Im 15 days post op after a rectocele repair,ive had a really easy time,no pain just discomfort,however im always tired. I have been resting well but my husband thinks i should be able to do cart wheel by now,because he cant see the scars he thinks im fine now.
I dont want to go out shopping or walking around garden centers,i potter around the house cleaning,washing up and vacuuming. Its really depressing me that he calls me a couch potato. Its not helping that he keeps moaning all the time and telling me how much weight i have put on. I just feel so tired,i have always worked shifts and been quite active but now i have no energy at all x
Why are cleaning, vacuuming etc? I got a chart when to start activities and things like that are a few weeks off yet! You have internal stitches that you don't want coming undone! I don't know if I can take a photo of the chart and post on here but I dot think so but happy to send to you via e mail or any other way if you'd like me to xxx
you should be resting and not vacuuming, cleaning house, bending and lifting, I'm so sorry that your husband is not so empathetic. I took my husband from the very first doctors appointment and he went with me to all the rest including postoperative one. This helped him understand what I was going through and what was expected of myself and him for my complete recovery. He still does all the vacuuming and I'm 17 weeks now and I'm still guarding my recovery. Maybe your husband can go with you to one of your appointments or read some information on your condition.
In the meantime take your time in healing, and in pray for a complete recovery for you.
It took around three - four weeks for the anaesthetic to get out of my system. I would fall asleep at the drop of a hat. I did not take over any of the household chores from my husband till around eight weeks. I still haven't hoovered yet and am nearly 14 weeks post surgery.
I would hate to hear in a few weeks time that you are suffering as doing too much now
I agree with the others. I am 12 days post op and have done a little light washing up but that's it. Still tired and having a nap each afternoon. Worried re pushing myself and so undoing the op. Look after yourself and take it easy. I was definitely told no vacuumin for at least 12 weeks.
Thanks Sarah,my husband thinks i am just being lazy because i am tired. We have had work done on our house and he is busy decorating when he comes home from work,he just keeps huffing and puffing all the time x
First of all quit vacuuming. I'm an avid vacuumer 😆so I had to wait till at least 40+ days.even then I was suppose to do it. I am widowed and not married but have a boyfriend who lives with me. He was totally worthless as a caretaker. I apparently scheduled my surgery during hunting season. How could I? He expected me to do it all.
Needless to say I made him move out. Long story. That put more stress on me than the surgery. It's better now, but he will never ever live it down. I will never forget.
You must just sit back. I had a lot of help the first week with friends bringing food. I must say after that, I was ready for my own cooking.
I believe there are men that know how to help and those who want help. I personally blame their mothers. 😙 My husband was the same way, so I must just pick them.
Hold off for at least 6 wks. Let someone else vacuum, hire someone if you have to.
Take no prisoners, take no crap! This was the hardest surgery I've ever had. They just don't get it, but will someday. My husband told me when he was sick. "How can you take care of me when I never took care of you? I said because I vowed to in sickness and in health. He passed away 6 mos later.
Sad story yes, but I've learned to take care of myself. Stand your ground! Sit down!
Im just booking my ticket now Rosiepix,thankyou,i have a case on wheels so i will be ok,can you send me that chart again lovely please,its fuzzy when i zoom in xx
Ha ha Pam you are so funny. Ive already done in sickness and health bit when i came out of hospital on the Sunday and he told me he was going to work on the Monday,men!!!! He had alot of stick off his family and friends for that,i feel it was only out of embarrassment that he worked from home that week x
It is way too soon for you to be doing any of that ! Like some of the others have said - 12 weeks on and I think I have hoovered twice !!! there was one week because of hubby away and kids having so much on the house literally did not get hoovered for nearly a week !!! It did make me rock in a corner lol but I survived ! As I have said in another post recently you have to put blinkers on and all you are focusing on is your recovery !! And use here to moan as we can all relate xx
Thanks Bunky,its so hard when im having visitors nearly everyday,hubby is too busy decorating when he comes home and it is him who is causing most of the mess! I dont want to ask my friends,they all work and have their own homes to look after,why should they clean up after my husband X
It's such a blessing to have this group of woman to share with!! Like I said before Tracy , you take it easy. No vacuuming ( hovering) it can wait. Reach out for help from your friends, they won't mind, really!! My church family and friends brought me and hubby meals for 10 days, when I came out of hospital, that really, really helped. Ask for help please!! Don't overpack your suitcase even if you are pulling, the train ride will be enough for you. Please once you get there put your feet up and be taken care of. Keep in touch with us!!
Thanks Diann,i was feeling really down earlier and straight away i got the support i needed from the lovely ladies on this forum. Thankyou all,we are all fighting our own battle but united we stand <3 xxx