He is very aware
First of all, well done for telling him! That's so brave how did you tell him?! I also have a friend I have known for a few years and he has shown an interest in taking it further we have been seeing each other a few times but no sexual contact of course ... I've told him I want to wait a while for any sexual contact which he is fine with he said he doesn't mind waiting as long as I'm comfortable. Which I feel is a good start but you can never predict how someone is going to act!
I'm on daily suppressive too but I have HSV2 and it has also given me comfort in knowing it's going to prevent me having outbreaks in going to the doctors next week to see if they are going to allow me to carry on with it ... I'm just worried too they are going to take me off it! But I don't want to be dependant on it .....
Honestly it was sooo hard to tell him. We met up and I lie to you not I kept laughing from nervousness for about 5 minutes. He just kept looking at me like I was nuts. Then he was saying "just tell me what's wrong". So I explained everything. He said it's not that big of a deal as long as I continue to take care of myself.
My biggest fear is giving it to someone else. I'm still on the meds..almost afraid to come off. If I gave it to him or anyone else I'd feel so bad.
I think I'm going to have to tell him soon he's already told his friends about me but I just keep putting it off! I'm just so scared of rejection as I got rejected last time and I would hate for him to then tell his friends he's not seeing me anymore because I have herpes!
I can completely relate with you about that being the biggest fear but let's be realistic and positive here ... It's 4% transmission rate infected female to non infected male and that's without protection or meds and its actuslly 1% using condom and on meds! .... So 99% chance they won't get it! ... But if this is the case then how do so many people have HSV2?
Are the statistics same for 2? Idk how so many people have it. I suppose because so many aren't aware that they do indeed have it. It's insanity.
If he rejects you then he wasn't worth it! An ex I had planned on getting back with called me damaged goods and I haven't heard from him since. Does it hurt? Yes. But I realized he wasn't in it for love..clearly. I believe in you! Be brave. I hope the outcome is good ❤️
Because many people don't realise they have HSV-2. never tested and either no symptoms or mild symptoms that they attributed to something else...
Those transmission risk stats relate to Type 2, btw, so I suspect it's much lower for Type 1. But are you definitely Type 2? I thought you felt it could be due to oral sex, in which case you're more likely Type 1.
Yes that's all the statistics for type 2 ... I found it on a site called herpes opportunity. That's the only good thing about this I guess makes it easier to choose between the idiots and the nice guys ... However it does hurt a lot of course, but what doesn't kill you makes you stronger I guess! I'm just more worries as to how am I gonna start this conversation off? What do I even say without freaking him out? ... I know there isn't a script for this kinda stuff!
Thank you 3NuMe I appreciate it! ☺️
Yeah I mean I wasn't sure because the bastar* that infected me doesn't seem to have a clue what is going on with himself at all! He mentioned that he might be getting a cold sore then changed it to be a spot and just brushed it off ... But I never actually saw it in person.
But when I was diagnosed I was just told yup looks like herpes to me ... I was so unaware of what it was until I got home and googled it ofc.
I've now been on supressive treatment a little under a month I've been taking 2 tablets a day which has stopped the outbreaks completely! For the time being tho anyway....
Changing the subject but talking about oral sex do you have to let a guy know you have it? Surely not as it's extremely uncommon for it to be passed to the mouth?
Well how I did it was tell my guy I needed to speak to him about something. When I told him I just like spilled it out. I have herpes. Then I explained what happened. Idk your guy and how he'd better receive it. I think regardless of how you say it, reassure him. I think many freak out because they don't know much about HSV. I really do hope it goes well. And you welcome! ❤️
Personally, I think those with genital HSV-2 can receive oral sex without having to disclose, since the transmission risk is very low and oral HSV-2 barely causes a problem, even if contracted.
However, this assumes that you definitely have HSV-2 (confirmed by IgG or swab), plus I wouldn't allow a guy down there in the first 3 months of infection minimum. Studies have shown new infections to be more infectious during the first 3 months (and during the first year generally). That study looked at women with HSV-2.
Those with genital HSV-1 shed much less, but the above still applies, just to a lesser degree. Since Type 1 prefers the mouth (and can even be spread to other body parts), more care should be taken with those who don't have HSV-1, whether orally or genitally.
Waaaait I'm glad you brought this up. My outbreak was in my butt and spread a little to my vagina but didn't really get on it like that. My labia and clit are fine. My question is can I still get tongue serviced down there OR should everything be quarantined?
Unfortunately, shedding can occur anywhere within the boxer short region, though not all over that area at any one time. Problem is we don't know when or from where we're shedding! Initial lesion location makes no difference to this random, silent shedding.
P.S. Shedding from mucosal areas like the vagina is more infectious than shedding from regular skin, unless lesions are present.
Oral sex will never be the same again. It makes me so sad!
Find someone who used to have cold sores, then it should be fine, lol! Failing that, just give it a few months to play it extra safe, avoid outbreaks/prodrome, and take the meds daily. Type 1 really doesn't shed that much generally. You're so lucky! Really!!
Lmao I've been telling my friend I need to find a man with a bump bump 😂
Haha, actually, I think you'll do well! Hone in on decent but self-conscious guys with crusty lips and they'll be so excited that you paid them any attention at all, they'll think you're super amazing, accepting and understanding, so you'll be able to win them over easy, lmao!
LMFAOOOOOOO OMG I LAUGHED SO HARD HAHA
Hahaha, glad I made you laugh, and that's definitely an awesome strategy! ;D