Hey ladies, I hope you will be able to help me. I've got realy bad anxiety now for the last 3 days and i do not know what to do about it. i will give you a list of the supplements i do use, maby somebody can recomend something els i can use.
femolene my live 40 to 65 years it is a multi vitamin and mineral
relicalm meno plus
vit b6 150mg
mag fizzy at night
I realy hope somebody can give me some advice.
thank you ladies
nonnie
Hi Nonnie
oh bless you hun..
is there anything else in your life making you feel anxious .. sometime its not always peri or menopause .. it can be other stresses, and worries
jay xx
nonnie
i dont know if your in peri or meno
but i use to find a pattern... even though i had no period every 4-5 weeks i use to feel anxious .. alomost like PMT but no period ..
i had no periods for a year... and i found the first six months in the year the mist anxious time , and emotional, tearful,
jay xx
this can be helpful
also maybe consider a full Mega B 100mg complex time realese 'a whole rounder of B vits'
( make sure it contains at least 100mg of B6 in them)
what about Vit D & Calcium ? for bone health ( Natecal Chewable)
Mindful Breathing
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Hi Jay
I am 41 and in peri from the beginning of the year, but i think a lot longer. my periods were always regular but for the last 5 years they became very heavy with lots of clots and then a lot of days with spotting. now for 2 monthes it was heavy for 1 day with clots and then spotting. This month it was not heavy at all with no clots but the spotting is still there.
i did post a while back about intrusive thoughts, that i dont love my husband, i did a bid of reading and they say if the intrusive thoughts causes anxiety the opposite is true but i still can not get rid of this anxiety.
Hi Nonnie
i think some women do feel like this sometimes towards their partners in peri, it is like we resent them and the ' its alright for you thing'
we have alot to accept and deal with .. i had abit if this and even had my own room for a while while i sorted my head and feelings out..
this was a few years ago now... and i also felt unsure about my partner, but on reflection i loved him too, it was the fact i think, they didnt understand how one day you felt great and another felt terrible, and didnt even want to reassure you either as they didnt have a clue..
i think in my case i needed peace with in myself, needed my own space at night, my restful santuary, no disturbances from snorers and moaning gits when you cant sleep and need the loo etc ..
all good now though .. those feelings have passed now ..
maybe you need to be told how much your loved and appreciated more often by your other half and a cuddle and hug always helps, and also sharing your exoerience with your partner along the way, so they understand, its that if you dont tell, they dont know thing too, and they assume all is good but your behaviour towards them isnt ..
jay xx
he knows about the thoughts and he know that it is peri hormons and we both know that i love him very much. somebody told me it is the thought of losing him that is affecting me so much. we lost our youngest daughter at 3 monthes due to a long virus 10 years ago in march and i lost my mother 2 years ago also in march around the same day. i dont know if it could have something to do with it.
Not on your own today with anxiety ,I've had it since I woke up,my Tinnitus is low today,never a good sign,plus down below Gyne day,not good combination both going together at once.So anxiety top and bottom,if you know what I mean.
Ladies will give advice you can bank on that.
Good book I've now got Healing with Vits Rodale Health Books ,I've now read B12 good for my tinnitus ,got them already ,it's got all about meno,anxiety,depression,and fair bit more,book published 2008, so it's up to date,go check on line.
One day at a time.youve hit several,but you don't stress,makes anxiety harder to get down,as all your doing is that flight mode menopause ,it's happened or happening to each of us.Hang in there.xxxx
Hi Nonnie
oh bless you ... you have had alot to deal with... no one will fully understand that, unless they have been through it like you have ...
i am sure you love him dearly.... you have alot more going on than peri hun,
life can be so hard at times... you must be strong and enjoy life and think your beautiful daughter and your mother would want you to be happy.
think you have answered your own question here, you get anxiety from peri and other personsal losses too... try and be happy and love each other ... and be at ease .... enjoy what you have ... a hug every now and again always comforting ....
this may sound so stupid... but sometimes when i feel loss for a person whos passed, i always light a comforting candle at night while i sit in living room, i tell myself that when the candles lit, it is lit with love for the them and its our time to be together again.....
big hug to you ..
jay jay xxx
thank you jay i will do that and no it doesn't sound stupid. it is just strange that everything started aroud that time.
thank you marlene i will try and find the book you mentioned and i hope you feel better soon. i did take b12 but i stoped because the supplement i take do have b12 in it but maby it isn't enough. the b12 is 10mcg
Hi Nonnie,
So sorry to hear that your not feeling good today! You have done the right thing coming onto this forum and I can see that Jay has given you (as always) some fantastic advice and support! She's a real gem!
I recon with Jay on here each day to support each and everyone of us sharing all of her experiences and just being a fantastic friend to us at time when perhaps we feel no one else understands what we are going through.
I too started this journey in Nov 12 with anxiety and the long and short of it was I was feeling the doom and gloom when the low feeling came from no where! For me I think the health anxiety was a massive thing to deal with.
My anxiety blips would come when I was very late or even missed a period (it wasnt the fact of missing my period but when it was brewing to arrive) and it knocked me for six for 2 weeks solid - just woke up one morning really tearful, felt sick, just felt that I didnt feel right inside but couldnt really describe this to most people because i am sure that they thought I was about to have a nervous breakdown or was just another nerotic female, but I wasnt.
These blips happened to me 3 times last year and during these weeks I wouldnt want to go into the office, would just sit on the sofa and watch uplifting programmes, couldnt sit and watch anything about anyone having a really bad illness as i then would convince myself that perhaps I was suffering with the same as just may be my symptoms etc were the same as their terminal illness.
Thankfully I have a lovely husband (doesnt always have the time to give me a hug or just sit and watch a film or a programme) but he supported me by attending health checks etc - we work together in running our own company so there a great deal of stresses going on in our lives together with 3 years worth of major house renovations!!
What has helped me Nonnie was finding this forum, taking good vits, eating well, and making time for me a lot more than I used to,I have one very wonderful friend who I have known since my school days and she has been a real tonic for me and a fantastic listener!.
Every day I spray magnesium onto my body after showing and do the same again before i go to bed. This works quite quickly aswell, also take a longside my vits - Menopol plus which has a real balance to help with the menopause. I am feeling loads calmer, and happier in myself, and not sat worrying about all the different twinges which have started to arise and not feeling that it must be something terrible when really inside i know it must just be another symptom that I have started with!
Nonnie I will always be here if you need to off load, I am now sending you a massive hug sweets and please remember you are not alone!!
Joyxxxx
thank you snatchpiece for your kind words. i realy am glad that i found this forum and for all the advice. i realy does help to know that i am not alone. i do have a friend who is also going through peri and she is also batteling with anxiety but she uses maca root. i also wants to try it but the say a person with high bloodpresure cant use it. i still have to read up on it.
Hi Nonnie
i have taken Maca for 10 years.. 😃 capsule form
it was the only thing i used on its own plus Vit D and Calcium in my start of peri.. and been on it ever since
you are suppose to have a few weeks break from it every now and again
Jay xx
Sorry Nonnie meant to say that sadly even really wondeful husbands do not know what we are all starting to experience and just may be that you have been the strong one in your relationship and he may be feeling that he is loosing his strong wife and all the support you used give to him or all of the things that you have always done for him, but now you dont always have the energy to run around as much for him as before - even though he isnt and you are very much the same person but just for once you are just needing a lot more TLC than before perhaps before all of this started.
My son said something to me the other day which brought a tear to my eye as he has always turned to me if he had any troubles or just needed to off load and I have always sat him down and just listened and then given my motherly advice and gave him massive hugs and told him everything will be ok etc. He is trying to go back to UNI and he told his Dad the other night I feel I have lost my Mum shoulder to cry on (cant talk to his Dad as he always gets cross and has no patience). As soon as I heard this I sat him down and made him listen to me and explained that even though I may have some not such good days I will always be there for him and to help me through this transition I dont need to be treated differently as a Mum and a wife I still need to feel NEEDED and loved! And not to stop coming to me as he always has for advice or a motherly hug as it means so much to me to feel wanted and needed!
I am so lucky to have such a fantastic son whose personality thankfully is more like mine than my ex's as we are both very warm natured people and are both so very sensitve to others needs or feelings!
Sorry if i am baffling!! I am sat in my office trying to complete our year end accounts and vat and to be honest this forum a lot more interesting!!
Nonnie go up to your husband and give him a massive hug and just tell him how much you truly love him and thank him for always being there for you during this funny time of your life - and if you find it hard to talk to him then put your thoughts and feelings down on paper and give him something to read and digest!! Joyxxx
Hi joy
oh thats lovely .. 😃
yea nonnie give your husband a massive hug, and ask him what time your dinner will be ready 😃😃😃😃😃😃
Jay xx
yeah mine has gone off to sort our boat out with a friend and he has just called me to say he's on his way home (so guessing him telling me this, means really, will my sunday roast be ready)
Is your pool clean and ready to jump into yet - you need to go and get that toy boy we spoke about last night to serenade you around your pool!!
Sorry just dreaming again - cor I wish - never would be that lucky for some eye candy to stop and have a second glance at me!!
Joy xxxx
Strange thing to say I know but your daughter has found her grandmother and is being cared for by her.
Loss breads fear of loss so yes it can be a vicious circle of emotion we find ourselves in, but your husband/partner understands and loves you very much.
I do have a really wonderfull husband and he knows all about my anxiety. he said he feel very honored that my anxiety is about him because that tells him that i love him very much.
i can relate to what you wrote about your son. i have 2 daughters 19 and 15. the youngest one always tells me i am not the same i am not the playfull mother i use to be. maby some day they will also understand.
i want to ask a questions, mayby some of the ladies can awnser me.
can you relate bad pregnancies with bad simptome in peri because all 3 of my pregnancies were a straggle