Hi ,
I have suffered from GAD since I was 16. I'm 50 now.
my latest flare up started around March when a few things happened all at once.
Firstly my Son has had An allegation of rape made
Against him at Uni.
he is still waiting to see if they have a case to continue.
secondly I had a motorcycle accident and broke my wrist with other aches and pains.
thirdly,I was scheduled to have 6 teeth removed..the anasthetict did not agree with we,I sugffered with nausea and dizziness for weeks after.
my Mum has recently had a fall and broke her hip ,she's 78 and I'm worried about her.
anyone of thesis things could start off my anxiety,but all 4 at once over a couple of months have tipped me over the edge.
my current symptoms are constant nausea,butterflies in the tummy,
and head pressure and llightheadedness.
i know the drill as I am a veteran sufferer
Accept these symptoms and try to get on with your day as best you can without paying them too much attention.to them.
found this forum by chance and think it is great to be able to share concerns with people who "get it".
hi Peter
I've found if something have happened that's worried me or stressed me out bad then for the next few weeks my anxiety goes through the roof until I can build up the confidence to control it again
you got some big stressful events that's happened to you there it would tip anybody over the edge
but like you said your a veteran sufferer you know what it takes to beat it!
I can relate to the nausea aswell that's my main and worse symptom and I got a phobia of being sick so it's like a vicious circle
I can totally empathise with you Carl
the nausea is a nasty symptom.
are you currently working?
it does seem a struggle at times trying to get through the day when you have thses symptoms simmering inside you.
good luck on your journey Carl.
yeah I am working only few months of the year tho cause I'm in the garden trade can't do much in the winter! I was working in a shop and found it hard always worked closely to toilet or main do incase the feelings got to bad I had to run off! I've never actually been sick from it but the feelings are so strong it's like right on the edge to being sick! it does affect my life in a big way can't travel far in a car and stuff like that
Hi Peter, I've also had a really stressful last few months...My dad died after being sick for 6 months which really hit me hard.
On top of that, I had big exams almost directly after, so that certainly didn't help. I'm relatively new to anxiety and have many scary symptoms. I have ringing in my ears ( Tinnitus ) but I am starting to get used to this. I also have this weird feeling in my head. Do to uhave any tips about coping?
Thanking you, Jack
sorry to hear about your dad jack
most of the symptoms are scary and your mind always make you think the worst
iv had my cheek feeling like it's dropping and pains in chest and makes you think it's like heart attack or stroke! I read in a self help book it's usual just the nerves tensing up but at the time scares the hell out of you
little trick with most symptoms is take long slow breaths in through the nose and then slowly out through the mouth I find this the most effective to calm yourself down just keep doing it until it pass!
Peter, please do yourself a huge favor and go to your doctor for an AS NEEDED anti anxiety med. You need to know it's there if and when you need it. Please...check it out.
Meanwhile we are here to talk to, and we indeed "get it." Big Hugs
Plz see a dr. Ur stress level has leaped to a higher degree than most are equipped to handle alone. You may be helped thru this time with meds designed to help balance hormones and mood swings from all the stress you have been thru.
There are many anti depressant on the market that can help with the stress and anxiety in you life especially at this point. When it rains it pours.
I am very sorry your son is in that situation it's so upsetting for any parent. Our children are our hearts. I understand all to well as my son is a alcoholic for 20 years, watched him self destruct. It is so heart breaking to watch our children suffer. We love them no matter what!
Also the motorcycle accident can wreak havoc on every muscle in your body for weeks. Been there done that. I was in a coma.Sorry that you broke your arm. You were very lucky that was all. What happened if I may ask?
The cumulative nature of one thing adding up after another is building up stress & speaking from experience can lead to other illness. I hope you have someone to talk to because truly it's not healthy to keep it all bottled up alone.
If I may suggest you see a professional to help you thru this time. You will be in a better state to cope and help yourself as well as your son.
Mental health is is very important for us all to consider when life begins to overwhelm us. It's really no different than seeing a dr when you broke your arm. A psy doc can help give you coping tools to direct your life in a more controlled setting even meds to assist for awhile can be a great deal of help and relief from all the stress.
Been thru a great deal myself. I was very stubborn for the first year after my accident and became very ill until I finally began to see a mental health professional. Helped me thru a great deal.
Don't give this stress another moment to mess with you take the steps now and make that phone call to ur doc for a referral.
Very concerned friend,
HOPE
Hi Jack,
incidently that's my sons name.
i totally know what you mean by weird felling in your head.
do you get lightheaded as well? The best way I can describe mine is like an elastic band tight around my forehead.
Rest assured this will ease,I know it probably don't seem that way but it will.
try to go about your daily routine by accepting that it is there,but don't give it too much respect,you will gradually notice that it will slowly lessen,for an hour,a day,then a week etc.this may sound weird,but I use a hair tonic called bay rum,I rub it on to my forehead and it lessens the sensation of the pressure it is also a pleasant smell.
good luck on your journey Jack.
Hi hope,
thank you for your kind words.
i actually went into the back of a car after being distracted briefly...as you said it could have been a lot worse!
Seeing my son going thru this ordeal is heartbreaking.
i know him, and I totally accept his version of events.
The case will probably be dropped due to lack of evidence,but it does not
stop me worrying.
he has had to drop out of Uni for a year and his life is on hold.
will see a health professional x
That's exactly what my feeling is, however it is both the head pressure and lightheaded feeling together I will try the hair tonic and see if it works, thanks, jack
Thanks Karl, I have tried the breathing and it works! I also found exercise helps me greatly, my symptoms were almost gone before I pulled muscles in my chest and had to stop for a few weeks
no problem jack that's good tho you know how to deal with it now! hope you make quick recovery ☺
Accidents can happen within a split second. I have been riding for years. I was hit at a stop sign by a drunk driver. Killed my husband and I was in therapy for months learning how to walk, write identify items etc.
I understand how incredibally stressful this is to watch your son go thru this. I hope this case is dropped. If there is a way to help him cope with the pain your support is essential. At this point the legal issues have both your lives in a turmoil and at a standstill. He may need counceling as well to help cope with all the stress. Look thru his eyes watching his dad and grandmother suffer as well as what he caused and not thru any control he had under the circumstances, he needs to find peace in all this too. I highly recommend this as a matter so extremely important now. This is to help put this all in perspective for him and remain positive not bitter. This one episode can effect his attitude for the rest of his life. He is hurting too. Needs to see a professional ASAP. Of course this care for mental stability is not a option at this point. It is absolutely necessary just as if he broke his arm and needs to have it set. In many ways this is another way to reset the mind and brain before damage is done thru holding feelings in which can come out in other negative ways. We have all seen it before many times thru friends children & other examples.
I have had both hips replaced and I hope your mother is doing well. It is painful. I hope she is on pain meds and kept comfortable. Is she home or in recovery.
just as a suggestion if possible It would help your son to take care of her when she is home. There are a lot of restraints for weeks after hip injuries. This will help your son feel as though he has purpose in his life to be there for his grandmother. Let him help with meals, learn to cook &clean her home go shopping for her regardless if she has other help. This is a good way for Jack to overcome stress by helping others. If she lives in the same area.this is a great way to pass time with a heavy heart he must cope with daily & with serious issues that can effect his life.
Jack is young and his brain has not totally stopped growing to function well on his own to cope & make the mature decisions required & develop coping strategies thru all of these issues. Mental health at his young age is extremely important. A psy can help teach him life long coping tools & strategies for dealing with life and stress especially now. Do you think he would be open to a counseling session?
I am concerned because I have seen how some things over time can become so out of control , to the point where you have no control. I don't want this to happen to you Peter or Jack. I hope that I have shared with you all that I can to help sustain you thru this journey.
This too has hurt my heart. I know the pain and know what your both suffering . Remember. As long as there is breath there is HOPE !
HOPE 
Aahh,
thank you Hope.
so sorry for your loss .
what a great idea for Jack to look after his Nan during this trying time.
i have book a holiday for me and Jack early Sept.
he should have some resolution to his case shortly after.
Peter x
Let me know how Jack's case works out. Hope your mom will be on her feet by sept. And your cast off. Much of this all behind you.
On and moving foreward!
Keep in touch?
HOPE.
I am a veteran of anxiety also. Started in my teens, when there weren't these meds, to make us better. I am 57 now,so I know what your saying. The head fullness, and light headness,along with being dizzy, is the worst, along with 10 other symptoms. Been there lot's of times. What pushed me over the edge is when I had a panic attack, and couldn't come out of it. It lasted months. Almost did me in. Terrible and awful. The thing with anxiety, is it's away's hiding around the corner,ready to attack, when we least expect it. I am better now and have been for years. I was a nervous child, and grew up to a anxious adult, so I know that I will alway's be on meds. I have been really free of this for the past 9 yrs,thank god. You should call your doctor and try a antidepressant. It may well save you from this terrible thing.
Hi Kim,
i too had been symptom free give or take the odd hiccup for about 4 yrs.
i honestly thought it was a chapter in my life that was over now,
since it's return I am coming to terms that it will always be part of me for the rest of my life.
having that long period of feeling well has given me hope for the future
But I must admit I am in a bit of a rut since it's return,
thing is I know the symptoms will ease but I feel impatient with time and I know that is the wrong attitude to have
peter x