I have had a panic disorder since childhood. The past year my 18.5 yr old teenager has entered the world of boyfriends, parties, terrible breakup, trying to cope with a job etc. My anxiety about all these things and her terrible sadness at times is awful- i keep it hidden inside but i can almost not bear it worrying about her mood and how she will cope when things go wrong. My heart starts racing if i hear a sound in her room in case she is crying even though she will be laughing. She injured her arm last week and couldn't work and i have spent alot of the week obsessively praying for the arm to get better as i am terrified how upset she will be if she can't work and maybe lose her job- and then she will get really depressed.I can't seem to stop this terror. I don't know what to do.
Dear mmm,
I can understand your worries. But you are the one to change that situation. Have you ever been to someone professional? Please don´t try to hide your worries, talk to someone in person. You can´t really hide your feelings. Everyone close to you will recognize that sooner or later. Please talk, don´t hide.
Regards
AJ
Our young ones need to experience all these things you are so worried about. If they don't flop around or even fall off a limb occasionally, how will this young bird learn how to fly with confidence and withour fear.
There are her learning years, and Honey, you need to let her have them. This is her practice stretch. If she sees you acting as if all this is terrible, she will think her life is terrible. If she sees you fearing for her, she will start being fearful.
She seems like a strong young girl becoming a woman...let her be. This is her time to focus on herself, and your time to be focused on yourself. Take your loving mother eyes off your young woman. She' s becoming the independant person she was meant to be. That's the way she needs to see you now...her safety net when and if needed.The decision to come to you needs to be hers now. What she really wants from you now...is to know you love he,r and that you trust her,
When I about that age, my second sister, two years younger, and I would say to mom...STOP HOVERING!! It drove us mad. We, all five of us turned out quite well after various bangs, bumps and falls. We did survive ourselves,
They say, "let go and let God." I had to do it with my son He chose a rocky path, and turned out to be a man to be proud of. He told me in later years that he loved me for letting him go his own way.
He always knew where I was when and if needed, and so does your daughter. Hugs to you mom.
whoa Mom your going to have a heart attack.slow up.I know the entire world has changed. since we were kids.I tell you what would be better. be a mom plus a best friend.Talk to her.about Boys .her Interest tell her she can come to you with anything.she works.she is going to be fine.Kids now days play on cells. they dont work. she will be a fine woman be her friend also. love n prayers