For starters I want to thank people who have took the time to comment on my discussions and problems I really appreciate it even if I'm not getting better!
No, it's not my wedding day *facepalm*. But as I've said in my past two discussions it's about starting a job tomorrow in a warehouse.
So I'm currently in a slight panic and anxiety attack because I've just told myself "I'm not going" which was really random and scared me quite a little.
For me, I'd rather look for a different job, for example my first job was in retail, but I feel more comfortable doing that, and yes this is my first warehouse job.
I think it's because in retail, it can get quiet and I like that, but in a warehouse it's crowded and can get super busy and I don't like the thought of that.
Currently, again I'm scared. Is there any stories? Anything that could possibly ease my mind a little because I'm kind of going mentally ill because of continuous problems.
Also, is there anyone on here around my age? I'm 19 by the way :--)
I can relate. After various problems relating to anxiety, I was unbelievably nervous about starting my new job, in a similar environment to what you describe. I mean, really stressing about it I was. I reallllly wanted to just say no I'm not doing it, but I FORCED myself to go in the first day. And it turned out I could manage it. It wasn't as horrible as I had imagined. After being continuosly brave and going in everyday, I just lost my anxiety about it altogether. Totally.
All you have to do is push yourself for those first few days. It will then feel natural to go there and do your job five days a week.
you can do it, and it will all be fine.
What kind of job was it that you were doing? For the interview, I applied twice for it and I didn't go the first time, I was really depressed before but once I said to a family member I wasn't going I felt so much weight off my shoulders. Like there is a lot of people, different types and that worries me kind of for some reason and I don't know why. Like I played football with someone of a different religion etc for a year and he was a really good friend so was his dad.
I like the idea of it being quiet, like I know for a fact it'll be super busy and it's just going to melt my brain apart.
For my interview I was like " it's only an interview just do it even if you don't want it just see what happens " and I got.it, it's like when I get something I think to myself " I don't want it now " like okay then why want it in the first place?
Thank you.so much for taking the time to comment by the way.
It was a job in a factory of sorts. So lots of different people. You will get used to the pace. We are all incredibly adaptable in these sorts of situations. Pushing out of your comfort zone is totally necessary. Be as determined as you can and go in. You might even enjoy it, and after a month be thinking, wow I can't believe I almost didn't bother..
Hey there,
Dont think on it. As soon as 'the talk' to yourself inside your own thought, catch it and block it. Ok, it's not like a pop up from a computer where it pops to intrude and can easily close it. Practice on it, catch it while it starts to enter or intrude in your thoughts, block it by pretending there is an invisible shield in your control. I do this during the day, then mide afternoon and before I fall asleep, I let it squeeze my head (meaning I dont get in it's way). I find when I'm thinking alot in my head about the dangers out there, I've become overly cautious, am judgemental about safety and moral right when behaviour of another I dont approval.
By the way, why did you accept warehouse, and not move into another retail job? You said you enjoy retail, so why steer away from something you know you like? With retail, you can still advance in career management eventually, or big item commissions!
I hope I'll end up being like that. I do want to push myself to go, but for instance if I hear or think the word "no" "not" or if someone says you got work or are you going I think " no " it's a pain -.-
Hello, and I've been continuously thinking about it ever since I got the job to be honest, so the catching the thought might work or might not who knows,but there must of been something for me to apply for it twice? Im the same with what you said in the bottom of the first paragraph!
There wasn't any really going in retail where I am, I had two interviews, one phone and one face and didn't get the job. But then I thought of this as a last resort type thing. I'm thinking of just staying there till there is another retail opportunity, but I feel like if I do that, then go into a job where it's less money I'm letting people down, and that I'm letting them down by not staying at the warehouse job.
I dont agree, it is not necessary to go far beyond what you feel is comfortable. That statement is a cliché, not to your best interest but the i terest of elitist. That cliché has ruined individuals into stress and anxiety. The least resistance is best, you like and us tolerable, and less stress because you do t have to go out of way. Individuals who gets afraod of their boss and us willing to leap of bounds, will jump high and fall into hell (sorry, that's how it is when you cant see the what's ahead of you or you cant say NO for fear of losing your job.
Trust me, without your mental health, eventually the earni gs capability will also become a problem, meaning it is best to consider what you want to do, in your best interest that will make you happy, weigh the money in consideration but do not let money be the ruler of your joy.
if your mental health becomes more of an issue, those who you think you will let down because of your reasoning will disapprove. As long as you can make a contribution to whom you are living with, that helps but your decision reasoning should align with your feelings, necessity, and want. This will lead you to joy instead of constraints and tormented mind which in essence is UuHhmm hell.
I should go today then or? I'm pretty confused on what that was ment to mean.
It's more money then I was getting in retail, but as you said if it was about money and living, this would be the job I needed?
Yes you should go. Just give it a try. You won't know until you go.
The final decision is yours, no one can make it for you (unless incapacitated in a coma).
Go and try this job, you wont know unless you try. It's the illness of anxiety that is the hindrance to your feelins and thoughts, making you confuse in deciding, it magnifies unrealistic thoughts and feelings, then get scared. Go to this job, and give it a chance, also talk and meet new co-workers so you do not feel alone there.
Hey I can't help with the work side but I am 19 so that could help in the future 
Hey, I'm 20! Good luck with your new job, I hope it was okay
Lawrence and Mary this can be both for you!
well I completely broke down to one of my grandparents before I was going to leave the house telling them how intimidating it seemed.
I arrived there, and I rang my mate just like I did with the interview untill someone I knew was there called Mohammed or "King Mo" as he's now called [wink] ! he shook my hand asked me how I was then as he locked his car when we were walkng, I went to lock mine as a natural reaction, and I saw his car rolling slowly out of his parking space and was inches from another car, I couldn't stop laughing it hit me so hard and lightened me up a little, I didn't go in the canteen because I felt intimidated ( its where we had to go but I went in there when It was quiet with the three guys I knew), but I was in a group of four for the rest of the day after a very un organised start which shook me and I told family members I didn't want to be here, and I felt okay, still very very scared but at some stages I had no feeling, but I still feel as like I don't want to be there currently, im 45% no 55% yes, but I guess adding the 5% to the possitive is okay, right 
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You see!..I would call that a success. If you keep at it every day will get 5 percent better each day. Remain positive and congratulate yourself for mustering the courage. It can be extremely hard to do so, but you must continue to challenge yourself and your ideas of what you can and can't do.
Be proud
I was just thinking because I'd like people near my age but I also need the people who are older too, weird combination but yeah 😂 message? :--)
I'm proud of you that you went. When I never had anxiety before, those in the office were just doing their job just like me. As for my bosses beforehe aniety, I did not see them superior than me cause they are human just like me, just a different title (i.e supervisor). The anxiety came later after switching to a new job, and I didnt know what responsibilities and (yes, they were disorganized), so stupid me, I went ahead and did duties that were'nt even mi es. I remember from my second job, kept things professional, but I left there as soon as things felt uneasy as becoming personal. I feel sorry also for pretty women in the work force, there must be alot who dont say anything, but they usually get harrassed by a male in the office, and outside not safe for me either. Anyway, I shaved off all my long hair to look ugly, it worked but I felt ugly haha. I go out not bothering to fix myself anymore, my long hasgrown back. I am no longer ougoing, I feel I need to walk with a long dress covering my skin and one of those long head covers. The scar is not physical, the scar is inside. I know what you mean when you do percentage with how you are feeling, I do it too! I also am an analytical thinker. However, I have subdued analyzing, and observing in order to calm and heal my invisible scars.
I feel like, if Mo's car didn't roll and nearly hit another, the humor stimulant in my brain wouldn't of been able to take over the fear if you get me?
I am proud that I went, but like right now I'm nervous for tomorrow.
It's a success for the first day yes, I'm just hoping it can continue!