I'm 19, I turn 20 in 5 months. I have been working at Mcdonalds for 3 years now, still live with my parents, and I don't go to college anymore- I went for 1 semester and took 3 classes in high school but after feeling like it was going no where and I didn't know what I wanted to do, I stopped going. I'm not really struggling money wise, cause I have little bills I pay each month since I still live with my parents. But all my friends are out doing these crazy things and I want to do my own thing, too, I just don't know how to yet on my own cause I'm scared. I don't have many close friends anymore.. I'm scared to live on my own, I'm super shy and can't talk to people, and I'm terrified of college because of all the speaking classes and presentations I would have to do. I'm not comfortable with my body, I'm 200lbs and never have had a boyfriend or been intimate with anyone. I feel like nothing goes right.
Anyway, I just need someone to tell me that I'm going to be ok and everything will fall into place....
Yes you definitely will be just fine !! God has a plan for u and your life .
You will be just fine. You are still only young. I went to uni 20 years ago to study my degree in diagnostic radiography and I was pretty much like you. I hated class presentations, I was over weight and although I struggled at first moving out of home into hospital nurses home accommodation was the best move I ever made. It made me stronger, especially living amongst uni friends. I'm sure you would soon get used to living on your own and make new friends, whether at college or not. I think antidepressants did help as I suffered panic attacks. But I got through my three years at uni and it made me the person I am today. It gave me a job and again new friends. I'm sure you could do the same. You just need to try it
Hi Candi - sorry to read of your dilemma and lonliness. First let's start with ignoring the comment "God has a plan for your life." The plan for like is up to you - YOU must have a plan for your life. The place to start would be to ask yourself what your talents are. Is it writing? Painting? Sewing? Carpentry? The next is to ask yourself what you dream of doing. Do your talents and your desires match in any way? If not and you want to follow your dream, then you will have to prepare yourself for it by training in the particular discipline, gathering any necessary certification(s) and forging your way into a new adventure. Research the profession you wish to work at - an easy thing to do with the internet these days. The fact of the matter is, Candi, it will not come to you - you must go after it. You will feel a sense of achievement as you progress and this will strengthen your confidence. I know it seems daunting and the mountain high, but just take it a step at a time. The fear of interaction with people will diminish the more you expose yourself to that scenario. Try not to ponder on the conditions of any future situation/interaction with others - things rarely turn out as we expect them to be. Just let the m oment(s) happen.
With regard your weight, it too can only be changed with effort and fundamental alterations with your habits. Walking is one of the best exercises, and is a great stress reliever. Start out in moderation - don't set goals that will exhaust you. You must build up the stamina, and it won't take long. Morph the walking into other activities - cycling, swimming, jogging etc. Of course, exercise alone will not make dramatic changes and you must also attack your diet. Natural foods are the best bet. Portion control is another. You are living at home so perhaps your mum can help you with the structure and discipline that will be required, to make sure you stick to your goals. It doesn't mean you can't have treats - the occasional burger is fine, sweets now and then, but not daily. The ability to change and grow and achieve yoyr desires is in your hands Candi - not Gods, or the government, or the cat down the road. Start today. You will be amazed how quickly your habits will change when you set out to do just that. Best of luck to you.
Candi still living at home at 19 or 20 in my opnion is fine. Your still trying to figure out what being out of school and working is all about. Lots of people skip college their first year after high school. I think the difference in being on your own and life decisions are likely to have a better outcome when given more time. You have friend, and the main thing is having good friends you can be yourself with and trust. You will see that as you get older and begin to make your own way, that the time you have for friends is a lot less. As for fears of being on your own and college, it's perfectly normal. Don't beat yourself up about weight. Walking may help you relax and loose some weight. Looking at nature and just being outside everyday helps me to be more relaxed and is the best excercise as far as committing to a regular routine. As far as being shy, I think as you get older and start doing different things around different people it will get bettr. Read some articles that may help in all these areas. How to books are not just for fixing cars etc. Having a boyfriend will happen don't get anxious and accept a bad relationship. You may need to talk to someone, especially if this is causing a lot of anxiety. Take a deep breath and know that everything will be fine. Your just having normal concerns, that we all do in our own way and time frame. I wish you happiness, love, success and confidence.
i go to an online college. it teaches 5 courses about 600 dollars each with installments of 75 dollars a month. its a (((self passed course))) you study on your own time when ((you want with no deadlines to worry about))) . it is for medical coding which pays about 40,000 a year to start off, and as much as 80,000 depending on where you live and how many other qualifications you also aquire along the way . you can work at home if you choose to when you get hired as a self contractor. you can also go into a few other fields, medical transcription, auditing. so its very affordable and pays well. and the training is really not that hard. as for living on your own , it has challenges , but if i doesnt work out , in most cases you can always go back to your parents home to live SO GIVE IT A SHOT , DONT UNDERESTIMATE YOURSELF AND YOU HAVE NOTHING TO LOSE AND EVERYTHING TO GAIN. you can always get a room mate or a couple of room mates. it may be hard to find people compatable, but it can be done.
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