Hi I've had this problem for nearly 9 years now. I've been to many different doctors, and I still don't have an answer.
Basically every single time I have sex, that's even if I can have sex, I tear in my vaginal opening. Mainly the bottom part.
It can happen in foreplay, or trying to have sex.
I always make sure I'm lubed up, always go slow, try to be relaxed as possible, and stop when it gets sore. It just seems to tear almost straight away, over the tiniest bit of pressure. Then sometimes it burns when I wee afterwards, as the tears can be quite deep.
I've been with my boyfriend for almost 7 years, we've both been tested for STDs, I don't have thrush, and the doctors don't seem to be much help.
Even though we can't have sex, we are still sexually active, and have a happy healthy relationship, but as you can imagine not being able to have sex can be frustrating.
I have Different sized dildos to graduate slowly, and still this doesn't help.
So please if anyone knows why this is happening, it would be very very helpful.
I've been through all the obvious things, so maybe something more unusual/not very common is going on?
it sounds like you have thinning of the perenieum which is then tearing, i dont know too much about it personally but from what I have read online it is quite common, the only advice everyone seems to have is to have a lot of foreplay beforehand and try positions that you can control such as you on top, but try out different ones to see what works. They also mentioned a cream called estrace which numbs the area and helps with healing. I have also read that the pill if you are on it may be the cause of these issues, it would be something to look into.
Hi Sarah, could it be possible that you have vaginismus? I have had vaginismus - although I'm on the mend now - and it too causes pain during and after sex.
As women get older particularly after menopause, they lose estrogen which causes thinning of the vaginal walls, dryness, and the mucuous membranes even begin to split with what feel like paper cuts. Painful. Sex can become out of the question unless treated with an estrogen based cream or suppository. This is not an oral pill thus the estrogen doesn't go throughout the entire body. Perhaps Doc can test your hormone levels to see what's going on. If estrogen is low then this is the usual remedy to make the skin there healthy and decrease risk of infections through broken skin. If you are younger this is still worth a check to see if you have hormonal issues and to help determine the cause of any irregularity.
Estrace does not numb the area. It increases the healthiness of the tissue helping to heal broken skin. The healing reduces the pain. Sex can then become pleasurable again due to health.
I have the same problem. I heavily bleed and tear the bottom part of my vaginal opening every time during sex. I just turned 19 last week so I'm still young. I always thought it was only a first time thing but it happens every time. I give myself a week or two to heal but it always happens. I don't know why. I haven't been to a doctors office since I left my pediatrician because I turned 18 so I don't have a doctor to go to and I'm really personal about doctors and getting checked down there. I don't know what to do.
Hi, I had the exact same problem so my gynaecologist did an operation on me. She removed the area that kept tearing and pulled skin from inside the vagina out and stitched it over the removed skin! It was an extremely painful recovery and 6 weeks later I tried having sex again. I have the exact same problem, it didn't fix anything! I'm so so depressed over this as my partner and I never have sex anymore and I feel so guilty. Iv tried dialators which didn't help either! I'm at my wits end!
I'm only 24 and have been investigating for the past 6 years. I'm currently seeing a doctor (whose been the most helpful) who has be starting a combination of oestrogen and testosterone cream and just done tests in my hormone levels (highly recommend getting this done) and also the possibility of it being a gluten intolerance/coeliac disease as well. I'll keep you updated if I find anything that works! I've just started the cream and get the gluten tests in 6 weeks.
I feel ya! I've been investigating for the past 6 years but suffering since I started intercourse 7 years ago. I just told the previous girl- I'm currently seeing a doctor who has be starting a combination of oestrogen and testosterone cream and doing tests in my hormone levels (highly recommend getting this done) and also the possibility of it being a gluten intolerance/coeliac disease as well. I'll keep you updated if I find anything that works! I've just started the cream and get the gluten tests in 6 weeks.
If it helps anyone, I would suggest using coconut oil at lube. I know it sounds dumb, but it helps a bit more, is natural and helps heal the area a bit faster.
I have had gluten tests done and I'm fine! I actually have a allergy to wheat so I don't eat gluten anyways. I will try the coconut oil though! I'm sick of this I don't know what to do
I have the same problem in my past during first time sex ,but later on with advice change the sex position and start with very slow motion and smothly.
I have the same issue. I have been to the doctors twice and no resolution. They gave me Betamethasone Cream (steroid) to rub down there. I did that and it seemed to help but of course I didn't rub it down there during my period because I can't wear tampons because they make me tear as well. Can I ask a weird question.. what type of body wash do you all use? They've done so many tests and nothing. I have been with my fiancé for over 5 years and it just started 4 months ago.. almost 5. It is frustrating. Has anyone else found a solution? Please let me know! I am desperado!
Hey girls, i have the exact same issue. I've been with my boyfriend for two years now and this started a little less then a year ago. I started tearing right below my vagina opening. I went to my gyno millions of times, no help. Ive been to a dermatologist, no help and now they said about trying another type of specialist. I have no idea why this iz happening. I tried going slower during sex, different lubes, coconut oil, and much more. It even hurts/tears during foreplay. PLEASE let me know if anyone finds something out that works!
I have been having this same problem for about 6 years, 2 years after beginning to date my now husband. I had sex before that for years with no problems at all. I have been to so many doctors, specialists, urologist, dermatologists, done physical therapy, etc. Had std testing, hormone testing, been told to change my laundry detergent & soaps. I have done many, many other things but that list could go on for days. Nothing that anyone has done or suggested has helped. The only thing that has made sex tolerable was one dr prescribed me lidocaine but it still tears and hurts after the numbing has gone away. I do think there is a correlation in this condition and eating habits and being overly acidic. I say this because the only test I ever had come back with any clues to anything was a biopsy of my vulva that came back as chronic inflammation. So my only hope is that one day I can follow a stricter, healthier diet that makes my body less acidic. I have tried many, many times and failed. Having this condition has changed who I am and nearly torn my marriage a part. I feel for all of you suffering through it too and I always tell my friends who don't have issues like this to be thankful for their healthy vaginas.
