Had a BF w HSV2, contracted 1 yr ago- takes Valacyclovir daily, uses condoms every time. And two weeks ago, we slept together-no sex, no him touching himself, then me, but naked and close in same bed.
I am aware of shedding and the rates.
I found out I have HSV1. He wanted oral sex so badly I did reluctantly twice.
A week later, worse sore throat as well as cold like symptoms. Since most people contract severa to 13 days later, I am so worried.
My mom, a doctor , looked and said it was a virus of some sort, but not HSV1 or 2. Of course, she wouldn’t know if no sores were present.
Anyway, was w my es BF last night and he insisted on sex- unprotected.
We did nothing oral but had regular unprotected and later that night, he he said he had some itchiness.
I know that’s too soon for symptoms, but we had unprotected incentives or twice the past few months, while he had told me we will never marryand jokes about me being free to date others, I finally did.
Of course, I just wanted to meet people to see who else out there but didn’t want to have sex, but when you’re with a guy and the lawn and he keeps on insisting, stuff always happens. I honestly don’t want to have premarital sex for health and conviction reasons and had told my ex this many times and finally told this guy I was with. My concern is, this time when my ex and I were hanging out with I kept on telling him no more premarital sex, but they always make you feel Bad and eventually I just gave in. This is a warning to those out there who insist on getting their way, even when the other party has insisted on not. Not to say that I am not guilty in anyway-this was a terrible terrible thing and not telling him that I ended up being with someone else was also a lie of omission and awful. But still , This is a warning to men and women everywhere-if someone insists they don’t want to have sex with you listen closely, because maybe they’re trying to protect you and you’re not listening to them is carelessness that may cost you. But now, I’m worried about my sore throat because it could even be from the first time I had unprotected sex with the new guy six or seven months ago. I was only tested for weeks after and to my understanding you can build up a viral load the qualifies as you having the disease after four months afterwards. I hope to God I don’t have it, but even more so that I didn’t give it to my ex. And I also have to figure out a way to tell him that we really really really shouldn’t do this anymore. He’s my best friend and we hang out all the time and even sleep in the bed-the same bed sometimes for weeks without doing anything, so it’s been hard to give this up-we’ve even done this when we both decided we’re just friends. I guess what I’m asking is whether the odds of me having caught it-what are your guys experience with sore throat and laziness but no outbreaks and what are the odds of him having caught it and what can I tell him without confessing the details of what happened but so that protect him and this doesn’t ever happen again? Thank you so much.