to handle this phase ..By knowing we all r suffering by almost same symtoms…its part of womanhood. .its difficult phase of life but it will go soon…HANG IS THERE .we all will be fine..
Thanks alot all
This forum never give me Anxiety..but release my tension by knowing i am not alone..we all r suffering with almost same symtoms .
I always try to reply friends post because i know how it feel when u get reply and feel relaxed that ur not alone struggling…its part of perimenopause..phase of life..we all in same boat..
Take care friends
Love u all .
I donot know u all personally but by this forum i am connecting with u all with special Bond of friendship.
You all r supportive system for me.
Thanks
Sunaina
I am having many symtoms from last year but at that time i donot have idea its Harmones doing all this.
every time i was thinking what going on…No Idea at that time…i Google my symtoms and soo many scary things come into my mind. ..By thinking soo many bad things i start feeling depressed and sad…my symtoms increases…now when i read other friends post i realise that at that time my peri started…i have these symtoms Knee pain…headaches …breast tenderness all is because of changing harmones …
Now with other friends post and their symtoms i can co relate mine..
And if u know its Harmones..its part of womanhood u start accepting it and feel little less depressed and sad…So for me this FORUM IS BLESSING..discussing my problem give me relief not physically but yes mentally…
Sometimes i think i should know about this forum earlier…
Tk
i totally get it 
THANK YOU NANCY
i know, unfortunately i have an eating disorder:) whole nother long story. its a bad struggle.
Thank you Sunaina I think of all of you as friends also So wish we were all in the same area and could have meetings like every week haha
Thank you heather i do agree wth you- There are other things that come in to play other then hormones at least for me anyways:) I wish for better days for all
Thank you, I was hoping i worded it the right way
you did perfectly
For me its been a blessing. Thanks to this forum I understood so many things about perimenopause and menopause.Thanks to the lovely ladies here and tips, I try to eat healthy and take supplements etc.
I think we all understand exactly what you’re feeling, Susan39015. Health anxiety seems to be a big part of this menopause thing!
Sometimes I won’t even read a post, depending upon what the title suggests. It may ramp up my fears . On the other hand it feels good to be able to reassure one of us that she is not alone or crazy or dying! It is reassuring to know that others feel what you do, and are coping.
So i totally understand what you’re saying …hugs!!