I read that this phase of life is when unresolved issues from the first half/part of life tend to show up and need attention, resolution, etc. This has happened to me in a big way over the last year, figuring out that my mother has a narcissistic personality disorder on top of the severe anxiety that she says I learned from her. I am really at the tip of the iceberg figuring out how to start working through this. Has anyone else had similar horribly difficult revelations, experiences, etc. arise during peri/meno? I am working hard to gather the strength to get help with this on top of all the physical issues, but it is painful.
It sounds like I wrote your post!
I have the exact same revelations
My mother always carried on, cried and had extreme worry and anxiety
I feel like I am acting just like her
The good news about this is that I will be sure to not pass this on to my daughter, if I can help it!
Nanc, thanks for your reply. Recognizing our similar behavior is the first step! I totally understand.
After my birth, my mother had severe post partum despression and since then she is taking antidepressants and anti anxiety meds!
Now I am also young woman going through severe perimenopause and sometimes my anxiety and my irritability reactions are uncontrollable. Antidepressants made me worse.
I tried to discuss my anxiety with my gyn today. She told me to go to a psychiatrist and get on medication. I'm not going that route.