So i was diagnosed in september'14 and im 4months pregnant going on 5. Idont want to pass it on to my daughter. Ialso have a 2year old son. Ihave been kissing him because he gives me kisses. But ihave no cold sore. Can he still get herpes like that? Im still trying to cope w this diease. My kids father cheated n of course itook him back and iregret it because what he did was give the virus to me now. Ihate him for it.
Hi which type do you have? Type 1 is possible to be passed on like that but not type 2 as far as I know? As for your baby he/ she should be fine as she will have some antibodies from you but this does wear off after she's born. You're a good mom for worrying that's Ur job x my sister has type one and never kisses her kids on the mouth during an outbreak but she does kiss them.her eldest is 15 then 11 and youngest 3. Her kids have all had loads of kisses and she's never passed it on x I have a cousin who's the same and her kids are fine too x please don't stress yourself out x you'll be fine. Ps hsv1 can be passed on through oral sex so be careful.hsv2 stays on the genitals except in extremely rare cases. I hope this has helped x if in doubt see your doctor or midwife.don't troll the internet as you hear too many horror stories .sorry about Ur ex but congrats on Ur New family and a better future x
Wow, I am so sorry to hear about you going through this. Do what you think is beat for you and your children and don't stay because yiu think no one else will ever want you, because that's not true. Did you catch this while you were pregnant or before?
Listen, most kids do get hsv 1 fairly young if their parents had it. Yes he can get it when you have no signs and symptoms, but not as likely. Maybe switch to cheek kisses? I wouldn't stress too much, as I mentioned.. Most get it as kids from this very situation.
Hi Chrissy
Sorry to hear your tale. I've had hsv2 for 5 months now and also spent my entire life in abusive relationships which involved my other halves cheating.
My ex I was with 5 years. April 2013 he cheated on me. I took him back for fear of being alone. I resented him the whole time. I hated him. I did not love him. I was with him until June 2014. I wasted over a year of my life with another man. Hating him. I hated him touching me. Sex was awful I just wanted to close my eyes.
Please don't waste your life with this man.
I met the man of my dreams in June. He opened my eyes and changed my life. He is so loving. So supportive. Makes me laugh. Tells me I am beautiful. He is incredible.
He gave me herpes. A cruel twist of fate. But we are still so in love (it was hard) and I have had to deal with severe anxiety and depression and now take meds and go to counselling which is good. I think after years of abuse my fear of rejection is incredibly high and my self confidence is none existent so getting herpes did not help.
I see now though. Everything my exes did to me was wrong. We deserve more than cheating. More than lies and abuse. Don't waste your life. We only have one shot at it. Don't spend years hating this man. I spent the past 15 years hating my partners. Hating them with burning rage. So much anger I could have avoided. Ask yourself. Can you see yourself marrying this man, spending the rest of your life with him and being happy? If the answer is no then it's not meant to be. I kept saying to myself 'oh it will get better'. It doesn't. Just when you think things are going back to ok (just ok. Not good. Just ok) he would do something disappointing, or be horrible to me blah blah. It never gets better. Men take you for granted and it is wrong. I cut him out of my life and I never looked back.
In terms of herpes and pregnancy, just before your birth (if having one naturally) the doc can put u on aciclovir for a few days to make sure u. Are outbreak free as the baby passes through your vagina making sure they don't catch it. Because you are quite new to the virus you probably won't have the antibodies yet as they take a few months to form and hence you won't have passed them on to the baby. If you are having a c section then there is no risk of catching.
If you just have genital herpes and have never had it on your face, chance of passing it on to your children is incredibly slim. Possibly be careful if you bathe with them in the future (wear bikini pants maybe? and don't do it at all if you're having an outbreak ?) but other than that I wouldn't worry. The chance of them catching it genitally from you is next to zero. If you have hsv2 then it isn't really at home on the face either.
I wouldn't worry about it. Maybe just check to see if u can have aciclovir leading up to your birth date.
And make sure you are happy. If this man does not make you happy. Then leave him. You will be a great mum on your own. You don't need him.
I found happiness finally. Every relationship I had before this I ask myself what I was doing. They were not loving or caring or supportive or fun. There will be someone out there for you who treats you like you deserve to be treated.
Good luck