If you do consider a lens exchange, you might check on the idea of the Crystalens accommodating IOL rather than a monofocal. It is a single focus lens, which merely may accommodate to provide at least a bit more near than a monofocal. It depends on how picky you are about visual quality at distance, since its likely not quite as good as a good monofocal like the Tecnis. Though actually at least the FDA approval data for the lenses show the Crystalens has more of a risk of halos&glare than the Symfony lens (which is an extended depth of focus lens, not a multifocal), but I can understand that someone who had difficulty with a lens with diffractive optics like a trifocal might hesitate about using another lens with diffractive optics.
Unfortunately some people do take longer to adapt to multifocals, even if some adapt very quickly, and 3 weeks is fairly early on so its still possible you'd adapt (though a risk that you won't).
You say your distance vision is worse, do you know if you were left myopic perhaps, or with some residual astigmatism (which can happen even if you had none preop), do you know what your residual refractive error is? If that is the issue it could be addressed via laser correction. (the small amount of laser correction used for fine tuning vision after surgery isn't viewed as being a problem for a multifocal, its only the larger corrections people with high prescriptions get that is a concern).
Unfortunately some of the symptoms you refer to like halos are things that many people see in the initial period after surgery, but which fade over the first few months due to healing and neuroadaptation. Most studies on IOLs only report data on issues like halo&glare at the 3 month or 6 month point after people have adapted, when most people don't report problems (though unfortunately *someone* winds up being the "statistic", even monofocal IOLs cause trouble for some people).
The reference to things being "misty" makes me wonder if there is any chance you might have a rare case of early PCO (posterior capsular opacification) which happens to a minority of people with IOLs. It usually happens some months (or years) afterwards, but it can happen right after surgery. Though if you'd seen another surgeon I'd have hoped one of them would have noticed it.
You say your eyes were healthy, but did you ever have refractive surgery before this, like LASIK or PRK? (those who used surgery to correct their distance vision when younger are often the ones who seek out refractive lens exchange for presbyopia). Sometimes multifocals work well for those with prior refractive surgery, but other times, especially if their surgery was done using older laser technology, there is corneal irregularity from the surgery which doesn't play well with the optics of a multifocal IOL. (other times its not an issue, good doctors will do scans to see if its an issue).
Alternatively, if you are one of those lucky people that had good distance vision without correction and without having had sugery, and were just looking for a solution for presbyopia, you may be more sensitive to any reduction in visual quality than those who have been used to having poor vision without correction. Those doing refractive lens exchange also often have higher expectations than those with poor vision from cataracts where usually whatever they get will be a big improvement from their cataract-impaired vision.
Although a trifocal has less of a drop at intermediate than a bifocal, it still does have a bit of a drop. I almost went for a trifocal, but chose the Symfony partly due to its focus on better quality intermediate and lower risk of halos. My distance&intermediate vision is better than I remember it ever being with contacts&glasses (part of that is the visual quality of the Symfony, though I gather in general with high myopes that is sometimes true after cataract surgery when the correction is done via IOL rather than contacts/glasses).
I second your suggestion that people do a contact lens trial. In your case you didn't have a cataract to interfere with it. Unfortunately often by the time people have cataracts, the reduction in visual quality means they can't do a good test. I think eye doctors should urge anyone old enough to be presbyopic, *before* they are more likely to get cataracts, and even if they don't normally wear contacts, to do a contact lens trial with multifocal contacts and monovision contacts to see what they prefer. (also of course anyone reading this should urge friends/family to do so).
Sorry to hear about the results, and that they didn't pay attention to the results of your multifocal contact lens trial. Although its true that the optics of a multifocal IOL are usually different (and better) than those of a multifocal contact lens, it should be a warning sign if someone doesn't adapt to those. They still might adapt to a multifocal IOL due to its differences, but its best to be very cautious, especially if someone is doing elective refractive lens exchange rather than cataract surgery that is needed.
In my case I preferred multifocal contacts to contacts in monovision. I'd worn monovision contacts for a few years before trying multifocals, with the difference between the eyes slowly increasing. I hadn't noticed I was losing depth perception, monovision had worked ok. However when I tried multifocal contacts it seemed things were subtly more 3D, I had the sense that I'd been missing something with monovision, which is part of why I'd figured I'd get a premium IOL rather than monovision with IOLs.