J’ai repris contact avec ce forum après une courte période d’abstinence début-mi-janvier. Malheureusement, je reprends à boire presque tous les jours. Je pense que je veux juste parler à des gens qui comprennent ce que je vis. Je n’ai pas vraiment de proches, et les seules personnes avec qui je parle régulièrement sont mes collègues, à qui je ne peux pas parler de mon problème. En fait, ils en font partie, car ils boivent quand ils sortent après le travail, et je ne suis pas assez fort pour refuser l’alcool offert. Ma plus grande crainte est de savoir combien de temps je pourrai continuer à faire semblant avant que les gens ne commencent à soupçonner ce que je suis. Ma petite amie en a assez. Elle ne supporte plus les promesses brisées.
La chose la plus folle à propos de mon problème, et je suis sûr que tout le monde s’y reconnaît, c’est que ça me change. Sans alcool, j’avais beaucoup d’énergie, j’étais retourné à la salle de sport, j’entretenais la maison impeccablement, je restais à jour au travail et je me sentais généralement bien. Je veux être comme ça tout le temps, mais la voix insistante devient de plus en plus forte et, finalement, je bois juste pour soulager ce que je ressens : de l’ennui et de la solitude, surtout. Ensuite, je m’arrête de m’occuper des autres choses.
Donc, voilà, assez de plaintes et de pitié pour moi-même. Si je vous ai ennuyés, je m’excuse. Quant à l’abstinence, je vais essayer à nouveau à partir de demain, et j’espère que cette fois-ci sera la bonne.
If you are able to stop without detox, then the next step is anti-craving drugs. Your body and mine will still want alcohol foor months and months afterwards. Not a mad craving, where you get up in the morning to have a drink, but something to help your mind take its focus off alcohol at quiet or low moments.
It is true, if you don't srink or drink very little, getting up early is no problem, or doing all those jobs you promised yourself that you would get done.
Keep trying ! I can completely understand where you are . Words cannot describe it to someone that hasnt experienced those feelings and cravings and simply moments of ...oh I will do it tomorrow
I'm in the same place as you and feel we should take advice from the above RHGB ( thank you )
Life can hit us all the time with hard times but we must find a different way of coping !
I agree with you . waking up with energy , feeling on top of the world, problems and worries halved Thats without
Hello Tre. Keep a clear vision in your mind when you next grab a bottle: your girlfriend's face or the bottle and you have to choose what is most important to you. Never mind about your colleagues since they will understand or should understand and if they do not they are not your real friends. Good luck! Robin
tre, how many times have you relapsed and how much have you been drinking per day as of late? You might be fighting some programming that was caused by the alcohol that ends up in cravings. After you've been abstinent for awhile, that sort of programming often ends up in relapse with higher levels of drinking than before. If that's the case, then it may well be time to talk to a doctor about anti-craving drugs as RHGB says.
tre...it is nice to see you here. How are you doing now?
I feel that we have underlying problems that push us to the drink. I feel we have habits that when we feel the smallest twinge of unhappiness....we know a drink will take us away from it.
Try to focus on your underlying issues...depression, anxiety, sleep patterns, eating patterns (examples)...and if there are any...work on those and the voice of alcohol may become softer.
I absolutely identify with having the get up and go WITHOUT the drink and identify with being confused as to WHY do I wreck it all the time by destroying my body, life and relationships with alcohol?
I have found men to be very against counseling....but in your case I think it would be a really good idea to get to the bottom of your issues...to make your psychological well being in a better place which may reduce your cravings for alcohol.
If your lonely with your girlfriend - figure out why. Maybe she isn't the right girlfriend and you are trying to escape. Maybe subconsciously you are pushing her away. I do not know your triggers and maybe you don't either.
You aren't moaning and feeling sorry for yourself...your trying to figure out why you keep robbing yourself of joy. It is because in my opinion...you have found that alcohol takes away pain, lonliness and gives you the carefree attitude that is much more comfortable than dealing with your problems. AND...you are genetically predispositioned to drinking. AND...you haven't found a good replacement for taking away anxiety.
The gym sounds like a good replacement. Next time you want a drink...try to get by that...and race off to the gym. Also, maybe try one of these drugs that Paul talks about all the time...and maybe you can still drink...but your cravings may also lessen.