F24- I am currently in a relationship and i feel that i am expecting and depending a lot on my partner. My parents know about my relationship and they are just pretending that they don’t. My parents are not legally separated and they are not together also. And my dad is so strict. I always feel if i had a perfect family which i have always missed , then may be today I wouldn’t be writing this if i had a perfect dad like the one they potray in movies, a friendly understanding dad and a caring mom then may be i wouldnt have been in this situation.. may be if i had a proper way of bringing up then I wouldn’t crave for love and to be pampered. These my boyfriend is very busy that we hardly get time to spend with each other and when he says something and doesn’t do it then i feel very disappointed. I get easily hurt and i cry a lot. He always says that i am the one who keeps fighting with him all the time... I don’t know what to do... my parents aren’t supportive that much... they wont understand and they are not friendly to me... the only person whom I talk to everyday is him and when he does something like this I feel there is no one for me... i am just a disturbance to the people around me... may be if i die they would be happy. I don’t know what to do😭😭
Sorry you are going through a tough period, ranjani. I hear what you are saying about wanting a 'perfect family' but very few of us had that. When I was a child my family was very broken-my parents quarreled all the time and were separated several times and eventually divorced. The constant conflict had a deep impact on all three of us kids, it harmed our character a great deal.
Today, I am an old guy-63 years old. But I still carry the scars of that troubled family life and I battle depression and suicidal thoughts. My Dad died 15 years ago and my Mom and only brother both passed away in February, 2017-only 2 days apart (from unrelated problems). The only family I have left is one sister who is full of rage and anger and who I have not spoken with in 15 years. Currently we are engaged in a legal fight over my Mom's estate and it is causing me a lot of anxiety and depression. You never outgrow the hurts and wants that you suffer as a child
My advice to you is to seek therapy or someone you can confide to regarding your problems. It seems your boyfriend is not that person-at least not all the time. A confidant is very necessary in our troubled lives to help 'let off steam'. I have my wife and I also see a therapist once or twice a week. And I take medication for Depression which helps to some degree.
I hope things settle down for you and you can experience some joy in your life. For most of us life has a lot of problems continually. We struggle most days just to get by and, if you suffer from anxiety or depression, it is a very tough struggle indeed! I will remember you today and try and think good thoughts for you, maybe God will hear and help ease your troubles? We shall see.
Hi the point about movies is that they aren't real and 'perfect' parents don't actually exist - they are just a Hollywood invention. No one in the history of the world ever had perfect parents or a perfect life as this is impossible with us humans and thank goodness too as life would be so boring wouldn't it.
If my aunt had balls she would be my uncle...
If you are thinking of suicide it is a red flag that you need help. Please see your doctor. I presume you are not under 16? x
Hi Ranjani - sorry to read you are suffering. Waiting for someone to change to suit us is a waste of time. We can't change them, only they can do that. Your parents are who they are, imperfect as the rest of us, and they cannot give what they don't have. This does not in any way diminish or negate how you are feeling and what caused it. Have you consulted a doctor about this? Have you had any counselling? That is the place to start.