I just got my results in and I'm positive for genital herpes. I feel so gross, I don't even know how to even begin telling my partner about this. I know I'm going to start crying I'm a very emotional person. I feel like I'm going to get rejected by everyone now because is so easily transmitted. I don't even know who I could've gotten this from. None of my partners ever had any signs of this.
If my boyfriend doesn't accept this obviously we wouldn't stay together and my mom is very in my personal life and will want to know why we didn't work. I can't even begin to even think about telling my mom about this. She will be completely upset with me.
I'm so completely devastated with myself. Im in complete hatred of myself. I don't even want to be around anyone anymore. I just want to curl up in my bed and cry.
I don't know how I'm going to be okay with this. How will I ever be with someone and have kids if this can be transmitted skin to skin?! Won't my partner eventually get it? I would have to use a condom every single time I have sex. I feel like marriage and having kids will be out of my life forever now.
I just don't know how to tangle this. I don't handle things very well.
You're not gross you're still beautiful, it doesn't matter if they don't got signs they could still got it I don't have show signs to the public that I have it but still do I got symptoms that people don't notice and can be painful so someone isn't being honest with you or just don't know that they even have it, if you tell your mom I'm sure she won't be mad at you forever she will just be shocked my mom was in the doctors with me when I found out I had it she was shocked but she's not mad she's shocked that she can't even say the word herpes or virus when we talk about it I'm the one who has it and I think I'm better knowing that I have it then she is lol your mom will be shocked only cause she cares for you and loves you we all got our problems, now if you and your boyfriend break up might want to think about if you want a new one anytime soon or focus on yourself, I been focusing on myself a lot and that's how I remain happy I don't even want a boyfriend anytime soon just friends. I still got hope that they will find a cure for herpes.
It is going to be ok! It is a very horrible feeling to endure indeed and i deeply understand your pain and frustration with concerns about having any future relationships what so ever but there is medication out there to keep it away for periods of time and will enable you and your partner to enjoy a happy sexual relationship as well as have healthy children during your non break out periods. Now that you have it, you must understand it instead of fear it because it will only make you a stronger person in the end. I really hope you take the time to sit down with your mother and have a serious conversation about your condition because it is not something that you should feel scared to talk about with anyone. It hurts very much and you should be able to express your emotions but in the end understand that everything will be ok. God bless.
If my boyfriend does not accept this I don't think I can ever come to terms with telling someone else. Let alone I don't know how I'm telling my boyfriend now. I'm gonna look at him and just crumble and cry. He'll know something is wrong and he's always been supportive but idk about this because it's putting him at risk well
I don't know when or how I will ever have a sit down with my mother. We've already lost my step father 7 months ago and this will crumble her as well. I'm afraid she'll think I slept around (because where I'm from that's how you get it. I know it's not the 100% truth because I've read some others post)
I don't want to sound negative but how do I have a healthy sexual life when you need to wear a condom because of this whole "shedding" thing. How do I have unprotected sex when I want to hav children?! I have read that as long as I don't have a outbreak my child won't get it and if I do I'll get a c-section. I'm more curious about my partner. Won't he get it once we have unprotected sex?
The doctor has my medicine waiting for me at the pharmacy. I am going to talk to my boyfriend some how and see his reaction, since he lives close to my job. This way if he doesn't I can just go home. Not go home then to him then back home.
It matters very much which type you have. Do you have genital HSV1 or HSV2? And you very likely got it from your bf, so if he says anything bad to you, then throw it back at him, because he's most probably the source of your infection.
What is the difference between HSV1 or HSV2? I thought HSV 1 was oral and HSV 2 was gential..? Even though he's never had a breakout in the 2 1/5 months we've been together? I can get it that quickly??
Of course you can. Most first outbreaks occur within a week of infection. And both types can infect either location, though they each have a general preference (1 prefers the mouth, 2 prefers the genitals, but it's only a preference, not a hard and fast rule). The difference is in outbreak frequency, infectiousness, stigma.
If your doctor didn't tell you the type, I'd call back to find out, and if they didn't type it, insist that they do if you still have lesions to swab again, although they're older now, so the results may be less accurate. Only other option would be to do the IgG blood test at 3+ months.
From what I remember I believe it was HSV2 she did say but I was completely crying on the phone. Omg really?! That quickly! Wait so can two people have a relationship that both have herpes? I'm assuming yes just is there more risk ? I have so many thoughts running through my head. If he doesn't accept it I don't think I'll ever find another person.
Like I said I don't even know how to go about telling my current boyfriend this. I've read people being in relationships for years and then all of a sudden had a outbreak? Can you go years before your first initial outbreak?!
It is hard but you cant ignore the conversation because it is a part of your life now. You dont sound negative at all but as i mentioned already before there is medication treatments you can go through to plan a pregnancy and yes condoms are ultimately the best source of protection when it comes prevention of spreading the virus. If your boyfriend has not already contracted the virus he may or may not be ok with it, but again thats life and its hard to deal with but you will live on. If he is ok with having the virus then maybe things will work out but if not dont feel alone because there are groups and plenty of other people out there just like you who feel scared to date because of having to tell their future partner about having HSV2. You have done some research I see which is very good to understand how to keep it under control. I was horrified when i first found out that i had contracted it so please understand you are not alone and it will be ok!
My partner and I of 11 years both have HSV2 and both manage and control our outbreaks. There is only a risk if one person does not keep up with their hygene and lets the outbreaks get out of control. I have heard different stories about when the first outbreak was and how long before they had their first ones. I can personally speak on myself when i had noticed more itching before i actually had a physical outbreak on my skin. everyone is different tho... If your boyfriend is not cool with it then i can honestly tell you maybe he was just not meant to be the one and life goes on... What matters is your health and preventing any spread as well as preventing yourself from catching any future STDs or STI's because of not wearing a condom. We learn from our mistakes.
Just reading people's comments back make me cry. I feel like whatever I touch whoever I hug whoever I kiss will get it from me. I'm so afraid of someone getting this from me. They will blame me for this then.
What I haven't seen yet is, can I have another outbreak? Can I have more than one outbreak in a month? I already eat healthy and excerise a lot to begin with.
I do have a lot of stress on my plate the passed 7 months which won't go away anytime soon. I've read stress brings on the outbreaks.
The word gential herpes just sounds so bad to me. I can't help but feel gross
A mistake that is forever with me. I can honestly say I HATE the person that gave it to me. They weren't honest nothing. Now I have it and need to be careful but that person could be spreading it. I can't help but just feel gross maybe once the outbreak goes away I'll feel better but as of right now I'm disgusting. It already hurts to pee I am afraid to pee afraid to wipe afraid to shower it's so completely sad.
I honestly hope I find someone like you did. It gives me some hope that someone will accept me again
You can not spread HSV2 from hugging or kissing or shaking hands.. The only way you can spread is if you are shedding and have an ourbreak or infection of ulsers which doesnt really happen unless you are REALLY dirty and dont clean yourself... My partner uses a removeable shower head to really clean down there and makes sure to use proper skin lotions to keep her skin dry and healthy.. It is also important to try to reduce your stress levels as much as possible so even tho you are new to all of this.. stressing about it will possibly make your outbreaks worst... If you live in a hot and humid area i suggest baggy clothing and keep a breeze between your legs because moisture and heat cause your outbreaks to rapidly grow and spread..
If you keep up with your body you can go possibly years with out having an outbreak but that all depends on your body which is different than mine... Drinking herbal calming teas can help with preventing outbreaks and help relieve stress...
It hurts alot and you will feel alot of anger and sadness but keep your head up and know that you are not alone. I hated myself for being such an idiot and allowing myself to be vulnerable in a weak time during my life but now i am stronger and more knowledgeable about the virus. I can sit here and tell you that there is alot of medication you can purchase on the internet and you may even find a few scams about "a cure" but dont buy into that crap to be honest because i feel like its all a market scheme to make money off of people who were not smart enough to use a condom.. When i first had my outbreak i purchased an expensive product that they said was the best in the market to keep outbreaks down for months at a time.. it came in a little glass vile and looked like a light blue liquid inside.. you break the glass bottle like a glowstick and apply the liquid to the outbreak.. and then it would kill the virus.. well to cut my long story short.. it smelled like icy hot and felt like i poured hot acid all over my genitals... then when it dripped down it spread the infection to other parts of my body.. i was upset... so after realizing that "menthol" is the best method to dry out and kill outbreaks... ive found ways to prevent myself from getting these aweful and highly painful outbreaks... obviously females cant just stick stuff like that inside them without it feeling like a cool and burning sensation... but ive read from other females that gold bond with lidocaine works perfect down there... maybe try peeing in the bathtub full of water to help relieve the burn when you urinate...
So even though I'm having an outbreak right this minute if I kiss my boyfriend he can't get it. I'm only asking because I've read skin to skin it can be transmitted which gets my confused.
Can you possibly explain this shedding stage? I've tried to look into it but I can't find anywhere that does into detail. I've learned how to tell if you're having an outbreak or the begging ... like itchy tingling and so on I understand that but not the shedding part.
You already have been diagnosed with HSV2 by your doctor so you CANT get HSV1... HSV1 only likes the mouth... HSV2 likes the genitals... so if you have HSV2 then you cant give him HSV1 because you dont have it...
Shedding is HIGHLY contageous but only if you expose your genitals..
It looks like dry flakey alligator skin and you will itch alot... dont itch because it will get in your fingernails and use healing ointment on the dry skin.. petroleum jelly works good too but not alot because you wanna keep it dry mostly but not suppppeeeerrrr dry.
Shedding is the virus replicating new HSV2 skin cells on the surface of your genitals to help spread itself to other hosts... If you are shedding then sex is not recommended..
A shower is already painful I can't imagine what sitting in a bathtub will feel like! Something I should try and will. I've learned how much pain tolerance I have because a vagina is a sensitive spot! I want to put like a sponge there and pee on that to avoid it hitting the sores! Obviously I can't do that.
I'm definitely going to look into that gold bond. The doctor on the phone said I take the 1 pill every 12 hours for three days .... will the sores be gone after that?!
The medication your doctor gave you will help kill the infection but not kill the virus.. the sores will go away but can come back later if you dont take care of your body...
here are the stages to look out for...
1.. feel an itch or tingle sensation but no skin is broken...
2... red rash or pimple like bumps beginning to emerge from skin...
3.... pimples are exposed and obvious and look like they are about to pop...
4..... After pimples pop they become very contageous sores or ulsers that look like volcanoes on your skin.. they sometimes puss and can spread the virus faster than you can blink.. if you have about 5-10 of these you should be able to self manage them but if you have about 10-20 then you MUST go see a doctor for treatment medication.
5... after the sores/ulser heal they begin to skab over and itch alot... you are tempted to scratch the skabs but are painful in doing so...
6.... after the skabs heal they leave behind scars of where the outbreak once occured..
7... if you dont keep up with your body this whole cycle will repeat itself....