unpleasant experience

Today we went canoeing and there were two people per canoe. I got in the front and my partner in the back and the assistant pushed us off into the water. I felt absolutely panicked and had the overwhelming urge to get out or even jump in the water. I fel dizzy and my heart was racing. I felt trapped. I knew I'd have to be on it for an hour and try to act normally in front of other people despite feeling like this, like something awful would happen and that I'd become out of control and jump overboard just to get rid of this feeling of being trapped and away from safety (of course, it was safe, there was no threat at all).

The feeling passed after about 5-10 mins and I started to enjoy it more but still felt unsettled by that feeling and wishing I hadn't felt like that. It was terrible. I felt like I was hyperventilating.

Any similar experiences/tips/advice/info would be helpful.

Thanks!

You had a panic attack and you got through it - congratulations!  It obviously felt awful at the time but you stuck with it, you didn't jump in the water, you didn't die, you got on with it and you felt better a few minutes later - great, that's going to make you feel better next time you have an attack IF you have another attack NOTHING HAPPENED!  Perhaps if you had been behind your partner you wouldn't have felt so bad and maybe if you hadn't been in a confined space on water you might have actually done something about it but good for you, you didn't let it stop you doing what you were doing.

I get "nervous" usually at the thought of going on holiday or going somewhere different, away from my "normal" routine but it doesn't stop me doing it.  The worst experience I had was after a few weeks of stressful days and nights.  I was sitting on a park and ride bus, waiting for it to move and I had the extreme urge to get off, to make excuses that I had left my car unlocked or something, but I thought how stupid that was and that I would regret it as soon as I got off, so I stayed there and calmed down and was perfectly OK within a few minutes, just like you.  What a relief that I hadn't given in to the urge to get off as that would have been giving in to the panic attack and I will NEVER let them win!  Good for you for not jumping out.

Thanks Spindles. It's just annoying that this happend. I was so close to saying 'let me off I need to get out' but I didn't because I couldn't make a fool of myself and spoil everyone else's say. 

I thin it's being away from my comfort zone and as i was at the front, feeling like I was in control and at the forefront, which I disliked. By the time it was time to come back to the shore and get off I was fine and quite enjoyed it. 

Do you take anything (meds etc) for your anxiety?

Well done, Jane, give yourself a big pat on the back. You conquered your panic this time and you will do it again. Anne

I don't really take any regular medication for my anxiety.  I did get some Kalms from the chemist and whether it was the placebo effect or if they really did work it seemed to calm me down a bit.  I went to the doctor before a big holiday and got a prescription for 30 valium tablets and took two over a couple of days  It's funny but just the thought that I've got something to take if I need to helps and I can go without them, or take half a tablet which is just enough to calm me down.  The last lot of tablets I had lasted me over a year as i didn't want to become dependent on them.  I would rather try to deal with it by willpower if I can and I hope you will do the same.

Hi Jane and Spindles - it's good to hear some success stories with regards to combatting panic attacks! Mine plagued me for years in my late teens and 20's and I'm not immune to them now, but experience teaches you what the signs are and how to quell them.

Mine really came on around the time I was on a school trip and was horribly travelsick at the back of the minibus. After that mortifying episode I could never face school assembly and sometimes even felt sick and nervous in class and had to leave to go to the loo on numerous occasions. I had suffered travel sickness from babyhood, too young to think it on myself so it was genuine, and was always dosed up with Junior Joyrides which did the trick.

But that episode in my teens kickstarted panic attacks, though I had no idea they had a name at the time. From then on, at the start of any journey as a passenger, I would sit rigid in my seat, staring straight ahead, and my fingers, toes and lips would start to tingle. The tingling got worse and worse until I ended up with stiff clawed hands and numb lips. I guess I must have been hyperventilating. Over time I came to know that once this phase had been reached my extremities would return to normal and nothing bad would happen, the rest of the journey passing comfortably, no matter how long. Funnily, the return journey on the same day never affected me at all!

In those days I could never eat anything before such events, for fear of being sick. Having read that ginger is an excellent ante-emetic I started taking a packet of ginger biscuits with me. I still have some handy these days as I can get queazy when worrying about the possibilty of a panic attack. The most recent event was a comedy show in a theatre - and after initial queaziness and nerves passed I enjoyed every minute (I also had a small whisky and ginger before it began, to calm my nerves!). I still haven't been able to face a cinema again since my 20's (I am almost 50 now) but, theoretically, I should be ok. The other major panicky time for me was last year - I really wanted to visit some caves in southern Ireland and I managed to keep my jitters under control - until the guide turned the lights off for a few mintues (seemed interminable!) and I have never experienced such utter blackness before! I think I shut my eyes in the end, pretending that the lights were still on, it was horribly claustrophobic!

But I survived - I didn't faint - I wasn't sick - the lights came on and the rock formations were spectacular and I thoroughly enjoyed it!

Sorry for the long-winded reply - just wanted to share my experiences of panic attacks over the years. Maybe they can never be fully beaten, but they can be successfully managed - especially if you have an understanding partner / friend by your side.

Spindles - your experiences sound do like mine, and it is funny how we can stay calm just knowing we have pills or something else at hand should the need arise. I once read that, with travel sickness, if you have some paper bags etc by you, in case of actual sickness, then it is less likely to happen. I guess the mind isn't fixated on vomitting so it can be focussed on enjoying the scenery or company instead. Handy supplies of bags, wipes, mints and ginger biscuits have always helped me in any situation - that and sussing out the nearest escape route should things go wrong.

Jane - you should be justly proud of yourself for battering down your panicky feelings. If you ever start to get them again - just remember how you dealt with them before and didn't let them get the better of you! Tell yourself YOU control THEM, not the other way around!

x

yeh i had a huge panic attack at a restaurant with my parents. i was worrying way to much of the people around me, i wasnt even thinking clearly. all of a sudden i went faint, really pale and breathing rapidly. i had to leave the restaurant. it was so embarrassing. its all down to anxiety though. you just have to learn how to control it. it is hard to do but practice makes perfect. i find that taking supplements to help you think more clearly and more rationally help a lot. they calm your mind. also when you start to get in a panic just stop whatever you are thinking of and just try to think of the positive things or you can try to not think of anything at all. thinking too much negitive things leads to anxiety which leads to panic attacks. you just have to say "no, i am being irrational, nothing bad is going to happen here! this is a great day out. look at the water its so calm, the sun is out wow what a beautiful day!" thats what i would be making myself think if i were on that boat to deal with my panic. hope that helps, take care

Madcow and aiden, you definitely both sound just like me.  I'm 68 now and can remember being nervous just going out for a meal with my future husband and our friends and I must have been around 23.  I remember trying to take my mind off the fact that I was going to have to actually EAT something!   As we used to go to a Chinese restaurant I would count the patterns on the wallpaper, divide them and multiply them etc.  I hardly spoke so they must have thought I was a bit aloof!! The funny thing was, as both my parents were in the Special Police force, I joined at the age of 20 and would patrol the streets, direct traffic and control impressionable young girls at pop concerts and yet I dealt with all that with no nerves so I wonder why I felt so bad just going out for a meal. I went to Italy with the police on a two week holiday and intended going on my own but my mother came with me and I didn't feel nervous then so I wonder why I get panic attacks now when I should be older and wiser.   I fractured my femur three months ago and had to have an operation and was so calm it was unbelievable and yet the thought of going to see the consultant tomorrow for a follow-up x-ray etc. is making me feel nervous - very peculiar.  I think we just have to try out best to carry on with life and not let our anxiety get the better of us.