Unable to penetrate

Sexual health
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I am a 32 year old male married for the past 3 years.

Whenever I try to penetrate my wife, I feel a bone coming

in my way and I get turned down by the presence of the same.

Also, it seems my penis is larger than her size and these

two factors really turn me down. A female gynecologist inspected

my wife but she did not find anything wrong.

Four-five years ago, I was able to peneterate my past girlfriend

with great ease. It was my first time then and I was surely much

more excited than now a days.

My wife is 3 years youger to me and has never done it before.

Now we want to have kids.

And this whole bone/size thing is really getting in our way of pregnancy.

Lubricants/Tip-cut-condoms/Drinking-before-doing-it have been of no help.

I do agree that my current hardness is just 70% of what it used to be

couple of years ago but I doubt that would be a real factor here.

My BP, cholestrol, testosterone are on the border line but still good.

I try to go for a 30-min walk followed by a 10-15 minute gym everyday.

How can I get this done? Is there a natural medicine/diet that will

increase my desire/hard-on to previous levels? Is there really something

wrong with me or the bone is really an issue (The gynecologist didn't say so)?

I posted here to see if we can avoid going to a doctor.

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Have you tried different positions? Some angles may be better than others. Perhaps try your wife on top and have her try to guide your penis in. Have you tried wrapping your hand around your penis to support it as you try to penetrate? Have you/your wife tried penetrating her with a sex toys of increasing size to see if she can comfortably accomidate an object similar to your penis? It seems like you may need to experiment a bit more and make sure your wife is involved in the process. Other than going to the doctor you don't mention her experience of this problem.

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Thank you James,

We have tried the missionary position only because we found that to be most natural (The Internet also confirmed the same). And we both don't want to do it doggie style.

My wife has tried a couple of sex toys fat enough to match my size and she says she is able to do it easily with a toy. But a toy doesn't loose hardness after a couple of attempts, so that's probably easier to do.

We tried a lubricant too but no use.

I think part of the problem is also that I loose the excitement when it becomes a task. Once I cannot do it within two minutes, my excitement levels drop exponentially.

Is there a natural drug or a pregnancy-safe, side-effect free drug that I can use to prolong my hardness? I have searched it a lot on the Internet but all I run into is ads and ads of strong drugs with side-effects with some being scams in the past.

If there is a diet, fruit or a drug not too strong etc that I can use for a few months to get harder and longer erections, that would be really great.

I see that male porn stars can do it for more than 30-40 minutes and sometimes with multiple women. They must be taking something proven with less side effects because they do it for so many years.

So basically any recommendations on a dietary or a drug-related suggestion would be really welcome and helpful.

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IMHO I believe you and your wife need to slow down on the need to have kids as the result of a successful penetration and look at the more important issue here of your combined sexual pleasure. You need to work this out before the kids come! 

You seem to have developed what is called the "spectator phenomenon" of erectile dysfunction, once you start to lack performance, you pay more attention to how firm you are and the cycle gets worse. I understand wanting try to remain natural but, for the sake of your marriage and sexual health, you need to either involve a sexual counsellor (few and far between) or an MD or both. Sometimes, once you use the erectile enhancing drugs with success, your confidence is enhanced and the need for them passes. If it doesn't, so what? The two of you will have more satisfying sex. I know she will.